Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:58
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
There are threads on here almost daily telling shams to get a job or criticizing them or asking them what they call themselves if their kids are in shool because they aren't sahms then. I would say about half of the posters here are far more vicious to sahms than a jokey post by a tired working dad.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:57
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
I am shocked at the pettiness. Be kind. And if you must, after you’ve helped out a fellow parent, mention nicely that his comment - which he obviously meant as a joke that fell very flat- wasn’t cool. Give people the benefit of the doubt. He probably wasn’t trying to be an ass.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:57
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Are you all really this petty and spiteful in real life?
This board sometimes shocks me. I am so glad that the people around me near really no resemblance to this board. I don't know anyone in real life who acts the way people on here post that they do.
Yeah, lots of crazy posters. IRL, most people I know are regular non-crazy people.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:55
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Are you all really this petty and spiteful in real life?
This board sometimes shocks me. I am so glad that the people around me near really no resemblance to this board. I don't know anyone in real life who acts the way people on here post that they do.
This board sometimes shocks me. I am so glad that the people around me near really no resemblance to this board. I don't know anyone in real life who acts the way people on here post that they do.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:54
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
And I'm not going to help someone who is critical of my lifestyle.
All of you know that "joke" was really how he feels. He's judging her and he thinks he knows what's best for her.
All of you know that "joke" was really how he feels. He's judging her and he thinks he knows what's best for her.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:52
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Hey OP, didn't you have that thing to do after school that day?
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:50
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.
Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.
+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.
I’m a SAHM of two. It IS exhausting and neither kid is in school yet. Occasionally I get my mom to take them both and I aimlessly shop at Target or HomeGoods OR if I can get my husband to do the drop off on his way to work then I stay home and sleep. Both options are glorious. I’m on FB all the time but NEVER would I make an obnoxious post bragging about my free time. At most I’d mention it directly to other SAHM friends at a later time who get how nice a middle of the day break is but it’s childish and silly to make a FB status about it. Clearly OP has learned this and left social media but I think she asked for it in this case and shouldn’t be petty to the neighbor. If neighbor dad lashed out on a non-bragging post (ex. if she posted something sentimental about sending her last little one off to school instead of bragging about lounging around and doing nothing and he still told her to go get a job) then I’d feel differently.
GMAFB. Neither you, nor her neighbor, get to decide what is ok for her to post on FB. You don’t get to decide that someone else’s post is “childish”. Maybe she had no SAHM friends to vent to. Maybe she wasn’t lucky enough to have her mom local so she could occasionally go to Target alone. Maybe her DH couldn’t do drop off (exactly where is he dropping them off anyway, since you say you’re a SAHM?) ever and she almost never got a break. Maybe her last kid was an extra handful. Maybe she stresses out more easily than you. Maybe, maybe, maybe. People are different. Stop acting like you’re so perfect.
Yes, poor her. Because of a comment made online months ago, she should definitely take the low road and refuse to help a fellow parent. With a detailed explanation why!
Because she definitely has some sort of reason or excuse. Her life is worse than PP's, than the neighbors', than mine. In the hard-done-by Olympics.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:48
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.
Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.
+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.
I’m a SAHM of two. It IS exhausting and neither kid is in school yet. Occasionally I get my mom to take them both and I aimlessly shop at Target or HomeGoods OR if I can get my husband to do the drop off on his way to work then I stay home and sleep. Both options are glorious. I’m on FB all the time but NEVER would I make an obnoxious post bragging about my free time. At most I’d mention it directly to other SAHM friends at a later time who get how nice a middle of the day break is but it’s childish and silly to make a FB status about it. Clearly OP has learned this and left social media but I think she asked for it in this case and shouldn’t be petty to the neighbor. If neighbor dad lashed out on a non-bragging post (ex. if she posted something sentimental about sending her last little one off to school instead of bragging about lounging around and doing nothing and he still told her to go get a job) then I’d feel differently.
GMAFB. Neither you, nor her neighbor, get to decide what is ok for her to post on FB. You don’t get to decide that someone else’s post is “childish”. Maybe she had no SAHM friends to vent to. Maybe she wasn’t lucky enough to have her mom local so she could occasionally go to Target alone. Maybe her DH couldn’t do drop off (exactly where is he dropping them off anyway, since you say you’re a SAHM?) ever and she almost never got a break. Maybe her last kid was an extra handful. Maybe she stresses out more easily than you. Maybe, maybe, maybe. People are different. Stop acting like you’re so perfect.
NP. Of course not! But everyone gets to judge it and feel however they want about it. That's THE nature of social media. Don't like it? Don't post. You sound nuts.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:46
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.
Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.
+1. The people saying it was an obnoxious post have obviously never spent time as a stay at home parent. It is exhausting and 24/7. Nothing wrong with being excited to get a little time to yourself back.
I’m a SAHM of two. It IS exhausting and neither kid is in school yet. Occasionally I get my mom to take them both and I aimlessly shop at Target or HomeGoods OR if I can get my husband to do the drop off on his way to work then I stay home and sleep. Both options are glorious. I’m on FB all the time but NEVER would I make an obnoxious post bragging about my free time. At most I’d mention it directly to other SAHM friends at a later time who get how nice a middle of the day break is but it’s childish and silly to make a FB status about it. Clearly OP has learned this and left social media but I think she asked for it in this case and shouldn’t be petty to the neighbor. If neighbor dad lashed out on a non-bragging post (ex. if she posted something sentimental about sending her last little one off to school instead of bragging about lounging around and doing nothing and he still told her to go get a job) then I’d feel differently.
GMAFB. Neither you, nor her neighbor, get to decide what is ok for her to post on FB. You don’t get to decide that someone else’s post is “childish”. Maybe she had no SAHM friends to vent to. Maybe she wasn’t lucky enough to have her mom local so she could occasionally go to Target alone. Maybe her DH couldn’t do drop off (exactly where is he dropping them off anyway, since you say you’re a SAHM?) ever and she almost never got a break. Maybe her last kid was an extra handful. Maybe she stresses out more easily than you. Maybe, maybe, maybe. People are different. Stop acting like you’re so perfect.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:43
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Say no. But simply say no, without explanation, and without vengeance.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:42
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.
This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.
I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.
You sound a little unhinged.
+1 and insecure
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:41
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He asked a yes or no question. You have two ways to respond. Yes. Or. No.
This.
Also, stop musing on FB. It’s not your diary or journal.
I regret posting it and I’ve since deleted my account because I assessed my behavior and believe it’s desperate to post on FB. But he’s still a jerk who can’t stop wondering when I’m going to get a job.
You sound a little unhinged.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:40
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
He needs help and you have help to give. Decide the kind of person you want to be.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:35
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Honestly it sound alike e posted it as smoke and probably hashing since forgotten it.
Don't make mountains out do molehills. Women hold on to such petty gripes. You posted something braggy, he joked back. Both were kind of obnoxious but likely you are the only one who has spent two months stewing about this.
I would take the kid. I know that goes against the be as spiteful, bitter, and resentful attitude that most here usually suggest but in the grand scheme of life, it was a joke that fell flat.
Or stay spiteful and bitter and say no and maybe make another snarky remark on York Facebook about him.
Don't make mountains out do molehills. Women hold on to such petty gripes. You posted something braggy, he joked back. Both were kind of obnoxious but likely you are the only one who has spent two months stewing about this.
I would take the kid. I know that goes against the be as spiteful, bitter, and resentful attitude that most here usually suggest but in the grand scheme of life, it was a joke that fell flat.
Or stay spiteful and bitter and say no and maybe make another snarky remark on York Facebook about him.
Anonymous
03/01/2020 21:32
Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re both asshats. You deserve each other. Yes, he’s a jerk. Don’t help him. But you behaved badly too, so just drop it and continue with your resolution to do and be better.
Having free time is a type of privilege. You used your FB post to rub your privilege in others’ faces. He’s probably not the only one who was miffed. He’s just the only one who’s struggling enough to have lashed out, or who lacks the social awareness to just keep quiet.
I agree with this. You both sound like asshats.
+1. I probably wouldn't have said anything, but I would have been miffed by the absolutely tone-deaf post. Agree with the SAHM above; know your audience.