Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 19:12     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
I can't help but remember a family member who smugly proclaimed on Facebook that she wouldn't be announcing her baby's gender because q it is an antiquated social construct, but privately was livid when she had to wait an extra month to learn the sex from her OB.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 18:46     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:Enough said...
Gender reveal videos, parties, announcements, etc. are low class and tacky.



Baby showers are tacky. Wedding showers are tacky. All are gift grabs.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 18:36     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:I Only briefly scanned, figuring someone else would have posted this.

the first gender reveal was just pink/blue icing inside a cake done by a blogger about 15 years ago. With the latest controversy, Someone called her out on social media saying “you started this!!” She spoke out against GR saying It was just a cute idea at the time, and she never expected it to get “blown” up like this. Ironically enough, she said that first baby revealed back then now identifies as LGBTQ; reinforcing that the reveal is the SEX of the child, not the gender. And just sets the kid up for a lot of gender-conforming stereotypes (e.g., that penis=male-identifying) before they are even born. You don’t really know the gender until much later.

Will look for the video of the interview I saw (think it was Daily Show) and post if I find it.



This! It’s actually a sex reveal party, but we gets squeamish about using the word sex.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 17:47     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
^^

NPR is prob a more reputable source

https://www.npr.org/2019/07/28/745990073/woman-who-popularized-gender-reveal-parties-says-her-views-on-gender-have-change

Jenna Karvunidis is no stranger to this phenomenon. In fact, many credit her as the "inventor" of the gender party reveal. For her, it was through a cake.

Plot twist! The baby from the original gender reveal party is a girl who wears suits," Karvunidis says.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 17:43     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
I Only briefly scanned, figuring someone else would have posted this.

the first gender reveal was just pink/blue icing inside a cake done by a blogger about 15 years ago. With the latest controversy, Someone called her out on social media saying “you started this!!” She spoke out against GR saying It was just a cute idea at the time, and she never expected it to get “blown” up like this. Ironically enough, she said that first baby revealed back then now identifies as LGBTQ; reinforcing that the reveal is the SEX of the child, not the gender. And just sets the kid up for a lot of gender-conforming stereotypes (e.g., that penis=male-identifying) before they are even born. You don’t really know the gender until much later.

Will look for the video of the interview I saw (think it was Daily Show) and post if I find it.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 17:31     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:We did something but it was pretty private. We had the doctor/tech write down the gender in a sealed envelope. We then went to Nordstorms and picked a boy outfit and girl outfit and handed the clerk our credit card and asked them to pick the outfit to match whatever was in the envelope. We then went to dinner by ourselves and opened the gift wrapped packaged. It was a nice suprise and a fun way to pick out the first outfit.


I love that this involved a Nordie's clerk. A+!
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2020 16:20     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:Gender reveal parties sound like a marketers way to suck more cash up for gifts. The only people who care about the sex of someone’s damn child are the parents and maybe the grandparents. The rest of us don’t care except that we want you to have a healthy baby.


Isn’t this pretty much the extent of the people invited to a gender reveal party? I have never heard of one where people invited their co-workers or anything.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 21:58     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Gender reveal parties sound like a marketers way to suck more cash up for gifts. The only people who care about the sex of someone’s damn child are the parents and maybe the grandparents. The rest of us don’t care except that we want you to have a healthy baby.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 21:18     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
And they start fires.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2020 08:51     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:Wait people have a actual separate party JUST to reveal the gender?!?!? I've never actually been to one, but I have been to showers where there was a gender reveal. I assumed they all worked that way.


You don’t have showers after the first baby.

Most gender reveal parties consist of immediate family (mom, dad, older siblings), grandparents, and maybe the families of a couple of close friends who live nearby.

Getting all upset about them is ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2020 21:08     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Wait people have a actual separate party JUST to reveal the gender?!?!? I've never actually been to one, but I have been to showers where there was a gender reveal. I assumed they all worked that way.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2020 19:11     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We did something but it was pretty private. We had the doctor/tech write down the gender in a sealed envelope. We then went to Nordstorms and picked a boy outfit and girl outfit and handed the clerk our credit card and asked them to pick the outfit to match whatever was in the envelope. We then went to dinner by ourselves and opened the gift wrapped packaged. It was a nice suprise and a fun way to pick out the first outfit.


NP that's what most couples do who don't find out during the ultrasound. Something private with their partner.

My issue with gender reveals is how FAKE they are. Most of the time the mom and dad already know.


How is this any different than the ultrasound tech just saying "Hooray, its a ____!!!" DH came with me to the appointment and we went out to lunch to celebrate. I don't understand the desire for any more than this. I also don't understand waiting even one second longer than neccessary to know the sex!
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2020 09:23     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Part of the objection is because of the incredibly gendered expectations placed on someone you haven't even gotten to know. Maybe she'll be mommy's little cheerleader and wear pink and be sweet, but maybe she'll be an athlete and scientist who loves football. And maybe daddy's little linebacker will love ballet. Ultimately maybe your kids gender isn't as important as you think it is because anyone can be anything they want.


I don’t think this is the issue. It’s mostly because it’s a “look at me me me “ issue



+1. And I want gifts.


There aren’t gifts at any that I have attended. There is a meal and drinks, and then someone cuts a cake for dessert and it’s either pink or blue. Then everyone has a slice of cake, congratulates the new parents, and continues with the party.

Maybe other people are going to different kinds of parties? Because I just can’t see how this is so irritating.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2020 08:47     Subject: Re:Gender Reveals are tacky.
Anonymous wrote:We did something but it was pretty private. We had the doctor/tech write down the gender in a sealed envelope. We then went to Nordstorms and picked a boy outfit and girl outfit and handed the clerk our credit card and asked them to pick the outfit to match whatever was in the envelope. We then went to dinner by ourselves and opened the gift wrapped packaged. It was a nice suprise and a fun way to pick out the first outfit.


NP that's what most couples do who don't find out during the ultrasound. Something private with their partner.

My issue with gender reveals is how FAKE they are. Most of the time the mom and dad already know.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2020 08:41     Subject: Gender Reveals are tacky.
I think calling things other people do “tacky” is tacky.

That being said, I don’t like gender reveals. It’s just too much.