Anonymous
09/21/2020 13:07
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had sex with my now DH before the first date. 20 years and 2 kids later, we’re still going.
Please do a background check on the guy. A deep one. Found out that my ex (after our kids) has at least ten additional kids on record, prior felonies, addiction issues. Very charismatic guy on outside, lots of fiends, narcissistic sociopathic user on the inside. Hid it well due to his enabling friends, private school education, trust fund, and disability pay.
Worst mistake I ever made.
I am legitimately confused by this response. PP's husband has to be a sociopath because she slept with him on the first date, and she can't possibly have married a good guy?
Anonymous
09/21/2020 13:06
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just don’t try walking it back to “let’s go slow” because that won’t fly.
This. The cat is out of the bag...and that is fine.
Disagree if she ( or he) wants to slow things down now it's fine.
Let’s see how that works out.
A yes to sex once is not a liscense for sex every single time you meet.
If you don’t want sex most times you’re together this early into things, it’s not a great sign for a relationship.
Yes, it’s harder to see what he really wants since you’re sleeping together but that’s the hand you’ve dealt yourselves. Not the conventional advice to do that but plenty still do it and make things work. No point in dwelling on the other path or playing games now.
While it's not wrong to have sex on the first date if you want, it's not playing games to change your mind and want to slow down a bit. Just because you had pizza on your first date doesn't mean you are obligated to eat pizza every single night you go out, and doesn't mean you no longer like pizza if you suggest getting chinese insetead or decline fast food all together for an evening or two.
That’s a dumb analogy. Sex vs no sex is nothing like pizza vs Chinese food.
It makes perfect sense. You are simply immature. I shutter to think what you are teaching your teens about sex and consent.
Anonymous
09/21/2020 12:33
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had sex with my now DH before the first date. 20 years and 2 kids later, we’re still going.
Please do a background check on the guy. A deep one. Found out that my ex (after our kids) has at least ten additional kids on record, prior felonies, addiction issues. Very charismatic guy on outside, lots of fiends, narcissistic sociopathic user on the inside. Hid it well due to his enabling friends, private school education, trust fund, and disability pay.
Worst mistake I ever made.
I'm surprised in this day and age all the naive women there are. We were told to do the background before you have any type of relationship. Let alone sex. You can do a lot of it online yourself for heaven's sake. OP you really need to use better judgement especially during a pandemic, not to mention you know nothing about him or his health history. fyi Many people with Herpes won't tell others because most won't have sex with them.
This is true. The person I know who has herpes never tells because when she did, no one would stay with her. SHe's currently a couple years in with a guy she's never told, I guess he has it by now.
Anonymous
09/21/2020 12:29
Subject: Sex on the first date...
I had my wife less than three hours after meeting her on a group hiking trip. It’s been 26 years and I still can’t get enough, if the chemistry is right there’s no sense waiting or playing games, go enjoy yourself OP!
Anonymous
09/21/2020 10:19
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had sex with my now DH before the first date. 20 years and 2 kids later, we’re still going.
Please do a background check on the guy. A deep one. Found out that my ex (after our kids) has at least ten additional kids on record, prior felonies, addiction issues. Very charismatic guy on outside, lots of fiends, narcissistic sociopathic user on the inside. Hid it well due to his enabling friends, private school education, trust fund, and disability pay.
Worst mistake I ever made.
I'm surprised in this day and age all the naive women there are. We were told to do the background before you have any type of relationship. Let alone sex. You can do a lot of it online yourself for heaven's sake. OP you really need to use better judgement especially during a pandemic, not to mention you know nothing about him or his health history. fyi Many people with Herpes won't tell others because most won't have sex with them.
Anonymous
09/21/2020 09:01
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had sex with my now DH before the first date. 20 years and 2 kids later, we’re still going.
Please do a background check on the guy. A deep one. Found out that my ex (after our kids) has at least ten additional kids on record, prior felonies, addiction issues. Very charismatic guy on outside, lots of fiends, narcissistic sociopathic user on the inside. Hid it well due to his enabling friends, private school education, trust fund, and disability pay.
Worst mistake I ever made.
Np: where the hell did that response come from????
Anonymous
09/21/2020 08:50
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just don’t try walking it back to “let’s go slow” because that won’t fly.
This. The cat is out of the bag...and that is fine.
Disagree if she ( or he) wants to slow things down now it's fine.
Let’s see how that works out.
A yes to sex once is not a liscense for sex every single time you meet.
If you don’t want sex most times you’re together this early into things, it’s not a great sign for a relationship.
Yes, it’s harder to see what he really wants since you’re sleeping together but that’s the hand you’ve dealt yourselves. Not the conventional advice to do that but plenty still do it and make things work. No point in dwelling on the other path or playing games now.
While it's not wrong to have sex on the first date if you want, it's not playing games to change your mind and want to slow down a bit. Just because you had pizza on your first date doesn't mean you are obligated to eat pizza every single night you go out, and doesn't mean you no longer like pizza if you suggest getting chinese insetead or decline fast food all together for an evening or two.
That’s a dumb analogy. Sex vs no sex is nothing like pizza vs Chinese food.
Anonymous
09/21/2020 08:32
Subject: Sex on the first date...
Have the dirty sex next time. Don't hold out
Anonymous
09/21/2020 04:13
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:I had sex with my now DH before the first date. 20 years and 2 kids later, we’re still going.
Please do a background check on the guy. A deep one. Found out that my ex (after our kids) has at least ten additional kids on record, prior felonies, addiction issues. Very charismatic guy on outside, lots of fiends, narcissistic sociopathic user on the inside. Hid it well due to his enabling friends, private school education, trust fund, and disability pay.
Worst mistake I ever made.
Anonymous
09/21/2020 01:46
Subject: Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:He wants more sex... that’s why he’s reaching out.
It depends on how desirable the woman is. If she’s truly hot and has a decent personality, then the man is likely as not interested in a relationship.
Anonymous
09/21/2020 00:36
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just don’t try walking it back to “let’s go slow” because that won’t fly.
This. The cat is out of the bag...and that is fine.
Disagree if she ( or he) wants to slow things down now it's fine.
Let’s see how that works out.
A yes to sex once is not a liscense for sex every single time you meet.
If you don’t want sex most times you’re together this early into things, it’s not a great sign for a relationship.
Yes, it’s harder to see what he really wants since you’re sleeping together but that’s the hand you’ve dealt yourselves. Not the conventional advice to do that but plenty still do it and make things work. No point in dwelling on the other path or playing games now.
While it's not wrong to have sex on the first date if you want, it's not playing games to change your mind and want to slow down a bit. Just because you had pizza on your first date doesn't mean you are obligated to eat pizza every single night you go out, and doesn't mean you no longer like pizza if you suggest getting chinese insetead or decline fast food all together for an evening or two.
Anonymous
09/20/2020 23:29
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Don’t stress about it. Keep in mind he also had sex on the first date.
Anonymous
09/20/2020 22:45
Subject: Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Decline getting together tonight and opt for getting together tomorrow—somewhere outside and during the day. No alcohol.
Huh? Why. The sex was good so why not do it again. Or, if you don't want to have sex again, you don't need to create a "no sex" environment. Just don't have sex.
Anonymous
09/20/2020 15:54
Subject: Sex on the first date...
I am tired of the "if she wants to wait her sex drive isn't high" nonsense. I love sex, but I am not doing it with strangers, hot or otherwise.
Anonymous
09/20/2020 14:01
Subject: Re:Sex on the first date...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just don’t try walking it back to “let’s go slow” because that won’t fly.
This. The cat is out of the bag...and that is fine.
Disagree if she ( or he) wants to slow things down now it's fine.
Let’s see how that works out.
A yes to sex once is not a liscense for sex every single time you meet.
If you don’t want sex most times you’re together this early into things, it’s not a great sign for a relationship.
Yes, it’s harder to see what he really wants since you’re sleeping together but that’s the hand you’ve dealt yourselves. Not the conventional advice to do that but plenty still do it and make things work. No point in dwelling on the other path or playing games now.