Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 13:13     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:No. My sister has caused me a tremendous amount of stress. She’s an alcoholic who blames all of her problems on my mother and me. I occasionally get crazy texts accusing where she’s accusing me of doing something wrong. I spent years on the defensive before wising up to her game and learning not to engage.

The latest was her sending multiple emails that her family couldn’t join us for an event. Then when we went forward with the event without her, I got multiple texts on how hurt she and her family were. She claimed she told me they wanted to join us!


Maybe she wanted you to change the date to accommodate the fact that they couldn't make it but wanted to.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 13:12     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, my twin sister is the other half of my heart.


I always wished for a twin sister for that exact reason.


PP here. My MIL is also a twin (though her twin is a man) so I’m very lucky my husband gets the twin dynamic as much as he can without actually being a twin himself.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 13:11     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: I have one younger sister. Growing up all she did was copy my behavior, tag along with me and friends, and essentially was a royal pain in the ass. As adults, we barely tolerate each other, but, she's a narcissist and I can't take her except in small doses.


I was a younger sister. I don't think I was extreme in my desire to be like my older sister. I did want to play with her a lot and I'm sure I copied things. That is normal little sibling behavior. My son does this to my daughter and we deal with it and talk about it as a family. I find it strange that in hindsight you still don't seem to have any perspective on this. No empathy at all. Your parents should have told you it was normal and given both of you the space and tools you needed to deal with it. It's not your sister's fault if they didn't. I'm the PP who posted about having someone in the household that hated me. I still have a hard time believing people want to be my friend. I'm sure she felt that hate and rejection from you. Not saying that's why she's a narcissist, but they're typically made not born.


I agree with this. Parents have a huge roll to play in how well siblings get along and respect each other, growing up and as adults.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:54     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
I was not happy growing up. She was a terrible bully, 6 years older, mean and jealous. But I’m a better person because of her. I learned how to deal with people like her and it has made my life in adulthood easier.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:51     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
Previous PP- it was wonderful when we were little though, before her mental illness struck.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:51     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
It makes my life richer, but also more complicated and not happier. My sister has serious mental illness, so our relationship is pretty one-sided and volatile.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 12:48     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: I have one younger sister. Growing up all she did was copy my behavior, tag along with me and friends, and essentially was a royal pain in the ass. As adults, we barely tolerate each other, but, she's a narcissist and I can't take her except in small doses.


I was a younger sister. I don't think I was extreme in my desire to be like my older sister. I did want to play with her a lot and I'm sure I copied things. That is normal little sibling behavior. My son does this to my daughter and we deal with it and talk about it as a family. I find it strange that in hindsight you still don't seem to have any perspective on this. No empathy at all. Your parents should have told you it was normal and given both of you the space and tools you needed to deal with it. It's not your sister's fault if they didn't. I'm the PP who posted about having someone in the household that hated me. I still have a hard time believing people want to be my friend. I'm sure she felt that hate and rejection from you. Not saying that's why she's a narcissist, but they're typically made not born.


No, narcissists are definitely born lol.

That’s not what a single peer reviewed psychology study on the topic says but okay


Lol sure
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:54     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: I have one younger sister. Growing up all she did was copy my behavior, tag along with me and friends, and essentially was a royal pain in the ass. As adults, we barely tolerate each other, but, she's a narcissist and I can't take her except in small doses.


I was a younger sister. I don't think I was extreme in my desire to be like my older sister. I did want to play with her a lot and I'm sure I copied things. That is normal little sibling behavior. My son does this to my daughter and we deal with it and talk about it as a family. I find it strange that in hindsight you still don't seem to have any perspective on this. No empathy at all. Your parents should have told you it was normal and given both of you the space and tools you needed to deal with it. It's not your sister's fault if they didn't. I'm the PP who posted about having someone in the household that hated me. I still have a hard time believing people want to be my friend. I'm sure she felt that hate and rejection from you. Not saying that's why she's a narcissist, but they're typically made not born.


No, narcissists are definitely born lol.

That’s not what a single peer reviewed psychology study on the topic says but okay
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:53     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
Yes, definitely. I have two sisters and I love them so much-we have a lot of great laughs and they are extremely supportive.

I also have three brothers with whom I am close.

I would not trade my siblings for anything.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:52     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:I am the youngest of three sisters. They were very critical of me and still are. I don’t think they’ve been much of a positive in my life. More a negative overall.


To elaborate, they are much closer in age and are close. I am the black sheep. They talk about me behind my back in a really mean way. One of them is married to a man who tends to have either very good or very bad relationships with his family members and who isolates and criticizes one of his siblings. I think he has made the dynamic worse. I am the one in our family he has decided to isolate and criticize. It’s almost like it’s sport for them.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:50     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
I am the youngest of three sisters. They were very critical of me and still are. I don’t think they’ve been much of a positive in my life. More a negative overall.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:50     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
No. My younger sister and I weren't particularly close growing up, but did have a time of closeness after I left for college. At this point, she's incredibly difficult to be around, for various reasons, and it's hard to tolerate being around her. I really wish that were different, but there's only so much I can and am willing to do.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:45     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, my twin sister is the other half of my heart.


I always wished for a twin sister for that exact reason.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:35     Subject: Does having a sister make you happier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: I have one younger sister. Growing up all she did was copy my behavior, tag along with me and friends, and essentially was a royal pain in the ass. As adults, we barely tolerate each other, but, she's a narcissist and I can't take her except in small doses.


I was a younger sister. I don't think I was extreme in my desire to be like my older sister. I did want to play with her a lot and I'm sure I copied things. That is normal little sibling behavior. My son does this to my daughter and we deal with it and talk about it as a family. I find it strange that in hindsight you still don't seem to have any perspective on this. No empathy at all. Your parents should have told you it was normal and given both of you the space and tools you needed to deal with it. It's not your sister's fault if they didn't. I'm the PP who posted about having someone in the household that hated me. I still have a hard time believing people want to be my friend. I'm sure she felt that hate and rejection from you. Not saying that's why she's a narcissist, but they're typically made not born.


No, narcissists are definitely born lol.

You really think Trump would be the way he is if not for his environment? The environment is the catalyst.
Anonymous
Post 08/03/2020 11:33     Subject: Re:Does having a sister make you happier?
Yes, my twin sister is the other half of my heart.