It's rude-- yes, he's a grown up but rejecting the food that someone prepared for you is rude and discourteous.

If it's not okay for kids to act this way, it's not okay for adults to do it either. It sets a poor example of good manners.

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Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

This seems a bit much. He is cooking what he wants to eat not asking his wife to do it.

Yes, he’s cooking what he wants FOR HIMSELF. He’s offering the kids a little bit, but there’s no way he’s shopping and cooking for the entire family every week and being so picky. I think people who are rude enough to reject a meal that someone cooked for them can take over the cooking for a month and see how time consuming it is to do so. Just like the parents who don’t have to do all the rushing around to get kids ready for school in the morning or do the school-soccer-homework shuffle because they work late. They don’t GET it that it doesn’t happen easily because it’s easy, it’s because someone else is working hard to make it happen.

If he is contributing to the food budget then you're the one who is being "rude" and inconsiderate in not considering his preferences.

Anonymous wrote:Ideas? Are you kidding me! How is this a problem????!!
My idea is to let him cook dinner for the family half the nights (you can eat something else on his night if you don't like it) and on your nights, who cares what he eats; he's a grown man.

This. Also OP meat, potatoes, vegetable and a salad are not unhealthy. They may not be what you want but you can always eat something else.

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Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

This seems a bit much. He is cooking what he wants to eat not asking his wife to do it.

Yes, he’s cooking what he wants FOR HIMSELF. He’s offering the kids a little bit, but there’s no way he’s shopping and cooking for the entire family every week and being so picky. I think people who are rude enough to reject a meal that someone cooked for them can take over the cooking for a month and see how time consuming it is to do so. Just like the parents who don’t have to do all the rushing around to get kids ready for school in the morning or do the school-soccer-homework shuffle because they work late. They don’t GET it that it doesn’t happen easily because it’s easy, it’s because someone else is working hard to make it happen.

What does he eat for lunch?

Is he anemic? He has to do some bloodwork.
When I'm anemic all I want to eat is red meat (also lentils and chocolate).

Perhaps you can cook a nice stew with red wine sauce and bouillon and large chunks of tender beef. Potatoes, carrots, a little celery. It will be yummy and in the same flavor zone. Then branch out. Perhaps a curry with red meat. Or coucous with red meat. Then try sausages.

You see my drift. Use the picky toddler playbook.

Anonymous wrote:That was my father growing up. This was our weekly menu:

Sunday: Pot roast, potatoes, carrots
Monday: Chicken fried steak, potatoes, broccoli, mac n cheese
Tuesday: T-bone Steak, potatoes, asparagus
Wed: meatloaf, mashed potatoes, salad
Thursday: Tri-Tip,
Friday: (My favorite day of the week)- Pizza or cold cereal because my mom insisted on at least one day off from cooking a week)
Saturday: Ate out, my dad grilled more beef, or my mom made beef stew

My dad is 85 and still eating beef every night- no chicken, no fish, no pork.

This is pretty much how my dad ate, with a little chicken, catfish, and beef enchilades thrown in. He played golf 2x a week and mowed his own lawn until he was 89 years old!

Anonymous wrote:I am at my wit's end. My husband's palate is growing more pathetic with age. Every night, he wants steak, baked potato, and some kind of steamed vegetable. EVERY NIGHT.
When I make something else (something healthy! flavorful! with different iingredients!), he goes outside and grills a hunk of meat and brings it in to eat instead of my meal.
Or else he fries it and makes the whole kitchen stink of greasy meat.
Now he's beginning to offer our kids his meal instead of "mine."
I'm ready to clobber him.
Ideas?

As long as you don't have to cook two meals, who cares? Kids won't want to eat that every night. So make what you and the kids like.

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Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

This seems a bit much. He is cooking what he wants to eat not asking his wife to do it.

Yes, and now his wife will cook her separate meal and he can cook for the family! (After all, if it’s okay for him to do this, he should have no problem with her doing it right?) Everyone wins!

Sounds like my husband. Trick is to make it 2-3 times a week. Then tell him yup that's tomorrow - tonight is xxx

I love steak and potatoes, but I would not want to eat it every night. He's being a big baby. Tell him that it does not feel good to cook when others are openly disdaining the meal you made, so from now on he can plan and cook half the meals. Put it on the calendar. And don't do anything on the days he's scheduled to cook. Nothing. If the kids say they are hungry, tell them to ask Daddy when dinner is.

I try to plan meals that take my family members' tastes and preferences into account. There are some meals that I eat more than I would otherwise because they are someone's favorites, and I don't make things I don't think they will like. But I expect to be treated with respect, and my feeling is that if you don't like my cooking, you are more than welcome to take over the meal planning and preparation.

Split the nights. Vary the meat. Make a salad some nights.

This is not a real problem.

Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

This seems a bit much. He is cooking what he wants to eat not asking his wife to do it.

He must make some raunchy shits if this is all he eats.

This would hurt my feelings but ultimately I would let it go.