Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:53
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Real talk. 3 is enough. Nobody needs 4 kids these days. Kids don’t die in infancy and early childhood the way they used to.
Eh. Probably some people should have as many kids as they can handle, and some people shouldn’t have kids at all.
That bears no relationship to my comment.
You were discussing number of children, correct?! That poster replied discussing number of kids. Not sure what the heck you mean.
Nobody “needs” any kids. Nobody needs 3...why is that your arbitrary number?
It’s not arbitrary. It’s what OP has and it’s enough.
Says who? Says you and that’s what makes it arbitrary.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:47
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
I grew up around a lot of LDS families and it seems like 4 or 5 is a common number now. Since they're LDS, they almost all have SAHMs (regardless of income level or what job the mom held before--in the LDS community, that doesn't really matter since women are discouraged from staying home under almost all circumstances) or moms that work in the types of jobs you can do from home a few hours a week (wedding/kids photographer seems to be a popular profession, freelance graphic design and interior design are also popular if they majored in that in college...MLM stuff seems to by dying, thank God).
Anyhow, 4 to 5 fits the desire to have a "big" family (since it's bigger than "normal") but 4 or 5 is also somewhat manageable in that they still fit in a single vehicle (minivan) and you can still have the kids in a lot of activities and sports if you divide and conquer with a sitter/nanny/au pair doing some of the driving.
Anyhow, 4 to 5 fits the desire to have a "big" family (since it's bigger than "normal") but 4 or 5 is also somewhat manageable in that they still fit in a single vehicle (minivan) and you can still have the kids in a lot of activities and sports if you divide and conquer with a sitter/nanny/au pair doing some of the driving.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:41
Subject: Re:Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with 4, not Jewish or Catholic, another friend with 6 and another friend with 5 (3 birthed, 2 step children)
They all have lots of fun. None of the moms work a traditional 9-5pm. One friend is on public assistance and the she escaped domestic violence from the father. The other two have husbands who are paid very well.
I always enjoy time with them. I get more time to myself as my daughter is more entertained. I grew up in a family of 4. It seems normal to me. I feel so much guilt for only having 1 child.
If I had a partner who wanted a big family, I would have kept on trying to have babies until I physically couldn't.
I don't think anyone is an idiot for a big family. Our world will change and people will be more important than material things. Right now, I would love to have a big family to take some of the pressure off of me and give my kid more people to bounce energy off of. When I had people living with me, my kid really thrived.
Bigger families for the future!! The planet can handle it
Society cannot handle it if there are more ppl like your friend on welfare with multiple kids. Maybe that’s a harsh thing to say but it’s the truth.
Yep, everyone else is paying for her to have lots of fun with all those kids on public assistance.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:39
Subject: Re:Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with 4, not Jewish or Catholic, another friend with 6 and another friend with 5 (3 birthed, 2 step children)
They all have lots of fun. None of the moms work a traditional 9-5pm. One friend is on public assistance and the she escaped domestic violence from the father. The other two have husbands who are paid very well.
I always enjoy time with them. I get more time to myself as my daughter is more entertained. I grew up in a family of 4. It seems normal to me. I feel so much guilt for only having 1 child.
If I had a partner who wanted a big family, I would have kept on trying to have babies until I physically couldn't.
I don't think anyone is an idiot for a big family. Our world will change and people will be more important than material things. Right now, I would love to have a big family to take some of the pressure off of me and give my kid more people to bounce energy off of. When I had people living with me, my kid really thrived.
Bigger families for the future!! The planet can handle it
Society cannot handle it if there are more ppl like your friend on welfare with multiple kids. Maybe that’s a harsh thing to say but it’s the truth.
+1
Society and the planet. When I see families of 3+ kids, I think how selfish and self centered and narcissistic the parents must be. And no, they don't "enjoy" their kids.
The only thing that's matter of fact is that you do not have 5 kids, and therefore know absolutely nothing of the life of those with 5 kids. You sound like you shouldn't even have 1 kid with that ugly attitude of yours. The planet and society need less people like you.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:38
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Real talk. 3 is enough. Nobody needs 4 kids these days. Kids don’t die in infancy and early childhood the way they used to.
Eh. Probably some people should have as many kids as they can handle, and some people shouldn’t have kids at all.
That bears no relationship to my comment.
You were discussing number of children, correct?! That poster replied discussing number of kids. Not sure what the heck you mean.
Nobody “needs” any kids. Nobody needs 3...why is that your arbitrary number?
It’s not arbitrary. It’s what OP has and it’s enough.
How do you know? Maybe she is a wonderful parent and should have eight kids. Maybe your kids are the ones who aren’t worth the strain on the environment. How could you possibly know?
Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:37
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
My neighbors have five, one set of twins. They are all grade school age. Both parents have professional jobs, one switched to no travel when the kids were born. They have a nanny who probably works 45 or 50 hours a week. They seem great. The parents spend 100 percent of their time with the family, no girls night out/guys poker night kind of things.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 11:20
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Real talk. 3 is enough. Nobody needs 4 kids these days. Kids don’t die in infancy and early childhood the way they used to.
Eh. Probably some people should have as many kids as they can handle, and some people shouldn’t have kids at all.
That bears no relationship to my comment.
You were discussing number of children, correct?! That poster replied discussing number of kids. Not sure what the heck you mean.
Nobody “needs” any kids. Nobody needs 3...why is that your arbitrary number?
It’s not arbitrary. It’s what OP has and it’s enough.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:53
Subject: Re:Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with 4, not Jewish or Catholic, another friend with 6 and another friend with 5 (3 birthed, 2 step children)
They all have lots of fun. None of the moms work a traditional 9-5pm. One friend is on public assistance and the she escaped domestic violence from the father. The other two have husbands who are paid very well.
I always enjoy time with them. I get more time to myself as my daughter is more entertained. I grew up in a family of 4. It seems normal to me. I feel so much guilt for only having 1 child.
If I had a partner who wanted a big family, I would have kept on trying to have babies until I physically couldn't.
I don't think anyone is an idiot for a big family. Our world will change and people will be more important than material things. Right now, I would love to have a big family to take some of the pressure off of me and give my kid more people to bounce energy off of. When I had people living with me, my kid really thrived.
Bigger families for the future!! The planet can handle it
Society cannot handle it if there are more ppl like your friend on welfare with multiple kids. Maybe that’s a harsh thing to say but it’s the truth.
+1
Society and the planet. When I see families of 3+ kids, I think how selfish and self centered and narcissistic the parents must be. And no, they don't "enjoy" their kids.
How many kids do you have?
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:37
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Check out Camp Patton on Instagram. She is Catholic with 7 kids. Popular influencer.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:25
Subject: Re:Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with 4, not Jewish or Catholic, another friend with 6 and another friend with 5 (3 birthed, 2 step children)
They all have lots of fun. None of the moms work a traditional 9-5pm. One friend is on public assistance and the she escaped domestic violence from the father. The other two have husbands who are paid very well.
I always enjoy time with them. I get more time to myself as my daughter is more entertained. I grew up in a family of 4. It seems normal to me. I feel so much guilt for only having 1 child.
If I had a partner who wanted a big family, I would have kept on trying to have babies until I physically couldn't.
I don't think anyone is an idiot for a big family. Our world will change and people will be more important than material things. Right now, I would love to have a big family to take some of the pressure off of me and give my kid more people to bounce energy off of. When I had people living with me, my kid really thrived.
Bigger families for the future!! The planet can handle it
Society cannot handle it if there are more ppl like your friend on welfare with multiple kids. Maybe that’s a harsh thing to say but it’s the truth.
+1
Society and the planet. When I see families of 3+ kids, I think how selfish and self centered and narcissistic the parents must be. And no, they don't "enjoy" their kids.
Do you know the family that was referred to? How do you judge whether they enjoy their families or not? You sound miserable.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:21
Subject: Re:Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with 4, not Jewish or Catholic, another friend with 6 and another friend with 5 (3 birthed, 2 step children)
They all have lots of fun. None of the moms work a traditional 9-5pm. One friend is on public assistance and the she escaped domestic violence from the father. The other two have husbands who are paid very well.
I always enjoy time with them. I get more time to myself as my daughter is more entertained. I grew up in a family of 4. It seems normal to me. I feel so much guilt for only having 1 child.
If I had a partner who wanted a big family, I would have kept on trying to have babies until I physically couldn't.
I don't think anyone is an idiot for a big family. Our world will change and people will be more important than material things. Right now, I would love to have a big family to take some of the pressure off of me and give my kid more people to bounce energy off of. When I had people living with me, my kid really thrived.
Bigger families for the future!! The planet can handle it
Society cannot handle it if there are more ppl like your friend on welfare with multiple kids. Maybe that’s a harsh thing to say but it’s the truth.
+1
Society and the planet. When I see families of 3+ kids, I think how selfish and self centered and narcissistic the parents must be. And no, they don't "enjoy" their kids.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:18
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:With 5 kids, the parents tend to demand a lot of babysitting from the oldest kids, particularly the oldest daughter
This brings it's own set of issues. If the family goes through unemployment or primary wage earner is disabled, it is aweful.
Finances are very important as kids cost a ton of money. It is not romantic, don't pretend these families are constantly happy. Some 5 kid families even divorce
So, basically No you don’t have five kids but you’re an expert? Thanks for playing.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:16
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Real talk. 3 is enough. Nobody needs 4 kids these days. Kids don’t die in infancy and early childhood the way they used to.
Eh. Probably some people should have as many kids as they can handle, and some people shouldn’t have kids at all.
That bears no relationship to my comment.
You were discussing number of children, correct?! That poster replied discussing number of kids. Not sure what the heck you mean.
Nobody “needs” any kids. Nobody needs 3...why is that your arbitrary number?
Anonymous
04/12/2020 10:05
Subject: Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Real talk. 3 is enough. Nobody needs 4 kids these days. Kids don’t die in infancy and early childhood the way they used to.
Eh. Probably some people should have as many kids as they can handle, and some people shouldn’t have kids at all.
That bears no relationship to my comment.
You said no one should have more than 3. I disagree. Some should have 4, 5, or 10. And some people shouldn’t have any at all.
Anonymous
04/12/2020 09:38
Subject: Re:Does anyone have 5 kids these days? What’s it like raising them
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with 4, not Jewish or Catholic, another friend with 6 and another friend with 5 (3 birthed, 2 step children)
They all have lots of fun. None of the moms work a traditional 9-5pm. One friend is on public assistance and the she escaped domestic violence from the father. The other two have husbands who are paid very well.
I always enjoy time with them. I get more time to myself as my daughter is more entertained. I grew up in a family of 4. It seems normal to me. I feel so much guilt for only having 1 child.
If I had a partner who wanted a big family, I would have kept on trying to have babies until I physically couldn't.
I don't think anyone is an idiot for a big family. Our world will change and people will be more important than material things. Right now, I would love to have a big family to take some of the pressure off of me and give my kid more people to bounce energy off of. When I had people living with me, my kid really thrived.
Bigger families for the future!! The planet can handle it
Society cannot handle it if there are more ppl like your friend on welfare with multiple kids. Maybe that’s a harsh thing to say but it’s the truth.