Anonymous
08/15/2020 07:09
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:I'm completely frustrated that my rising junior is going to have a totally subpar HS education, but I really couldn't care less about the social stuff. Mine maybe an outlier, but he spends tons of time with his friends online and on the phone now.
I feel badly for college kids (and their parents) -- because part of what you're paying for with college is the experience of living with a bunch of other same-aged people and having a lot of time to learn from them and make stupid mistakes and generally grow up. Paying almost full freight for a DL college experience (or worse, the tormented in-person experience with a million restrictions and terrified faculty) would be awful. But I can't imagine being distraught because my kid isn't going to go to a homecoming dance. Ridiculous.
Remember parents allow their kids to go to the $60-80k/yr colleges. It’s a choice. Remember kids who are doing college virtually from home aren’t paying room and board. Living in an apt near campus is a choice. I’ve said this elsewhere but I have no problem saying no to my kids, ever. I’ve been doing it since they started asking for souvenirs at the amusement park!
Anonymous
08/15/2020 07:05
Subject: Re:I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.
It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.
NP here. DD just graduated hs. Her experience was the exact opposite of yours. She had about 4 friends and had to schedule any hangout days in advance. She did not have a car. I’m glad she didn’t peak in hs.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 06:54
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD's senior year in HS almost killed her, literally. HS bites.
Obviously not everyone enjoys HS, but most people enjoy their youth and look back fondly on it.
No most. Some. Others look back in horror. MOST are indifferent.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 06:52
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous
08/15/2020 06:49
Subject: Re:I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.
It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.
Guess what? Childhood is over. Damn pandemic.
Being all morose about it is pointless. Suck it up, buttercup.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 06:47
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
I'm completely frustrated that my rising junior is going to have a totally subpar HS education, but I really couldn't care less about the social stuff. Mine maybe an outlier, but he spends tons of time with his friends online and on the phone now.
I feel badly for college kids (and their parents) -- because part of what you're paying for with college is the experience of living with a bunch of other same-aged people and having a lot of time to learn from them and make stupid mistakes and generally grow up. Paying almost full freight for a DL college experience (or worse, the tormented in-person experience with a million restrictions and terrified faculty) would be awful. But I can't imagine being distraught because my kid isn't going to go to a homecoming dance. Ridiculous.
I feel badly for college kids (and their parents) -- because part of what you're paying for with college is the experience of living with a bunch of other same-aged people and having a lot of time to learn from them and make stupid mistakes and generally grow up. Paying almost full freight for a DL college experience (or worse, the tormented in-person experience with a million restrictions and terrified faculty) would be awful. But I can't imagine being distraught because my kid isn't going to go to a homecoming dance. Ridiculous.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 06:34
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
I think you should stop whining and enjoy this time with her. You will probably never spend as much time with her as you do now. Shoot, from how you are acting she is going to apply to college in California or Canada to be far away from you.
No one cares about high school except for people who did nothing else. Yes I had good high school years but it wasn't my life. You should be more worried that she does well in Calc and is ready emotionally for college.
No one cares about high school except for people who did nothing else. Yes I had good high school years but it wasn't my life. You should be more worried that she does well in Calc and is ready emotionally for college.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 06:08
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
not trueAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:- " These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! "
You wrote that, OP. I can't believe you did. Makes you look so stupid and shallow.
To many people, high school isn't anything special compared to other experiences. You are very wrong to believe that senior year of high school is the be-all, end-all.
If you peaked as a senior in high school, and lived your best life then... I mean, you agree that it's sad, and a reflection on you, right?
All stages of life have fun and memorable experiences. Please don't stuff your senior's head full of regret and disappointment. Work on yourself. You sorely need it.
Oh get over yourself. You know very well that the vast majority of people see the late teens early 20’s as an extremely fun time in life.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 00:12
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Most people who are more successful don't care that much about their high school experience after they graduate. It's not really that important.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 00:10
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:DD is a rising senior in a district that is going 100% virtual. I think it’s quite likely it will remain virtual all year. So DD will have missed the last quarter of her junior year and her entire senior year - the most significant parts of HS. If this happened at 32, it would be no biggie. But Junior and Senior years of HS! These are some of the most fun and memory making years in life! Yes, I realize that people have gone through worse, but still. My heart is just so heavy that she will be missing out on a very significant time of life.
OP, you moping around and being dramatic isn't helping your kid. This will pass and your kid will have a ton of experiences in the coming years. If you think HS is some of the most fun and memory making years in life, then I feel sorry for you. That only applies to mean girls and HS athletes who never did anything else afterwards.
Anonymous
08/15/2020 00:03
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
This isn’t YOUR experience, OP. This is your KID’S experience. It won’t be better or worse, just different. Stop projecting all this gloom on her.
Anonymous
08/14/2020 23:51
Subject: Re:I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.
It’s not specifically about graduation or prom, it’s about the entire social scene. About being young, and goofy and have a blast hanging out with your friends at the drop of a hat. For example. I’ve had lots of great vacations in my life, but none hold a candle to the insane spring break I had in college. I hate the idea of my daughter missing out on some of these experiences.
Anonymous
08/14/2020 23:44
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh FFS the school year hasn’t even started and we’ve got this going on already. I can’t even begin to imagine the nonsense these moms are going to drum up with the signs and parades to somehow make up for what the kids have missed. It is what it is. Everyone is getting screwed. You set the tone. You can teach your kid to wallow in self pity or you can help them
Dig deep and learn how to make the best of a bad situation. It’s all up to you.
What makes this uniquely hard is that many of us believe they should be in school. It’s not like the school burned down snd they literally can’t go. This is all based on someone’s “best guess” decision. And many of us believe it is wrong.
Of course it is a best guess because this is a novel coronavirus, novel means new. When you are playing with a highly contagious global virus anyone with any sense would err on the side of caution. I might also add that the people making these decisions are qualified physicians, researchers and public health professionals not a bunch of moms who are sad that Larla will miss Homecoming. People are dying and scores of others are having long term physiological effects or did you mais that part.
Anonymous
08/14/2020 23:43
Subject: Re:I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
At no time in my life did I think that high school graduation was significant. I have an IB diploma, 2 bachelors degrees, a masters and PhD.
Anonymous
08/14/2020 23:40
Subject: I’m so, so sad that DD will be missing one of the most significant parts of life
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh FFS the school year hasn’t even started and we’ve got this going on already. I can’t even begin to imagine the nonsense these moms are going to drum up with the signs and parades to somehow make up for what the kids have missed. It is what it is. Everyone is getting screwed. You set the tone. You can teach your kid to wallow in self pity or you can help them
Dig deep and learn how to make the best of a bad situation. It’s all up to you.
What makes this uniquely hard is that many of us believe they should be in school. It’s not like the school burned down snd they literally can’t go. This is all based on someone’s “best guess” decision. And many of us believe it is wrong.
+1000. It all seems so ridiculously unnecessary.
This pandemic is so dumb!