Anonymous
08/27/2020 23:16
Subject: Re:Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:If it’s two boys this will be the hardest thing you ever do period.
Thank you for saying this. I feel so seen and validated right now!! I’m a Pp with boys ages 2 and 4 and I am drowning.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 23:07
Subject: Two under 2
Mine have a bigger gap -- 28 months -- and it only got easier after 3.5. Youngest doesn't turn 4 until the end of the year so we are still dealing with 3YO BS.
It really depends on your kids' temperaments. My DC1 is an awesome kid but was exhausting as a baby and toddler -- he is a real go-getter, as my boss likes to call him, and just is constantly busy.
It really depends on your kids' temperaments. My DC1 is an awesome kid but was exhausting as a baby and toddler -- he is a real go-getter, as my boss likes to call him, and just is constantly busy.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 22:51
Subject: Re:Two under 2
If it’s two boys this will be the hardest thing you ever do period.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 21:52
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:4 under 4 poster here— wait until they are teens. Then you will wish for the baby/toddler years. Sorry!
Mine are 20 months apart and I will not lie, it was really really hard-every aspect of life was stressed-marriage, self care, no sleep, 2 little ones to keep alive, home-cleaning, etc.. I think I had posted something to this forum during those times and someone said something encouraging to the effect of, "just think soon you will have your coffee in hand and your 2 little ones will be playing together off on a playground and you will have a break." I now know that she was just trying to be encouraging. It gets "easier" and they do play a lot together now but there are always challenges with every stage and season of life. However, YES, it is really really hard but because the spacing is so close they are close!
Anonymous
08/27/2020 21:30
Subject: Re:Two under 2
I had a full time nanny and worked full time. So it wasn't awful. Once everyone is toilet trained, life is glorious.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 21:29
Subject: Two under 2
OP I had my 2nd when my 1st was 15 months old. There were a lot of benefits. You kind of have to treat them like twins in some ways, in terms of timing - bath and bed time and meal times (obviously newborns have their own schedule for a while). I found it helped to get my 1st to learn to crawl / walk up the stairs so that I could carry my 2nd after she was born. Small things like that which are practical, help a lot in the long term.
Also I had them sharing a room for longer than expected. I tried separating at 2/3 but the 2 yr old didn't like it so they went back into a shared room until 7/8
Also I had them sharing a room for longer than expected. I tried separating at 2/3 but the 2 yr old didn't like it so they went back into a shared room until 7/8
Anonymous
08/27/2020 18:57
Subject: Re:Two under 2
Mine are 20 months apart.
The first 6 months are a blur then it will get progressively better until one day, it’ll be awesome. For me, it happened when my youngest was about 2.5. Now they are best friends and play together so well. Just take it day by day, get as much help as you can, and take lots pictures if those cute, exhausting early months. Congrats!
My experience too with boys 21 months apart. First 6 months were a blur but it’s been great since then and at 9 and 11 they are very very close. Luckily they’ve always gotten along well, though if they hadn’t, I might be singing a different tune!
Anonymous
08/27/2020 18:50
Subject: Re:Two under 2
I wouldn’t fear the first year of the baby’s life, fear the second. Holy moly are we tired and overwhelmed. 3 and 1 and 2 and 4 is a brutal combination. I am so tired. So so so so so tired. The first year was nothing compared to now.
-mom of 4 year old and almost 2 year old
-mom of 4 year old and almost 2 year old
Anonymous
08/27/2020 18:28
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 18 months apart. Extremely difficult for two years but now that they're 5 and 6, it's so easy. They entertain each other and aside from the occasional fight, they really are best friends.
This. My 22 month age gap has made Rona exponentially easier - i don't know what my 4 and 6 year old even do all day, but they do it together.
I can’t take anyone seriously who uses to word “Rona.” Are you 17?
Not that PP but do you literally not have any friends at all? Everyone says Rona. The doctor/lawyer couple next door to me have masks that say “not today Rona”. The crazy sh** some of you absolute losers choose to get all huffy about, i swear to god!
I only know of one person who uses ‘Rona and it lines up with my previous impression of her intelligence.
Well that lines up with my previous guess about how many friends you have.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 15:12
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Mine are 15 months apart and I love it, and they're 19 months and 4 months currently so I'm still in the trenches.
Hard parts:
-physical logistics. If we are downstairs and I need to take one upstairs for a diaper change we all need to go, so I either carry both (hard) or make two trips
-when they're both crying and need me at the same time, it kills me to have to prioritize one over the other
-I do feel like I'm missing out on certain parts of their babyhood because I'm focused on two at once
-DIAPERS
Tips:
-fully baby/toddler proof your house so you're comfortable leaving one alone for a bit to attend to the other
-more than once diaper changing station
-potty train the older one as soon as you can
-wear the baby as much as possible
-get them on the same bedtime routine early
my older one was in the midst of potty training and was having poop issues (terrified to poop on potty, holding it in until he couldn’t) and my youngest was nursing - he had a bunch of false alarms and I kept having to set her down to take him to potty and boy was she pissed to be interrupted while feeding and then he wouldn’t want to go, finally he pooped in his underwear, I got him cleaned up, then he went again As he’d been holding it for days! Meanwhile baby is screaming head off, and I’m got two gross underwear And a little potty chair full of smeared poop. Ugh. The worst.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 13:16
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 18 months apart. Extremely difficult for two years but now that they're 5 and 6, it's so easy. They entertain each other and aside from the occasional fight, they really are best friends.
This. My 22 month age gap has made Rona exponentially easier - i don't know what my 4 and 6 year old even do all day, but they do it together.
I can’t take anyone seriously who uses to word “Rona.” Are you 17?
Not that PP but do you literally not have any friends at all? Everyone says Rona. The doctor/lawyer couple next door to me have masks that say “not today Rona”. The crazy sh** some of you absolute losers choose to get all huffy about, i swear to god!
I only know of one person who uses ‘Rona and it lines up with my previous impression of her intelligence.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 09:22
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 18 months apart. Extremely difficult for two years but now that they're 5 and 6, it's so easy. They entertain each other and aside from the occasional fight, they really are best friends.
This. My 22 month age gap has made Rona exponentially easier - i don't know what my 4 and 6 year old even do all day, but they do it together.
I can’t take anyone seriously who uses to word “Rona.” Are you 17?
Not that PP but do you literally not have any friends at all? Everyone says Rona. The doctor/lawyer couple next door to me have masks that say “not today Rona”. The crazy sh** some of you absolute losers choose to get all huffy about, i swear to god!
I'm 40 and make almost 200k. I text like a teenager. Get at me dawg.
Anonymous
08/27/2020 09:11
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 18 months apart. Extremely difficult for two years but now that they're 5 and 6, it's so easy. They entertain each other and aside from the occasional fight, they really are best friends.
This. My 22 month age gap has made Rona exponentially easier - i don't know what my 4 and 6 year old even do all day, but they do it together.
I can’t take anyone seriously who uses to word “Rona.” Are you 17?
Not that PP but do you literally not have any friends at all? Everyone says Rona. The doctor/lawyer couple next door to me have masks that say “not today Rona”. The crazy sh** some of you absolute losers choose to get all huffy about, i swear to god!
Anonymous
08/27/2020 09:02
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 18 months apart. Extremely difficult for two years but now that they're 5 and 6, it's so easy. They entertain each other and aside from the occasional fight, they really are best friends.
This. My 22 month age gap has made Rona exponentially easier - i don't know what my 4 and 6 year old even do all day, but they do it together.
I can’t take anyone seriously who uses to word “Rona.” Are you 17?
Anonymous
08/27/2020 08:36
Subject: Two under 2
Anonymous wrote:Mine are 18 months apart. Extremely difficult for two years but now that they're 5 and 6, it's so easy. They entertain each other and aside from the occasional fight, they really are best friends.
This. My 22 month age gap has made Rona exponentially easier - i don't know what my 4 and 6 year old even do all day, but they do it together.