Aside from the fact that no one is admitted to the hospital for that long these days, there is 0% chance he didn't have his phone on him. ZERO. Zilch. Nada.

If you are going to proceed (I think this is pathetic and you will regret it) do so with major caution. I suspect he's involved with someone else.

Op ignore all these posters. I am happily in a relationship with someone that everyone on here advised me to move on from when we started dating. I listened to my gut and all is well. Dcum is helpful for some things but not for dating advice.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We hung out this weekend ( no sex) and he isn’t lying. He showed me his scar, his medications, and the hospital paperwork.

He has my number saved in his phone but he didn’t have his phone with him. He didn’t remember my number by heart and that’s why he didn’t contact me.

It’s been three dates. He doesn’t owe me anything.

So you easily toss your a$$ around to guys and it means nothing? Why did you start this thread, then? Methinks you're trying too hard to be a "cool girl".

OP here. We hung out this weekend ( no sex) and he isn’t lying. He showed me his scar, his medications, and the hospital paperwork.

He has my number saved in his phone but he didn’t have his phone with him. He didn’t remember my number by heart and that’s why he didn’t contact me.

It’s been three dates. He doesn’t owe me anything.

Anonymous wrote:You are a low class gal....sex after only 3 dates? He figured you out.

Most have sex by the third date.

Troll

Anonymous wrote:Why would he go through all the trouble to make up such an involved lie for someone he went on three dates with, then ghosted, then decided to see again? Unless he’s bats**t crazy, there’s a decent chance he’s telling the truth. I think it’s okay to see him again - just proceed with caution (in case he IS nuts).

Nope! He is batshit crazy. Avoid OP!

I think a week going by -when he was in the hospital- without contacting you is ok. You aren't a couple. You two aren't real close (despite the sex). A week, I wouldn't expect him to get in touch if the hospital story were true. Two weeks, that's a different story.

Op, he may not have wanted to move the relationship so fast to the next level, in his mind, of you coming to the hospital, or you coming over to take care of him. He might have been scared for his own health but not ready to share that with you.

But again, if it's been 2 weeks, I'd say, he's lying.

OP, you can be cautious going forward. No need to proclaim him a liar.

You are a low class gal....sex after only 3 dates? He figured you out.

I would definitely see him again but not have sex with him. You can always use his "appendicitis" as an excuse: "I think you should probably take it easy for the next couple of weeks. I worry that I could hurt you, and I would feel terrible." If he's truly interested, he won't mind.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I heard from him again. He said he started feeling really sick the morning after I left and ended up in the hospital with appendicitis. He had an infection and he was in the hospital until this morning. He never brought his phone and when it was brought to him and couldn’t remember my number to text me or call me. I believe him because he screenshot me proof of paperwork. He wants to see me again if I’m still interested. What should I do?

His phone was brought to him but he couldn’t remember your number to call or text.

How did he contact you before his appendicitis?

How did he contact you when he did?

(He didn’t want to talk to you. He always could have.)

OP here. Typo. He didn’t have his phone brought to him. I don’t remember phone numbers I put in my phone off of the top of my head. I don’t know his number either unless I look in my phone. It’s not like we have been dating 3 months or 3 years. It’s only been 3 dates. I wouldn’t expect him to know my number by heart at this point.

So you banged but didn’t make the cut to be saved as a name in his phone? Or he couldn’t figure out which old text was yours by looking at the conversation or he deleted them all? How does he pay his bill? I mean I can delete everything and go look at my online bill history for a number. Sounds like BS

Op did he have surgery?

Why would he go through all the trouble to make up such an involved lie for someone he went on three dates with, then ghosted, then decided to see again? Unless he’s bats**t crazy, there’s a decent chance he’s telling the truth. I think it’s okay to see him again - just proceed with caution (in case he IS nuts).

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Anonymous wrote:Warning--remember how you feel RIGHT NOW after you've been ghosted after being intimate with him.

Because he may well get back in touch with you, have a lame excuse, and seem very interested again suddenly. This happens with men who have avoidant attachment styles. When he gets horny or lonely again, or gets over his fears, he will come back in force and seem excited and you'll feel that connection. Then when he gets what he wants again, or it's too much for him, he'll run away again.

So if he gets in touch, ignore and move on.

This is what is happening, OP. Verbatim. Let him heal from his appendicitis that made him unable to contact you for several days....and move on.

So, I'm the person who posted the warning above that's being quoted.

It is possible that this is the exceptional case of a real emergency. If you see paperwork to that effect, I'd give him another chance if you liked him. After 3 dates, what is the guy going to do (assuming his story is real). Now it's trust but verify time--and see him, IF it's what you want.

It's possible. It's also possible he was with his wife during that time, and he did not have access to his phone, and couldn't text OP.