Anonymous
Post 08/16/2020 10:51     Subject: How to find humor in a crappy childhood?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's not funny. Watch The King of Comedy if you want to see how not funny it is.

A therapist is a good person to unload onto, OP.


I had one therapist I told. He charged $250 a session, so I stopped after 2 sessions. He was the first human I talked to about it. Ever. But it allowed me to be able to tell my now DH and allowed me to bring it up with my sibling and talk about it.

I guess I just feel like it would be nice if I had at least a couple friends that knew as well - maybe not the entire saga, but just the extent of it.



Be careful with whom you share. I have two lifelong friends who know my background and are there for me. However, I tried to share snippets with new friends I made when I moved to maryland. Unfortunately, I felt judged by even the tiniest bit of information I shared. It’s made me realize that they’re not friends. Now our conversations are superficial.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2020 08:48     Subject: How to find humor in a crappy childhood?
You don’t need to be especially humorous. You can be serious but with editing you will not be “wallowing,” if that makes sense. Framing it as a contrast to your life now and your own parenting style now may help.

I’m sorry to you and other PP who had such a tough time of it. Are you still involved with your parents now?
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2020 18:38     Subject: How to find humor in a crappy childhood?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good lord almighty! Grow up. Very few of us had wonderful childhoods. I had an older sister who hated me and blamed me for our mother's death and she used to beat me all the time.

Holding grudges only hurt me so I forgave her and got her out of my life. Again, GROW UP!


NP here, and I'm sorry you had a difficult sister. I don't see how this post is responsive to the OP. The OP asks for guidance on how to talk about family in ways that don't bring people down. Reading what you wrote sort of brought me down. I think your post would have that effect on many people. Not to criticize you for that! - It sounds like you have a really difficult family relationship and it's understandable how angry and unhappy you feel about it.


Stop your sappy patronizing I am not angry. Once I was grown I understood that forgiving her was a gift to myself. I forgave her and got on with my life. I rarely see her but I am close to her daughter. I am just sick of people who dwell on their unhapppy childhoods. Adults move on.


Yes, adults work through their feelings so they can move on. You haven't gotten there yet. You're still angry, haven't forgiven your sister, and are expressing your aggressive feelings through these posts.