Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:95% of people don’t know Amherst or Williams, let alone “mid tier” so who cares? (Yes, I know people in DC do, but I’m talking about the real world).
People who matter probably do know of these schools.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid goes to a top SLAC that most people in everyday encounters haven’t heard of. Whether people have heard of it or not is turning out to be a real social indicator. It’s actually quite fascinating from a sociological perspective.
I, on the other hand, had to google the term “Division 1” a few years back to understand why some neighbors were excited about their kid being recruited by “Division 1” schools.
+1
Most people ar polite. Some are crass and tactless, and your discussion goes like this:
Them: Where is Larla applying for college?
Me: she’s interested in schools like Bowden, Bates, Middlebury, Colby
Them (sneering): What are those?
Me: small liberal arts schools in the NE
Them.. Never heard of them. Why is she applying places in the middle of nowhere that no one has ever heard of? I thought your DD was doing well enough to apply EA for UVA or WM. She should do EA for UVA. My kid did EA for UVA. What Larla’s GPA? Above or below 4.2? SATs? At least 1500? ...
(By this point, the mother has moved to full blown superiority/ “I’m sorry your child has let you down. Her failure to apply for and get into UVA has brought dishonor on your family” mode)
Meanwhile, all she has shown is she doesn’t know what Bowdoi is.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My kid goes to a top SLAC that most people in everyday encounters haven’t heard of. Whether people have heard of it or not is turning out to be a real social indicator. It’s actually quite fascinating from a sociological perspective.
I, on the other hand, had to google the term “Division 1” a few years back to understand why some neighbors were excited about their kid being recruited by “Division 1” schools.
+1
Most people ar polite. Some are crass and tactless, and your discussion goes like this:
Them: Where is Larla applying for college?
Me: she’s interested in schools like Bowden, Bates, Middlebury, Colby
Them (sneering): What are those?
Me: small liberal arts schools in the NE
Them.. Never heard of them. Why is she applying places in the middle of nowhere that no one has ever heard of? I thought your DD was doing well enough to apply EA for UVA or WM. She should do EA for UVA. My kid did EA for UVA. What Larla’s GPA? Above or below 4.2? SATs? At least 1500? ...
(By this point, the mother has moved to full blown superiority/ “I’m sorry your child has let you down. Her failure to apply for and get into UVA has brought dishonor on your family” mode)
Meanwhile, all she has shown is she doesn’t know what Bowdoi is.
Anonymous wrote:My kid goes to a top SLAC that most people in everyday encounters haven’t heard of. Whether people have heard of it or not is turning out to be a real social indicator. It’s actually quite fascinating from a sociological perspective.
I, on the other hand, had to google the term “Division 1” a few years back to understand why some neighbors were excited about their kid being recruited by “Division 1” schools.
Anonymous wrote:95% of people don’t know Amherst or Williams, let alone “mid tier” so who cares? (Yes, I know people in DC do, but I’m talking about the real world).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oooh, just this week, I had a resume from a Swarthmore student who listed Swarthmore’s USNews rank on his/her resume. I snickered.
Oh yikes that’s kinda cringey
That would go into the bin if I was doing the hiring.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oooh, just this week, I had a resume from a Swarthmore student who listed Swarthmore’s USNews rank on his/her resume. I snickered.
Oh yikes that’s kinda cringey
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just about ALL LACs lack general name recognition -- even the "top" ones.
Who cares. That is not why most people pick their school, I would hope.
Anonymous wrote:My kid is at Oberlin. And among the DMV UMC in my neighborhood and other kid’s school, 40% have never heard of it and another 40% have, but have no idea where it is. Maybe 20% of people could get to “small college in Ohio, known for music and science” on their own. So now, when Certain people ask, I’ll often just say they’re “at Oberlin, a small college near Cleveland”.
Life’s too short for me to GAF what my random neighbor with preschool aged kids thinks about my kid”s college choice. The people who need to know know (like grad school admissions). I have a neighbor with a daughter at Haverford. They don’tfcorrect their relatives who think it’s Harvard.
We have a lot of first gen Asian parents in our neighborhood or school. I think that’s parent of it. I have definitely dealt with some “I’m sorry your child failed at life” attitudes— especially among 1st gen Asian parents do toddlers.
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