I am an only child.

I used to like BIL until he got too big for his britches. He thinks he’s above everyone else.

He’s engaged to a former “dancer” who is 10 years younger than him and already has children.

I have zero in common with her.

Anonymous wrote:BIL yes, SIL, no. She very “enlightened” and has to constantly educate us dummies.

Mine too. She’s just painful. Not sure my husband likes her all that much. Thank God they live in AZ.

I would have but I was a different ethnic background to the family so SIL avoided me and never wanted to know me. I was told I was the minority in the family and pretty much treated like crap. (I'm Caucasian, they are Middle Eastern).

So I don't really have a relationship with any of them now but they also don't have a relationship with each other, their nastiness has eroded the whole family.

I find one of my SIL's kinda frustrating to deal with as family but I think she would be fun as a friend.

Two of them, no way in hell.

My one brother’s wife has pulled so much crap over the years that I’m done. She’s shown her true colors. Fortunately they don’t live close and there’s generally no reason for us to interact.

DH’s brother is a total buffoon.

My younger brother’s wife is awesome. .

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my ILs (one SIL and one BIL - absolutely! I would be friends with them if they weren’t connected.

The other BIL - no. No, there’s no way. No.

So the BIL you like is married to your sister? Isn’t it weird that you like him so much?

Np. Why is that weird? What are you getting at? My sister’s husband is great!

That you’d be friends with your sister’s husband even without your sister.

Uh...we don’t braid each other’s hair, but yes, plenty of us like our BIL’s, sometimes as much as or even more than our own sisters. Why is that weird? I have almost an equal mix of girl and guy friends.

My husband grew up in a home where the parents kind of pitted the kids against one another and as a result the kids are competitive, and I think they've passed some of that on to their spouses. Also, everyone is weird secretive about things like money, real estate (these are wealthy people), kid's college, etc.
Under those circumstances it would be hard to befriend my SIL's even if wanted to.
Honestly, my parents didn't do that great a job of not pitting us against each other either and as a result I don't really trust my brother or his wife.

My brother's wife is awesome, so yes, I'd be friends with her.

My sister's husband is great in many ways, but no I doubt we'd be friends outside of their relationship

My husband's sister is a hard no. Drama.

Yes, my SILs and BILs are really great. We are very good friends.

DH's brother -- absolutely not. I'm not even friends with him now. I used to try a lot harder to get to know him and be friendly, but then he did a series of increasingly creepy things and now I just tolerate him during family events. The good news is that he and DH are not close, so I don't have to deal with him that much.

For my sibling's spouses, I would definitely be friends with my SILs (well one is now divorced from my brother, but I still really love her). I get along great with them and I feel like we only like each other more as we get older. They are both really interesting people with cool interests and jobs and great, positive attitudes.

My sister's husband I could take or leave. He's perfectly nice, but both he and my sister are suuuuuper religious and I can only deal with them in small doses. I don't dislike either of them, but we are just really, really different and I doubt we'd even cross paths if we weren't related.

Yes to one SIL. She is like my sister almost, I very much love everything about her and we can easily hang out to a day without anyone else with us. Yes to my other SIL but I would definitely be the person who was always kind of the positiv one bc she can be rather cynical and very particular even though she also has a big heart for those she loves (but can be judgmental of those she doesn know and give a "pass" to), which is fine I play that role now but it can be kind of draining at times so it wouldn't be an every day kind of friendship. But again we have spent many nights and days just us together and have a great time. My BIL is super kind and incredibly laid back, literally everyone is friends with him

One of my SILS, yes. The other two NO WAY. They are both awful in their own ways.

I would absolutely choose to be friends with by BIL and his wife. They are great fun and we get along very well in spite of our differences. We have a lot in common from a values perspective.

My SIL is amazing. She's bright and personable and easy to be with. She adores my brother and is truly a godsend to my parents. I live 600 miles away and she carries a load willingly with her own family and with mine. I only wish I lived closer to see more of her and build a deeper relationship because yes, I would totally be her friend.

No way. I can't stand my SIL. We are only fake "friends" because of my husband.