Anonymous wrote:OP clearly is ignoring everyone’s advice and making excuses for her horrible decision making. She’s only responding to comments that should be irrelevant. There is no helping her.

OR, OP is actually the boyfriend, looking for just one person to say it's normal or not so bad.

Anonymous wrote:He’s deeply unhealthy but, op, unless you dump him asap so are you. maybe concentrate on getting your act together rather than exhaustive lists of his effed up beliefs.

Seriously, OP, you need to work with a therapist. You really don't take your own needs very seriously and you need to look at why you were willing to get so involved with this person. I mean, face it, you're having to ask strangers on the internet whether this list of crazy things is incorrect, when in your heart, you know they're incorrect but you don't want to believe that because it means you'll have to leave. Please take the time to find yourself and best of luck to you.

OP clearly is ignoring everyone’s advice and making excuses for her horrible decision making. She’s only responding to comments that should be irrelevant. There is no helping her.

OP, even your responses to the posts here are deeply weird. "interesting take!"??!!

It's like you have frozen out any emotions or feelings of your own.

RUN like crazy from this. He is not the guy for you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t be one of those women that will be on this forum in 5 years, married to this guy, with two kids, and need advice on what you should do. You’re eyes are open, and you should be listening to your gut.

This! And that's the best case scenario. It the worst case you end up in his freezer.

that’s dark...

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t be one of those women that will be on this forum in 5 years, married to this guy, with two kids, and need advice on what you should do. You’re eyes are open, and you should be listening to your gut.

This! And that's the best case scenario. It the worst case you end up in his freezer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any guy who says sex should be rare to keep it special has some major issue going on. He's either gay, or hooked on porn, or thinks he deserves someone hotter than you.

OP: He claims he has a low sex drive.

I had a bf who claimed he had a low sex drive. Turns out he REALLY liked porn, and had some weird resentment thing where he thought he deserved a Hollywood actress (despite being unemployed and living at his mom's) and was upset I didn't measure up.

Seriously, dump this guy. He sounds like a loser.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any guy who says sex should be rare to keep it special has some major issue going on. He's either gay, or hooked on porn, or thinks he deserves someone hotter than you.

OP: He claims he has a low sex drive.

Go visit r\deadbedrooms on Reddit. This is going to be your life, except worse because this guy doesn't give you anything emotionally OR physically.

Please don’t be one of those women that will be on this forum in 5 years, married to this guy, with two kids, and need advice on what you should do. You’re eyes are open, and you should be listening to your gut.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any guy who says sex should be rare to keep it special has some major issue going on. He's either gay, or hooked on porn, or thinks he deserves someone hotter than you.

OP: He claims he has a low sex drive.

Who cares what he claims? He is not right for you. You are 32 and thinking you should settle. DON’T. But you need to drop him ASAP and stop wasting your time.

Anonymous wrote:Any guy who says sex should be rare to keep it special has some major issue going on. He's either gay, or hooked on porn, or thinks he deserves someone hotter than you.

OP: He claims he has a low sex drive.

🆘⚠️🛑 OP, RUN ‼️🛑⚠️🆘

The first example was enough alone. Invest in therapy so you can examine why you’re attracted to him. I wish you the best.

OP, come back and explain what the F you are thinking, tolerating this behavior. You didn’t break up with this dude after the last explosion.

Sorry, social isolation is making me more blunt than usual!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has some deep-seated problems which won't go away.

I would guess that he may have sexuality conflicts and you are his "cover" to make his life seem normal. His behavior indicates he is play-acting at an intimate relationship with you.

Reality may be that he purposely gets angry at you and shuns you for weeks at a time to go and explore his real desires … elsewhere.

OP: Interesting take! I’ve also considered this. What, to you, makes it seem like he’s play-acting at an intimate relationship?

EVERYTHING you wrote!!!!!!

The thing is, at the time OP asked him to move in together, he was already exhibiting this behavior. OP, why would you want a future with this guy??