Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 08:40     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Some of you people/posters are really, really, funny (gets popcorn), thank you. I love it when DCUM devolves into the Jerry Springer show it really is.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 07:03     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:
Recently my husband and I hosted a smallish (and socially distanced!) party at our home. One of the people there was an old friend of mine from grad school. He and I were romantically involved back in the day but I introduced him to my husband as a friend from university days.

A couple of days later it came out that we dated when my girlfriend brought it up thinking that my husband knew. Anyway, he got all weirded out and pissed. Like why would I bring a guy I had sex with into our home. He's still pissed. How do I soothe things over?

Either something is rocky in your marriage or your husband feels insecure in general. The first one is worth fixing. The second one is something only he can improve. Your actually trying to smooth things over just allows him to stay insecure.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 07:00     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:I would just let it go. He's acting like an idiot


Idiot or not this is a dumb thing to do. Why don’t women understand this? Men do not like this. Do not bring guys around your current DH/BF that you banged.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 05:02     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Recently my husband and I hosted a smallish (and socially distanced!) party at our home. One of the people there was an old friend of mine from grad school. He and I were romantically involved back in the day but I introduced him to my husband as a friend from university days.

A couple of days later it came out that we dated when my girlfriend brought it up thinking that my husband knew. Anyway, he got all weirded out and pissed. Like why would I bring a guy I had sex with into our home. He's still pissed. How do I soothe things over?


She knew he didn’t know. She’s trouble. And you’re not the brightest either.


Agree. OP, you invited ex stud for a reason.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 04:09     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:
Recently my husband and I hosted a smallish (and socially distanced!) party at our home. One of the people there was an old friend of mine from grad school. He and I were romantically involved back in the day but I introduced him to my husband as a friend from university days.

A couple of days later it came out that we dated when my girlfriend brought it up thinking that my husband knew. Anyway, he got all weirded out and pissed. Like why would I bring a guy I had sex with into our home. He's still pissed. How do I soothe things over?


She knew he didn’t know. She’s trouble. And you’re not the brightest either.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 00:26     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:If I were your husband I would go sleep with another woman and feel great about it when I came home. In fact, I might invite her to one of your exclusive socially distanced affairs.


Unfortunately you will never be a husband.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 00:22     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Tell your husband that he was too well endowed for you and you prefer your husbands smaller equipment. Look wistful while you are saying it
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 23:41     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You should have been upfront with him.

Yep

+2

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is immature.

Nope
disagree. OP should have been honest. Her husband being upset at the lie is reasonable. Being pissed is an overreaction. OP also indicates that DH would have been upset at ex just being at the house. Disproportionate anger and expecting spouse to not have friendships with former exes is immaturity.
Anonymous wrote:That woman is not your friend.

Yep


+2
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:55     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:You should have been upfront with him.

Yep

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is immature.

Nope

Anonymous wrote:That woman is not your friend.

Yep
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:41     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:Are we going to talk about the word "lover"? Maybe just calling him an ex would be less inflammatory.


I LOLed, may have woken a child.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:37     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:What a dumbass. You, not your husband.


The husband married her, soooo....

Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:30     Subject: Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
You should have been upfront with him.
Your husband is immature.
That woman is not your friend.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:27     Subject: Re:Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Anonymous wrote:Who says "lover" though?


Yeah, maybe you should have F-Buddy or FWB
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:26     Subject: Re:Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
Who says "lover" though?
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 22:25     Subject: Re:Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed
I am with the folks noting that her “friend” didn’t drop this causally or by mistake. She has a lock on hubby and is working her way in!