Anonymous
03/19/2020 13:57
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Our town was just put on lock down, and our nanny will not continue to work. Do I need to still pay her? My husband thinks we should offer 1/2 pay, but I don't think we should pay her at all. It's certainly not my choice that she can't work. Thoughts?
Anonymous
03/18/2020 20:51
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny has much more social contact (friends, church, volunteer work) than we do. She would be really insulted if we told her to limit her social contact with others or stay home with pay. It would negatively affect our long and close relationship. Until someone shows signs of the illness, we are doing the recommended hand washing and social distancing outside the home.
I’d rather affect our long term relationship than have an employee who isn’t following the common sense guidelines of social distancing. She sounds like an idiot. And children are getting it. Your nanny could show no signs of illness and still give it to your children.
Anonymous
03/18/2020 20:48
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can ask, but have some back up ideas in case she says no.
You can ask? Lol you do what your boss says. Do you think the supervisors at restaurants, grocery stores, of police officers, nurses, even office workers are asking their employees if they feel like coming in? No, the boss decides if the employee is coming in or working from home. The employee listens If they want to continue getting paid.
I am an employer of a nanny and this is BS. We are in uncharted waters here. If being with the family is risking the nanny’s health, for example, because the family isn’t self isolating and socializing for pleasure or the nanny is over 60 or has underlying health issues that expose her, there should be a discussion and understanding and the nanny should be paid if she needs to stay home these next few weeks.
+1.
Anonymous
03/18/2020 17:23
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m a live in nanny to school age children. If schools close and camps are closed. I’m quitting. I work 5 am to 9 pm and the kids are in school or camp 7-5. I’m not working 16 hour days. Especially for the peanuts I make.
You work 6 hours a day right now, so I assume you are only paid for six hours. That’s why you make peanuts. It’s a pretty sweet gig if you also get room and board.
I also do all the errands, grocery shopping, cooking, laundry etc. schedule/ coordinate home and car maintenance.
This is a lot, but this is a good way to learn communication and conflict management. The parents, I presume, are busy. You are doing a lot. I would ask for a specific rate and suspension of all duties if you'r expected to do 9-6 childcare. Look up what a good rate is. If they won't do it (they'd be nuts not to), I agree that you should quit. That said, there are a lot of families who will be looking for help right now so you might be in a good position to find a better family because that sounds like quite a bit of work and pretty long hours for "peanuts." Our nanny is still only an after-school nanny. But she's starting an hour earlier. She is also not a live-in and only does a full day (kids' rooms and their laundry) once per week. I would find a request here more than reasonable.e
Good luck
Anonymous
03/15/2020 21:29
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can ask, but have some back up ideas in case she says no.
You can ask? Lol you do what your boss says. Do you think the supervisors at restaurants, grocery stores, of police officers, nurses, even office workers are asking their employees if they feel like coming in? No, the boss decides if the employee is coming in or working from home. The employee listens If they want to continue getting paid.
I am an employer of a nanny and this is BS. We are in uncharted waters here. If being with the family is risking the nanny’s health, for example, because the family isn’t self isolating and socializing for pleasure or the nanny is over 60 or has underlying health issues that expose her, there should be a discussion and understanding and the nanny should be paid if she needs to stay home these next few weeks.
Anonymous
03/14/2020 15:06
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Our nanny has much more social contact (friends, church, volunteer work) than we do. She would be really insulted if we told her to limit her social contact with others or stay home with pay. It would negatively affect our long and close relationship. Until someone shows signs of the illness, we are doing the recommended hand washing and social distancing outside the home.
Anonymous
03/14/2020 14:52
Subject: Re:nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny for a 3 and 5 year old, I'm in my mid-50's, pretty healthy. I have a husband and 2 teenage kids. The kids I nanny usually sit on my lap, and snuggle for books, or want to b carried up for naptime, and always seem to have a cough or a runny nose, and always stick their fingers in their mouths and noses......I am freaking out about working around them at this time. I don't want to get sick, or bring home Covid-19 to my family. How do I continue to do my job, but create "social distance" ie 6ish feet from kids who love to sit on my lap while we play games, do puzzles, read books? They attend a morning pre-school with kids whose parents work all over the town....so many germs!!! I have spoken to the whole family about keeping hands away from faces, and washing/sanitizing hands, but the reality is, it's a germ - fest, and I don't want to be in the middle of it now....but I need the $$$.
If the kids are with you and at home and not at school, where is the risk?
They are in school from 7:30-12:30, then I pick them up and care for them until 4:30. Their father is a high school teacher, their grandmother who lives in the home, is in her 60's has diabetes, works in a tech business, mother is a psychologist who travels by air every other week, just returned from DC and Tennessee where there are more cases than here.....
Anonymous
03/14/2020 07:20
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Our nanny is still coming because we still need her as we have to work. She's very close to our family of three and may bring her stepdaughter now that school is closed. Social distancing doesn't mean family distancing, and having an in home care provider is a lot like having an extended family. Also, we are certainly not under quarantine which would make things diffent thing. A small benefit to our nanny is her hours are shortened on each end because we don't need to get out the door for a commute. We are maintaining her same weekly salary though, of course.
Anonymous
03/14/2020 04:22
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
I’m a nanny and I’m working while the mom is home. I’m happy to go in and happy to still have a job! The mom won’t let me help her with lunch or dinners, but I’m trying to make her days easy working from home. The kids are doing remote learning.
Anonymous
03/14/2020 03:20
Subject: Re:nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny for a 3 and 5 year old, I'm in my mid-50's, pretty healthy. I have a husband and 2 teenage kids. The kids I nanny usually sit on my lap, and snuggle for books, or want to b carried up for naptime, and always seem to have a cough or a runny nose, and always stick their fingers in their mouths and noses......I am freaking out about working around them at this time. I don't want to get sick, or bring home Covid-19 to my family. How do I continue to do my job, but create "social distance" ie 6ish feet from kids who love to sit on my lap while we play games, do puzzles, read books? They attend a morning pre-school with kids whose parents work all over the town....so many germs!!! I have spoken to the whole family about keeping hands away from faces, and washing/sanitizing hands, but the reality is, it's a germ - fest, and I don't want to be in the middle of it now....but I need the $$$.
If the kids are with you and at home and not at school, where is the risk?
Anonymous
03/14/2020 02:51
Subject: Re:nanny working during coronavirus?
I'm a nanny for a 3 and 5 year old, I'm in my mid-50's, pretty healthy. I have a husband and 2 teenage kids. The kids I nanny usually sit on my lap, and snuggle for books, or want to b carried up for naptime, and always seem to have a cough or a runny nose, and always stick their fingers in their mouths and noses......I am freaking out about working around them at this time. I don't want to get sick, or bring home Covid-19 to my family. How do I continue to do my job, but create "social distance" ie 6ish feet from kids who love to sit on my lap while we play games, do puzzles, read books? They attend a morning pre-school with kids whose parents work all over the town....so many germs!!! I have spoken to the whole family about keeping hands away from faces, and washing/sanitizing hands, but the reality is, it's a germ - fest, and I don't want to be in the middle of it now....but I need the $$$.
Anonymous
03/13/2020 22:41
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can ask, but have some back up ideas in case she says no.
You can ask? Lol you do what your boss says. Do you think the supervisors at restaurants, grocery stores, of police officers, nurses, even office workers are asking their employees if they feel like coming in? No, the boss decides if the employee is coming in or working from home. The employee listens If they want to continue getting paid.
Um, nanny jobs are a dime a dozen. Sorry!
Anonymous
03/13/2020 22:39
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:You can ask, but have some back up ideas in case she says no.
You can ask? Lol you do what your boss says. Do you think the supervisors at restaurants, grocery stores, of police officers, nurses, even office workers are asking their employees if they feel like coming in? No, the boss decides if the employee is coming in or working from home. The employee listens If they want to continue getting paid.
Anonymous
03/13/2020 22:03
Subject: nanny working during coronavirus?
Many parents are in health care or essential government personal
Anonymous
03/13/2020 21:45
Subject: Re:nanny working during coronavirus?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there is a quarantine in place, or we have reason to believe we may have the virus beyond the background rest we all have, no, our nanny would not come to work. Nor would she come to work if there is any recommendation that people take more extreme measures that are currently advised. As of now, there is no advice not to leave homes, and not to attend places with small numbers of people. As of now, though, both she and we are comfortable with her coming to work. She has worked with us for over a decade, and we speak with each other a very directly. We have told her that if she is at all uncomfortable at any time, for any reason, she should just let us know and not come. And, of course, we are paying her for any time she misses due to the virus or any concerns she may have.
You are a caring boss and your nanny is very lucky. I’ve been with my family about the same length of time and the expect me to be here, no matter what. I’m willing to do that, but they refuse to limit their social activities or that of the kids. They will be working from home and schools will be closed. They plan to be out and about. I’m limiting myself to work and right home. It’s an impossible situation and very upsetting.
I’d be looking for a new position.
+1. You’re working for self-centered idiots.
The irony
She’ll be looking for a new position in the future. “I’ll” means “I will”. If she said “I am” you’d have a point.