Anonymous
07/28/2020 22:23
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
I used to take my dog to doggy daycare, and he loved it so much I had to drag him away every evening. Then we moved to DC, where doggy daycare is prohibitively expensive, so my dog had to adjust to a life of being home alone all day. Now when I try to take my dog to a dog park, he freaks out. On walks, he snaps and growls and barks at other dogs. He's completely forgotten how to socialize with other members of his species.
The children who go for too long without proper socialization today become tomorrow's violent firecrackers.
The children who go for too long without proper socialization today become tomorrow's violent firecrackers.
Anonymous
07/28/2020 22:12
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you’re missing that social development is part of what younger kids get from school.
Kids socialize in school a lot less than you might imagine.
Umm, no - they socialize before school, while waiting for school to open; at recess; at lunch; immediately after school; during P.E. and extracurricular sports at school; while collaborating in class on projects. Where do you live - under a rock?
Anonymous
07/28/2020 22:12
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
My kids are fine, too. School and sports would be way, way, way, way better, but this is doable. We'll get through it.
Anonymous
07/28/2020 22:08
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
True, if kids are not at school in-person they will not receive the socialization benefits that school provides. But any child from a loving family who can provide for him/her will, in turn, get the benefit of more family time than they otherwise would have (and most of us have suffered from a lack of family time in our hectic culture). So when you weigh added family time, plus learning important lessons about self-sacrifice for the common good, plus the personal and public health benefits of distance learning, against the "socialization" benefits of school, I don't see how you can possibly argue that kids whose parents are able to stay home with them possibly should be in in-person school this fall. Particularly if we all stay home for a while this will enable the kids go go to school in a "normal" environment much more quickly.
Anonymous
07/28/2020 20:42
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you’re missing that social development is part of what younger kids get from school.
Kids socialize in school a lot less than you might imagine.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 14:15
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:The difference is you had school. Your ‘months’ without seeing other kids was really just the summer, 10 weeks.
Now ‘months’ is looking more like 10+ months, which will have a significant impact on a child’s social skills. Even my people adoring dog is showing signs of social anxiety and fear of people because she’s only been with us 24/day.
Living outside a community filled with personal relationships is not how humans developed. Some people do that - hermits.
this
Anonymous
07/24/2020 12:53
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:Different perspective. Until I was 10, we lived in a suburb of Houston TX. Tons of kids running around the neighborhood, year round.
Then we moved to rural Kansas. Similar to the life you describe - couple other kids “nearby” we could bike to, and that was it.
It was a HUGE adjustment. I knew what I was missing. It hurt, deeply. It was very hard, I missed having friends to run around with.
And that is what our kids are going thru. Online is not the same.
Agree. It's one thing to never have. It's another to have and then have it taken away.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 12:50
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a small town. Basically Mayberry from the Andy Griffiths show. Basically me, my brother, and a redneck bully down the street that I only ran into a few times a year and normally was friends with. I had books, three channels in TV, my bike, sports gear, fishing rods, etc. The schools were in the next town over, so I would go months without seeing other kids except at church and they were usually too little.
No one seemed to be care about play dates, keeping kids busy, exercise and all that stuff.
Maybe I am remembering everything with rose colored glasses and just grew up different form others. But tons of kids grow up like this if you don’t grow up in the suburbs and they manage just fine.
My 10 year old daughter seems to be very happy at the house readIng, writing, working on hobbies, being outside with us. Yeah, she is happier when there is a friend to play with, but she seems happy as a clam right now.
Am I missing something? I don’t mind the fact she is not dependably in BFF’s and such. She doesnt either.
Another example of why aren't more people like me? If my kid is happy and I was happy with my childhood everyone else should be too!
Op, we are all different. Perhaps you and your child are introverts. How hard is it to understand that people are different and desire different things??
Anonymous
07/24/2020 12:46
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, you’re missing that social development is part of what younger kids get from school.
+1
Not just younger kids.
My high school student is struggling without socialization that comes from school and a normal summer. Yeah, it's a big deal. yes, OP, you are missing something.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 12:36
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Translation: I don't get how other people are different from me.
That this issue persists is one of our greatest societal failings, IMO.
That this issue persists is one of our greatest societal failings, IMO.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 12:35
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Anonymous wrote:Teenagers are tricky with all the isolation. They aren't much for talking to their parents anyway, so a lot of depression and feelings of isolation can go unnoticed. In a house where both parents are gone during the day at work and teens are alone at home, there is just a lot of time for sadness.
I know it's hard. We are a 2 parent household both working from home but we try to have a lot of family time as much as possible to avoid kids from being just left alone and to their own devices for an entire day. Play games together, special projects together, cook together, walks together, etc. all help the kids quite a bit.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 11:37
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Same here OP. I'm not sure why people are so concerned, unless they plan for this to last decades.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 11:07
Subject: Re:I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Also remember that there are lots of incompetent parents. My single mother was an alcoholic. We were low income and lived in a high-rise one-bedroom. School was my escape, my normality. I can't imagine how I would recover from being stuck at home with her for one year.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 10:54
Subject: Re:I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
I have SN kids who are regressing from the lack of socializing that school provided. However, as a country we didn’t manage the virus aggressively and consistently from the get go. We are where we are.
There’s also an income slant on this forum. A lot of my kid’s classmates (who are have more severe issues than my kid) have parents who don’t have the luxury to work from home. They are fast food workers, taxi drivers, nannies, health care workers. I have stress and anxiety but I know there are people who are in much more vulnerable situations.
There’s also an income slant on this forum. A lot of my kid’s classmates (who are have more severe issues than my kid) have parents who don’t have the luxury to work from home. They are fast food workers, taxi drivers, nannies, health care workers. I have stress and anxiety but I know there are people who are in much more vulnerable situations.
Anonymous
07/24/2020 10:46
Subject: I honestly don’t get the concern about kids being isolated socially
Different perspective. Until I was 10, we lived in a suburb of Houston TX. Tons of kids running around the neighborhood, year round.
Then we moved to rural Kansas. Similar to the life you describe - couple other kids “nearby” we could bike to, and that was it.
It was a HUGE adjustment. I knew what I was missing. It hurt, deeply. It was very hard, I missed having friends to run around with.
And that is what our kids are going thru. Online is not the same.
Then we moved to rural Kansas. Similar to the life you describe - couple other kids “nearby” we could bike to, and that was it.
It was a HUGE adjustment. I knew what I was missing. It hurt, deeply. It was very hard, I missed having friends to run around with.
And that is what our kids are going thru. Online is not the same.