Anonymous
Post 09/12/2020 10:01     Subject: Re:What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
That he serially cheated on me, is emotionally abusive behind closed doors and has a drinking problem.
Anonymous
Post 09/12/2020 07:41     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:I don't hide it now, but when we were first married I didn't know how to fight properly and was very passive aggressive.

Some of you may recall that I am the person who bedazzled the pockets and fly on DH's favorite jeans when I got angry at him.

Now that I have grown up (and we've gone to counseling and I learned how to productively argue) and a lot of time has passed, we can both laugh about it.


I don’t know, I think your initial way of handling it was pretty good.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 19:58     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am as dysfunctional as fuk.


We know. You’re not very good at hiding that.


I actually feel called out. Can you really tell what a mess I am?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 19:53     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
swingers and hotwifing.

Family, nice house, stay at home mom with the kids, very close with spouse, and appear very normal from the outside!
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 19:31     Subject: Re:What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
We have different rooms. We visit each other at night for sex. The reason for different rooms is - different sleep schedules, temperature preference, light preference, tidiness, bed hardness and morning noisiness. We have sex around 3 -4 times a week. Actually, being in bed together for even a nap means that we will have sex - its our Pavlovian response.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 19:13     Subject: Re:What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
We don't share a bedroom during the week.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:58     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have not had sex in 5 years

Welcome to the club.


+1

And lots of farting
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:56     Subject: Re:What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husbands diagnosed mental illness.


+1 he can’t hide it w friends or extended family when when all vacation. He tries to by “doing more office work” but that looks ridiculous and all his disappearing does too. It’s his parents family secret- most people on the paternal side have it and they hide it (via never doing new things or spending elongated time with others) and never talk about it. Ironically MIl keeps asking how the kids are doing w school, friends or talking as she tries to determine if it passes to girls... (it did to one).


What's the mental illness?


PP here - OCD. It’s changed our life but he’s not comfortable discussing it so I don’t disclose to others either. It’s isolating in some ways.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:54     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
the farting. So much farting. From both of us....
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:50     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:We have not had sex in 5 years

Welcome to the club.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:48     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Next to no sex.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:06     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Our bedroom activities. People would be shocked if they knew.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:03     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:On the outside, it looks like a functional, loving marriage; but the reality is that it's sexless.


BTDT, got the t-shirt, and burned it with the flame of our marital communion candle. I truly hope things get better for you two. It is a unique and isolating pain.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:01     Subject: What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:I am as dysfunctional as fuk.


We know. You’re not very good at hiding that.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2020 18:00     Subject: Re:What ugly things do you hide about your marriage?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are some aspects of our sex life that others would find ugly but work well for us.


Ugly? That is a strong word. Are these aspects of your sex life legal?


Omg, why jump to the worst conclusions? He probably just likes being led around on a leash or she likes being spanked until she’s bruised, or something.


Or Ghislaine Maxwell could be posting from jail. You never know.