I guess not the sex part. But its just that pregnancy such a deeply personal thing that the whole world can see. I mean all these things are changing in my body but instead of it being private it’s public. When it comes to having sex though I always did feel the “we’re trying” conversations to be awkward. I mean what does trying mean other than having sex lol. But somehow it isn’t construed that way.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is really odd. Is this falling into the category of millennials who have issues growing up...and call it "adulting?" Is that what this is?

What are you talking about?

I'm talking about possibly immature people who feel awkward in adult roles and call the usual things as adults "adulting." Now, when pregnant, they actually feel uncomfortable telling their own family that a baby is on the way .

That is what I'm talking about.

Anonymous wrote:I teach my 5th graders Hunan Growth and Development each year, and this year I was pregnant with twins. I was explaining the mechanics of sex to my girls (who are mostly horrified) and their eyes kept going to my belly. There was definitely some “she DID that! RECENTLY!” deduction happening.

Lol

I teach my 5th graders Hunan Growth and Development each year, and this year I was pregnant with twins. I was explaining the mechanics of sex to my girls (who are mostly horrified) and their eyes kept going to my belly. There was definitely some “she DID that! RECENTLY!” deduction happening.

Ugh I’m 35 and still felt so weird when my mom asked, “had you been trying for awhile?” WTF, mom? Then, one of my teenage students found out I was pregnant and says, “wow! So when did you and your husband have sex”. It’s awkward.

Also PP when I was in my 20s this might have embarrassed me.
I'm in my 30s and married. How is that embarrassing?

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't just the sex aspect, I didn't like people thinking about what's going on with my body. It just was so personal and everyone wanted to know all sorts of details that I wasn't okay with sharing... I tried to be coy, but people took it as if DH and I weren't happy about the pregnancy and said mean comments about that then. "In my day, people used to like sharing the news." "I used to love talking about my pregnancy." I was a manager at work and was generally really friendly (regarding other topics).

But...it's your family. Not the guy at the water cooler, right?

PP here. No it was weird to tell family too. My mom is extremely nosy so I think that's where my anxiety about this stuff stems from. She immediately wants to know if I've had bleeding, weight gain, morning sickness, wants to be there for the transvaginal ultrasound, feel my stomach when baby kicks.... you name it. It wasn't pleasant telling inlaws either even though they're not intrusive. They're still judging my pregnancy and thinking things.

Why would your in laws judge you?

Did you ever think your mom is asking you these questions because she knows being pregnant doesn't guarantee a baby and wants to make sure you're not missing any signs of anything being wrong?

They had you didn't they?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is really odd. Is this falling into the category of millennials who have issues growing up...and call it "adulting?" Is that what this is?

OP here. No, I’m 37. And my parents never talked about sex. So this feels weird.

You say, “I’m pregnant” or “I’m expecting.” You don’t say DH and I had sex and now I’m pregnant.

Anonymous wrote:This thread is really odd. Is this falling into the category of millennials who have issues growing up...and call it "adulting?" Is that what this is?

What are you talking about?

Anonymous wrote:This thread is really odd. Is this falling into the category of millennials who have issues growing up...and call it "adulting?" Is that what this is?

OP here. No, I’m 37. And my parents never talked about sex. So this feels weird.

This thread is really odd. Is this falling into the category of millennials who have issues growing up...and call it "adulting?" Is that what this is?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't just the sex aspect, I didn't like people thinking about what's going on with my body. It just was so personal and everyone wanted to know all sorts of details that I wasn't okay with sharing... I tried to be coy, but people took it as if DH and I weren't happy about the pregnancy and said mean comments about that then. "In my day, people used to like sharing the news." "I used to love talking about my pregnancy." I was a manager at work and was generally really friendly (regarding other topics).

But...it's your family. Not the guy at the water cooler, right?

PP here. No it was weird to tell family too. My mom is extremely nosy so I think that's where my anxiety about this stuff stems from. She immediately wants to know if I've had bleeding, weight gain, morning sickness, wants to be there for the transvaginal ultrasound, feel my stomach when baby kicks.... you name it. It wasn't pleasant telling inlaws either even though they're not intrusive. They're still judging my pregnancy and thinking things.

Ok.....er, what? What are your inlaws judging and thinking? I'm kind of lost here.
And your Mom...who is your Mom, btw, when she asks about
Bleeding- say, no, it's all been good so far!
Weight gain- working at it, but I want a donut NOW.
Morning sickness- yeah, had a little but it's now blah blah blah
Ultrasound- I'm more comfortable showing you the picture. It's Larlo and I for this, Mom, ok?
Baby kicks - here, he's kicking now! Wanna feel? So cool, right?

This isn't your neighbor, it's your mother. I'll agree that maybe you don't want her there for the ultrasound, some might though, but everything else- super normal and , wow, you have a mom that loves you and will support you.
Who is judging? Why would they judge you? What is happening in your head? What is happening here?

I felt this way more about my coworkers and boss than my family.

My 36-year-old sister actually wrote a letter to our parents to let them know she was pregnant (5 months along). She also told them in the letter that she had just gotten married 2 days prior. My old-fashioned parents were thrilled to have that first grandchild. They went from up-tight to modern in 60 seconds flat.