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Anonymous wrote:Different people got different love languages and ways of expressing themselves. You may be thinking about the gushers but they aren’t thinking about you, they’re appreciating the joys in their life. Y’all should try it sometime.

They “got” different love languages? Where do they get them? K-Mary? Tiffany? Lord & Taylor? Are they ever on sale?

Does it matter?
You have your shops you frequent and you favor grunts or mumbles or whatever it is that you do to express your love for your significant other.
Do you and mind your business don’t worry about their love language it’s a 1:1 relationship you’re not involved in their communications.

Anonymous wrote:Different people got different love languages and ways of expressing themselves. You may be thinking about the gushers but they aren’t thinking about you, they’re appreciating the joys in their life. Y’all should try it sometime.

They “got” different love languages? Where do they get them? K-Mary? Tiffany? Lord & Taylor? Are they ever on sale?

Different people got different love languages and ways of expressing themselves. You may be thinking about the gushers but they aren’t thinking about you, they’re appreciating the joys in their life. Y’all should try it sometime.

To the extent people in marital stress do this, I suspect it’s part of the denial and construction of a false narrative. They aren’t just trying to convince others — they are trying to convince themselves.

Anonymous wrote:I know one couple that has separate FB accounts, but she logs into his account on various milestone days and posts sappy messages to herself from "him". She doesn't realize that our whole friend group knows that it's actually her. And yes, he has cheated on her.

That's crazy.

It’s the deflection method. Try to cover their or spouse’s infidelity.

Anonymous wrote:The one I know doing it is having Ashley Madison affairs.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I think people who do this are having major relationship problems, maybe headed towards divorce. Vowel renewals also tell me things are on the rocks.

I have noticed almost every single time someone starts doing this within a year or 2 I hear they are either separated or having marital troubles. In one case they were already divorced within a year.

Same here. That is a red flag to me now. So are the couples that suddenly have so many separate interests and friends that they spend maybe 1 night a week together. They always say “it’s healthier for a couple to spend some time apart.” And I know they are doomed.

Yep. No friends in common or common interests, no going out together...

Not normal.

Anonymous wrote:If they're very young marrieds, like 24 or under, I don't think it's so unusual to overshare or be gushy. Also, if they are very old. But age 25-60, I think constant gushing is tryhard.

So try hard. Most I know who do it also intersperse that with gushing about "God", lol. Double try hard.

Anonymous wrote:There is some MAJOR projecting going on in this thread. No, not everyone who posts gushy Facebook messages is in marital distress. Sometimes people actually really like each other and want the world to know. Sorry your relationships are so sad that you don't know how that feels.

I sincerely hope you aren’t posting gushy posts about your spouse. Think carefully.

Misery loves company.

Anonymous wrote:There is some MAJOR projecting going on in this thread. No, not everyone who posts gushy Facebook messages is in marital distress. Sometimes people actually really like each other and want the world to know. Sorry your relationships are so sad that you don't know how that feels.

Why does the world need to know?

This is a mean thread.

There is some MAJOR projecting going on in this thread. No, not everyone who posts gushy Facebook messages is in marital distress. Sometimes people actually really like each other and want the world to know. Sorry your relationships are so sad that you don't know how that feels.