Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should charge you a storage fee. It's your job to throw out the stuff you no longer value that they have been holding for you. You really are a brat.

Jesus. You people really do not get it. This is not a situation where I have used my parents for storage. I’ve always liberally purges garbage and did not (intentionally) leave anything behind.

Then the next time you go to visit their house you say "I'm so glad that you've been sending me my old things that you've been keeping all these years. Is there anything else you have of mine that you'd like to pass on to me? I can take it now and then you don't have to keep sending it." When she brings out the old decaying box of stuff you had no idea existed, you thank her, put it in your rental car and take it to the supermarket and put it in the dumpster out back. Then it won't keep coming to you in packages in the mail.

NP — This is great advice. So many posters here are tone deaf.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if they recently divorced and never remarried they prob both downsized into a condo or apartment, so no, they don't have room for your K-12 memories, clothes, bathroom stuff, toys.

They divorced when I was 2 and have lived in their respective homes for minimum 15 years.

OP, it’s your stuff. Go find as much as you can and get rid of it. When they find more and send it to you, pitch it. Take responsibility and stop whining. This is on you.

It is, without question, not on me. I don’t know why my parents are doing this, but it is not due to anything I did.

You sound so obnoxious.

Don't want it? Toss it. Your parents clearly don't want it either.

OP you don't sound very appreciative.

In the last 4 years both of my parents downsized and we got boxes and boxes of stuff in the mail.

A lot of it went straight into the trash/recycle bin.

Some of it I scanned before tossing.

And some of it was still usefull or stuff I'm glad was saved and some if was my brother or sisters.

There is no way it would have been reasonable for my parents to have known all of this and I'm just grateful they took the time and spent the money to ship everything out - it is certainly less stressful to have them do it than me especially since this presumably would be another task to deal with after they pass away.

And I'm incredulous you really managed to completely clear your house of your old stuff and got boxes of old hair bands. But if both of those things are true it is still a weird thing to come to DCUM to complain about.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They should charge you a storage fee. It's your job to throw out the stuff you no longer value that they have been holding for you. You really are a brat.

Jesus. You people really do not get it. This is not a situation where I have used my parents for storage. I’ve always liberally purges garbage and did not (intentionally) leave anything behind.

Then the next time you go to visit their house you say "I'm so glad that you've been sending me my old things that you've been keeping all these years. Is there anything else you have of mine that you'd like to pass on to me? I can take it now and then you don't have to keep sending it." When she brings out the old decaying box of stuff you had no idea existed, you thank her, put it in your rental car and take it to the supermarket and put it in the dumpster out back. Then it won't keep coming to you in packages in the mail.

I get it, PP. It’s not you; it’s them. My MIL wastes cross country postage sending us nonsense. Mostly thrift store and dollar store junk that we immediately donate or trash. They like doing it, so we don’t tell them not to. Just let it go.

Good grief. Deal we with it.

My in-laws bring boxes every time. Dh is unorganized and can’t deal but I sort through it all quickly. Idk it doesn’t bother me. Dh was trying to keep some piece of pottery he made at 5. But he didn’t want to display it, just wanted to send it to the attic. Nope.

Some stuff I’ve found is cute. None of it I really like. Maybe the kids will like his LEGO’s when they’re older. The stuff from my parents is amazing though. I had one heck of a Barbie collection. And I can’t wait until dd is a bit older for my American dolls and all their furniture. She loves dolls but is too young to care completely yet. We read my books from my childhood nightly. Classics don’t go out of style. My kids sleep in their great great grandmothers furniture. Sweet, classic beds and solid dressers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if they recently divorced and never remarried they prob both downsized into a condo or apartment, so no, they don't have room for your K-12 memories, clothes, bathroom stuff, toys.

They divorced when I was 2 and have lived in their respective homes for minimum 15 years.

OP, it’s your stuff. Go find as much as you can and get rid of it. When they find more and send it to you, pitch it. Take responsibility and stop whining. This is on you.

It is, without question, not on me. I don’t know why my parents are doing this, but it is not due to anything I did.

Anonymous wrote:They should charge you a storage fee. It's your job to throw out the stuff you no longer value that they have been holding for you. You really are a brat.

Jesus. You people really do not get it. This is not a situation where I have used my parents for storage. I’ve always liberally purges garbage and did not (intentionally) leave anything behind.

NP. There must be ways of giving your opinion without shaming the OP.

My mom used to display awards and trophies that I or my siblings had received from school in a cabinet. I’m talking about trophies from elementary school and up. Her idea to store them in a display cabinet, not ours. Recently, she gave me a bag full of these awards and trophies. I didn’t even know she was saving these. Anyway now I have a bunch of trophies with my name on it. Is there a place other than the dump for these things?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if they recently divorced and never remarried they prob both downsized into a condo or apartment, so no, they don't have room for your K-12 memories, clothes, bathroom stuff, toys.

They divorced when I was 2 and have lived in their respective homes for minimum 15 years.

OP, it’s your stuff. Go find as much as you can and get rid of it. When they find more and send it to you, pitch it. Take responsibility and stop whining. This is on you.

Hmmm.

My parents send me my old books from France.
They are for my children, to keep up their French. It would be difficult or impossible to find them here.

I’m grateful they’re willing to pay the exorbitant postage.

For your situation, I would just thank them, and offer to pick up that stuff when you visit next time.

They should charge you a storage fee. It's your job to throw out the stuff you no longer value that they have been holding for you. You really are a brat.

Anonymous wrote:if they recently divorced and never remarried they prob both downsized into a condo or apartment, so no, they don't have room for your K-12 memories, clothes, bathroom stuff, toys.

They divorced when I was 2 and have lived in their respective homes for minimum 15 years.