40. Still Trying. But unlikely to be successful because we can’t continue fertility treatments and frankly need IVF.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

Omg just stop.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

I’m 31 and had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago and we plan on TTC again ASAP. It took 3 years for us to get pregnant (I have pcos) so I have 0 plans on waiting this out. I spoke to my fertility dr about this the other day and she said she completely understood and supported me TTC again within the next month.

We TTCd this week. Maybe it's stupid (this thread certainly makes me think so!) but we've been delaying for one crisis or another for years. I'm 40. Prior c-section with no plans to VBAC, so hospital supplies/infections at delivery time are a concern. If this month doesn't work, maybe I'll wait another couple months before trying again.

My good friend, also 40, is a doctor who is 20 weeks pregnant and working in pediatric pulmonology. FWIW she is not worried enough to stop working (then again, she doesn't get paid if she doesn't see patients).

I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

But if you get pregnant now you will give birth in January 2021, when in all likelihood the worst will be over. Obviously we don’t know that for sure but it will almost certainly be WAY better than now. (I hope all goes well for those of you due soon!)

You make good points of course. In an ideal world we’d wait a year, and probably younger people should do that. But we are also worried about age and fertility (already doing treatments). Still debating but leaning towards trying anyway...

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Anonymous wrote:Bump... any new thoughts? We are not delaying

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and I think anyone trying right now is making a big mistake. You won't get the level of prenatal care you want besides the fact that you automatically are high risk. I really don't want to be pregnant right now or giving birth during the surge. Even my level-headed OB doesn't like the timing. Imagine doctors not having the supplies they need to save your life. Fun times.

36 weeks pregnant right now with DC#2, and I agree with this PP. I am AMA and close enough to the end of pregnancy that I’m not having to skip or delay appointments, but I know plenty of women currently in 1st or 2nd trimester are having to do so, including time-critical scans and tests. I’d wait at least a few months, maybe into fall, to start trying. The last thing you want to do is contract COVID and end up running a high fever in your first trimester, when the fetus is most vulnerable. The thoughts of delivering now terrify me, what with the risks of being exposed at a hospital; the fact that, if I need a c section, my DH can’t be there (lack of PPE means some hospitals are banning partners from c sections); there’s a shortage in the blood supply; hospital staff are potentially overworked or asymptomatic carriers; the list goes on.

Anonymous wrote:Bump... any new thoughts? We are not delaying

I'm 34 weeks pregnant and I think anyone trying right now is making a big mistake. You won't get the level of prenatal care you want besides the fact that you automatically are high risk. I really don't want to be pregnant right now or giving birth during the surge. Even my level-headed OB doesn't like the timing. Imagine doctors not having the supplies they need to save your life. Fun times.

Bump... any new thoughts? We are not delaying

my doctor has said there is no need to delay TTC

It's a hard question. I don't think you will regret waiting, hopefully you won't regret trying. If this were zika and it were in this area I would def say wait. Covid 19 they aren't sure what the effects in the first trimester are on the pregnancy. The biggest thing we are currently setting is you will go to your appointments alone and possibly delivery on your own...

I am 36 and just found out I am pregnant with baby #2 a couple weeks ago.

I am high risk. I wish I had waited. Even if I wasn't high risk I don't want to be going to doctors apts now. I also do not need another thing to stress about right now.

I know that some people have fertility issues but honestly I think majority of ladies can get pregnant pretty easily in late 30s/early 40s. If you have no issues, just WAIT!

MayaJ wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we are. Comfort level is different for everyone, I guess. We have a three year old and I am 38, so we don't have a lot of time left if we want a second child, but being pregnant now and feeling sick/tired from pregnancy, layered with anxiety about corona, while also juggling demanding jobs and a preschooler... all seems like too much to take on right now. We're pausing for a month or two. I know this may mean we don't have a second child. Just wanted to show there are differing approaches out there.

You should be fine. I was pregnant on the first try at age 36, 39 and on the second try at age 43!

Not everyone is that lucky with their fertility.