I have several kids, OP. My last pregnancy was brutal. I was exhausted for the first few months. I vomited all day every day. I ended up in the hospital a couple of times for fluids. I remember opening my car door in the parking lot and throwing up while it was pouring down rain. Then I just cried. I took naps in my car during my lunch break. But really, the only thing that helped was time. It gets better. ((hugs))

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Anonymous wrote:We all get it and we also say - just wait until you have the baby. It’s so much crazier than you could imagine. But then it’s all worth it in the end.

You know I don't know if you'll need to hear this OP. But for the record, for some of us, the pregnancy is far far far far worse than the baby. And if pregnancy is seeming to be particularly horrible to you (I had hyperemesis three times) then don't listen to posts like this. They just don't actually understand, which is ok their experience was different. But for whoever needs to hear it, the baby will likely be much much much more manageable than the pregnancy if you're really suffering.

+1. I've got my fingers crossed newborn will be easier because between the weeks 6-14 constant nausea and vomiting, limited foods I could eat, the fatigue that felt like I had been drugged, vomiting stomach acid every morning in the 2nd trimester, not sleeping more than an hour or two in stretches because of the stomach acid in the 3rd trimester, and the mental pressure of going to work through all of it...well, a baby has got to be at least a little easier than this.

It was for me. It was the difference between trying to function exhausted and sick when I was pregnant to just exhausted when the baby came. I felt so much better after pregnancy even though I would get exhausted with the baby I still felt 1,000% better physically and it was no problem to handle the baby.

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Anonymous wrote:We all get it and we also say - just wait until you have the baby. It’s so much crazier than you could imagine. But then it’s all worth it in the end.

You know I don't know if you'll need to hear this OP. But for the record, for some of us, the pregnancy is far far far far worse than the baby. And if pregnancy is seeming to be particularly horrible to you (I had hyperemesis three times) then don't listen to posts like this. They just don't actually understand, which is ok their experience was different. But for whoever needs to hear it, the baby will likely be much much much more manageable than the pregnancy if you're really suffering.

+1. I've got my fingers crossed newborn will be easier because between the weeks 6-14 constant nausea and vomiting, limited foods I could eat, the fatigue that felt like I had been drugged, vomiting stomach acid every morning in the 2nd trimester, not sleeping more than an hour or two in stretches because of the stomach acid in the 3rd trimester, and the mental pressure of going to work through all of it...well, a baby has got to be at least a little easier than this.

Anonymous wrote:We all get it and we also say - just wait until you have the baby. It’s so much crazier than you could imagine. But then it’s all worth it in the end.

You know I don't know if you'll need to hear this OP. But for the record, for some of us, the pregnancy is far far far far worse than the baby. And if pregnancy is seeming to be particularly horrible to you (I had hyperemesis three times) then don't listen to posts like this. They just don't actually understand, which is ok their experience was different. But for whoever needs to hear it, the baby will likely be much much much more manageable than the pregnancy if you're really suffering.

I ate saltines and drank ginger ale throughout the day with my first. Then when I got home, I just lazed about. I did a lot of takeout for dinner or cereal and laid on the couch. On the weekends, I stayed in bed until evening. I also tried to stay active and continued my normal workout routine as much as possible. It was hard to get started, but a good workout actually helped me feel better, surprisingly.

I feel like it's been worst now with my 2nd. Maybe because I have a toddler to take care of so I don't get nearly as much rest as I did the first time around. I'm teleworking becasue of COVID and I work from bed a lot of days. If I'm feeling really bad, I log off for a while and catch up later or take leave. I would not have been able to work 8-9 hours a day every day this time around if I had to commute and go into the office. The doctor prescribed dicleges (spelling?) and it's helped some.

Hang in there. It gets better. I am just now feeling normal again at 16 weeks, although I started to feel less fatigued and nauseous at 13 weeks.

Anonymous wrote:you haven't really lived until you've vomited into a trash can under a desk in a dark office

Or kept a barf bag in your car after having to give up riding metro for fear a stray smell would make you the person on the news who puked on a train and held up the entire area's commute

I puked into a dog poop bag on I-95 in the Baltimore tunnel. We now call them dog puke bags, and I have to say they are quite convenient to carry around!

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Pregnancy is an important time to honor yourself and the power you have to bring forth new human life.

It’s the one thing no man can ever do.

And for those of us who aren’t high right now, what does that mean for OP’s situation? Ideally a solution that doesn’t involve her getting fired.

It means to power through it like every other woman who has done it before her. Are you serious?

Are you that PP? I agree with this post, but that doesn’t seem the same “honor yourself . . .”

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Pregnancy is an important time to honor yourself and the power you have to bring forth new human life.

It’s the one thing no man can ever do.

And for those of us who aren’t high right now, what does that mean for OP’s situation? Ideally a solution that doesn’t involve her getting fired.

It means to power through it like every other woman who has done it before her. Are you serious?

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Pregnancy is an important time to honor yourself and the power you have to bring forth new human life.

It’s the one thing no man can ever do.

And for those of us who aren’t high right now, what does that mean for OP’s situation? Ideally a solution that doesn’t involve her getting fired.

We all get it and we also say - just wait until you have the baby. It’s so much crazier than you could imagine. But then it’s all worth it in the end.

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Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

You sound so strong and amazing.

I actually was more exhausted during the first trimester than I was with a newborn. Lucky enough to work from home, took a three hour nap every afternoon and slept 10 hours every night for most of the first trimester. From 12 weeks on, totally fine. So much sympathy for those that work outside home

I’d take a newborn over the first trimester exhaustion any day.

you haven't really lived until you've vomited into a trash can under a desk in a dark office

Or kept a barf bag in your car after having to give up riding metro for fear a stray smell would make you the person on the news who puked on a train and held up the entire area's commute

FTM, almost finishing my first trimester. I’ve been grateful to being working from home, I’ve been able to take naps the days I needed to and had a better time coping with a couple of rough days in which I could barely do any work due to nausea.

I’m happy for the people that have an easier time during the first trimester, good for you, but for some people like me, working from home has been really beneficial. There’s no shame in taking some naps

Pregnancy is an important time to honor yourself and the power you have to bring forth new human life.

It’s the one thing no man can ever do.

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Anonymous wrote:Ummm you just work and do your job....what’s so complicated? I had all-time sickness was exhausted and I just drank water and lived and worked and commuted and did meetings and travelled for work. Just count your blessings for being at home and you’re in for a rude awakening of being “tired” with a newborn.

You sound so strong and amazing.

I actually was more exhausted during the first trimester than I was with a newborn. Lucky enough to work from home, took a three hour nap every afternoon and slept 10 hours every night for most of the first trimester. From 12 weeks on, totally fine. So much sympathy for those that work outside home

I am. Especially since I didn’t bitch about being “omg so exhausted I can’t work” on forums.

You're very lucky that you can't relate to this thread. Not everyone experiences symptoms the same, and each pregnancy can be different. I was tired with my first, but it was nothing like the tired I felt in the first trimester with this pregnancy---and yes, it was worse than in some ways than being tired with a newborn. With a newborn, I felt tired and on edge all the time. There were time I would fall asleep while trying to stay awake, which is obviously bad with a newborn. But, with this pregnancy, I was passing out at the same time everyday. It was like my body had an expiration, and was much, much, much harder to continue the day without a nap---my body was going to do it whether I wanted to or not.

I agree with the lunchtime napper---if you can find a time in your day that works, trying to squeeze in a nap before you need it may help.

NP btw.