Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll. No one "asks for a check" from their dh any more. Sounds like it may have been written in the 90s at the earliest, or some senior citizen is amusing themselves by writing dcum fan fiction. I'm in my 50s and OP sounds like a geezer. Try again.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have kids? I hope not. If you do have kids, how old are they? If they're at the ages where they have activities, beware--he may start nickel and diming you on their activity costs. Then it'll be complaints about how middle school clubs or field trips are "so expensive." And how high school costs money--all those testing fees! Cap and gown! Etc. Then it'll be about how college application fees are a ripoff, college tuition is too high, etc. etc. Very wearing.

Does he think in terms of how his earning are HIS and not yours together? That's the big red flag. My DH has always, always said his earnings are OUR earnings. Even when I was working full-time. Everything of his and mine was and is combined. The "my money is my money and you need to beg for it" mentality is not conducive to being married. At least, not happily married.

No kids. It’s never been much of an issue till now. Like I said because I never really needed to ask for $ till now. He’s bought me a few luxury vehicles and nice jewelry but for some reason he has an aversion to giving me money.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

I wouldn’t even try that now knowing how he is. Omg he probably has it set up with all kinds of alerts. I bet it has in big bold red, DO NOT GIVE WIFE DEBIT CARD. How embarrassing to put myself in that position. With all the bank employees snickering behind my back as I leave with my head down..

That’s not a thing. Do you have the account information? Then you can directly transfer from the joint account to your personal account.

You seem to already know you’re in a bad marriage. Use this time to plan your exit.

Trust me it is a thing when your DH is known by everyone in the bank because he has other big accounts. Bankers kiss clients butts in these situations.

Did you just get here from 2005? You can set it up online without ever talking to a banker. Go to your personal account online. Look for a section that says something like “add funds” or “external transfers”. Type in the account numbers and routing number. The routing number is publicly available information.

Really what you need is individual therapy to figure out why you are acting so helpless.

You really think it’s that easy? I guarantee it’s password protected!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

I wouldn’t even try that now knowing how he is. Omg he probably has it set up with all kinds of alerts. I bet it has in big bold red, DO NOT GIVE WIFE DEBIT CARD. How embarrassing to put myself in that position. With all the bank employees snickering behind my back as I leave with my head down..

That’s not a thing. Do you have the account information? Then you can directly transfer from the joint account to your personal account.

You seem to already know you’re in a bad marriage. Use this time to plan your exit.

Trust me it is a thing when your DH is known by everyone in the bank because he has other big accounts. Bankers kiss clients butts in these situations.

Did you just get here from 2005? You can set it up online without ever talking to a banker. Go to your personal account online. Look for a section that says something like “add funds” or “external transfers”. Type in the account numbers and routing number. The routing number is publicly available information.

Really what you need is individual therapy to figure out why you are acting so helpless.

You really think it’s that easy? I guarantee it’s password protected!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

I wouldn’t even try that now knowing how he is. Omg he probably has it set up with all kinds of alerts. I bet it has in big bold red, DO NOT GIVE WIFE DEBIT CARD. How embarrassing to put myself in that position. With all the bank employees snickering behind my back as I leave with my head down..

That’s not a thing. Do you have the account information? Then you can directly transfer from the joint account to your personal account.

You seem to already know you’re in a bad marriage. Use this time to plan your exit.

Trust me it is a thing when your DH is known by everyone in the bank because he has other big accounts. Bankers kiss clients butts in these situations.

Did you just get here from 2005? You can set it up online without ever talking to a banker. Go to your personal account online. Look for a section that says something like “add funds” or “external transfers”. Type in the account numbers and routing number. The routing number is publicly available information.

Really what you need is individual therapy to figure out why you are acting so helpless.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

I wouldn’t even try that now knowing how he is. Omg he probably has it set up with all kinds of alerts. I bet it has in big bold red, DO NOT GIVE WIFE DEBIT CARD. How embarrassing to put myself in that position. With all the bank employees snickering behind my back as I leave with my head down..

That’s not a thing. Do you have the account information? Then you can directly transfer from the joint account to your personal account.

You seem to already know you’re in a bad marriage. Use this time to plan your exit.

Trust me it is a thing when your DH is known by everyone in the bank because he has other big accounts. Bankers kiss clients butts in these situations.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

I wouldn’t even try that now knowing how he is. Omg he probably has it set up with all kinds of alerts. I bet it has in big bold red, DO NOT GIVE WIFE DEBIT CARD. How embarrassing to put myself in that position. With all the bank employees snickering behind my back as I leave with my head down..

That’s not a thing. Do you have the account information? Then you can directly transfer from the joint account to your personal account.

You seem to already know you’re in a bad marriage. Use this time to plan your exit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

I wouldn’t even try that now knowing how he is. Omg he probably has it set up with all kinds of alerts. I bet it has in big bold red, DO NOT GIVE WIFE DEBIT CARD. How embarrassing to put myself in that position. With all the bank employees snickering behind my back as I leave with my head down..

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re a troll

+1

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you walk into the bank and ask for an ATM card?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now that I’m not bringing in a income right now I’m having to ask DH for $$. I actually think he’s enjoying this control he has right now. We have a joint bank account and yesterday when I asked for a check he barks, it’s empty. Then he threw $150 on the counter. I’m like seriously? Fyi he’s worth millions! My mom suggested I go work at Walmart and make sure I post pics on FB & tag him. It’s got me so depressed realizing how he actually is. Since this is the only time I’ve been out of work since we’ve been married. I work pt time but it’s nice having that spending money. I asked him if I could file my own tax returns so I could get $ back. He said no cause we file together and he claims me. Wth is that about? Now I really feel like a child.

If you have a joint bank account you shouldn’t have to ask him to withdraw from it.

Anonymous wrote:Tell him BJs are $100 and PIV is $200, and watch him start peeling off the bills!