Some of the ugliest infants wind up being beautiful children and adults. And some of the cutest babies wind up being the ugliest kids.

I have "a face only a mother could love" and it's one of many reasons I didn't want a biological child.

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Anonymous wrote:People want everything for their children. I think everyone wants their children to be happy, rich, intelligent and beautiful. It doesn’t always work out but everyone wants it for their kids. At least most parents.

Also, in anthropology babies and baby animals are “cute” so their adults will care for them.

This is so true but so many people act like it's not.

Meh. I wish for self-sufficiency and confidence over wealth and beauty for my kids.

But doesn’t that fall under happy? I mean that people want everything for their kids. Not at the exclusion of any of the traits.

I think nearly all the statements on the first 2-3 pages were written by the same person. Exact same writing style and even same paragraphing.

This is anonymous so flame me.

My DD is obese. I’m doing what I can as a parent (healthy options, activity, even therapy) but There is only so much you can do.

I wish for her sake she can shed some pounds before the other kids get really mean. For me, it’s not about beauty - it’s about quality of life. I don’t want her picked last, not get invited to parties, or later in life not have a date to the prom or wrestle with eating disorders.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like the real problems are when one kid is much more beautiful than the other.

Agree, especially if they are close in ages & same gender. I & DH look average, and we have a gorgeous looking boy & an average looking girl.

It is so easy to shop for my boy because he can pull off any color & any styles. He can look good with just a plain white t shirt. He is extrovert with bright smile, and he stands out from crowd.

For my girl, I have to avoid some color & some busy prints. I buy her many hair accessories to make her look cute & stand out. She looks like female version of DH even DH admits it. DH has a manly look.

I think the dynamic would be 1000x worse if your son was a girl and you had a gorgeous girl and an average girl.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like the real problems are when one kid is much more beautiful than the other.

Agree, especially if they are close in ages & same gender. I & DH look average, and we have a gorgeous looking boy & an average looking girl.

It is so easy to shop for my boy because he can pull off any color & any styles. He can look good with just a plain white t shirt. He is extrovert with bright smile, and he stands out from crowd.

For my girl, I have to avoid some color & some busy prints. I buy her many hair accessories to make her look cute & stand out. She looks like female version of DH even DH admits it. DH has a manly look.

Ha ha, are you my SIL? She has a gorgeous son and a below-average daughter.

You can tell the difference in how SIL and BIL and relatives treat them. It’s kind of messed up. I make sure to give my niece extra attention and gifts to compensate. Which may not be the right thing to do either.

I think my daughter is adorable. Pretty sure she was the cutest baby that ever lived.
I’m really happy she turned out to be a cute kid. Not sure if I would use the word beautiful but she’s definitely cute.

Anonymous wrote:It seems like the real problems are when one kid is much more beautiful than the other.

Agree, especially if they are close in ages & same gender. I & DH look average, and we have a gorgeous looking boy & an average looking girl.

It is so easy to shop for my boy because he can pull off any color & any styles. He can look good with just a plain white t shirt. He is extrovert with bright smile, and he stands out from crowd.

For my girl, I have to avoid some color & some busy prints. I buy her many hair accessories to make her look cute & stand out. She looks like female version of DH even DH admits it. DH has a manly look.

It seems like the real problems are when one kid is much more beautiful than the other.

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Anonymous wrote:People want everything for their children. I think everyone wants their children to be happy, rich, intelligent and beautiful. It doesn’t always work out but everyone wants it for their kids. At least most parents.

Also, in anthropology babies and baby animals are “cute” so their adults will care for them.

This is so true but so many people act like it's not.

Meh. I wish for self-sufficiency and confidence over wealth and beauty for my kids.

I want them to be healthy, happy, pleasant to be around, intelligent, self-sufficient, have good hygiene, and be average looking so they don’t get made fun of. If they are nicer looking than that, it will be a bonus. That being said, my kids are super cute!

My kids just look like regular family members to me so they don’t blow me away, but (some) other people tend to go nuts over their looks. I don’t like it. With that said, I do care about their weight because I think it’s a reflection of my parenting.

I grew up homely or average, depending on the year, and had an Irish twin sister who has always been objectively attractive, and even startling at certain ages. Like the PP, my sister was always being given things along with compliments on her looks: free food at restaurants, parts in school plays that she hadn’t auditioned for, even stuffed animals. We would go places like stores or restaurants and people would literally give her stuffed animals! It didn’t spoil her but did give her an amazing amount of confidence that she’s carried with her through life.

From that experience alone, I hope my children will be beautiful, because people are kinder to and give advantages to beautiful people.

Anyway, being unattractive takes more work. You have to be better groomed, dress well, and act more carefully for people to “see” you in the same way that a beautiful person is seen. It takes me longer to build friendships, work credibility, and romantic relationships because people don’t notice me or give me the initial opportunities as quickly as they do my sister. Some of these things may be deeper and more meaningful for me in the end, but the difference in the upfront effort it takes is not trivial.

My DCs are above average in looks both in their faces and their bodies. Many issues for kids come into play, for example, with short boys or really tall girls or chubby builds. My kids are lucky in the looks department but more importantly they are smart, hardworking and kind.

Most people are average. Most of your kids will be average. Unless you’re hideous, why would this be a concern of yours?