Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How exactly does one spouse "kick out" a co-owner of their house?
+1. Unless there is more to the story than you’re saying, brace yourself. You have the ability to refinance but you don’t have the right to make him leave or to force the sale in the way you seem to think.
And I’d expect him to come back once he realizes this.
Well I hope he just takes the cash I will give him and gets himself an apartment. Not sure why 2 adults without kids divorcing needs to be a big deal. I actually don't think this will be a problem for us. We both keep it very clean financially and we don't have financial disagreements or issues. Cut in the middle and done.
Does he have student loan debt?
Anonymous wrote:
1. Most adults have a very poor understanding of female fertility and how it plummets in their 30s. Your husband was probably not aware of how risky it was to wait. Moreover, this board is full of lucky 30-somethings who somehow got pregnant after multiple failed attempts, aided by technology, so it can happen.
2. If your husband does not want children at all, yes, you could divorce. But if he does, why don't you adopt? You are not too old for that, and with your profiles, I'm sure you two would be attractive. I know a couple of academics who adopted domestically when they were 50.
Anonymous wrote:Well how can you get pregnant if you kick out the man who’s supposed to get you pregnant?
You’re not 40 or 45. You’re 35 and you still have time. Yeah he was trying to pursue a career, but how can you have kids and have no way of paying for them? Kids are expensive.
Sorry but you sound selfish and it’s all about you. Good things come to those that wait.
Anonymous wrote:Sorry but you sound selfish and it’s all about you. Good things come to those that wait.
I disagree. Op waited 5 prime years...not for husbay to get tenure but yo get tenure track! That should happen in a year or two, not at age 35ish.
If it's DH failed to get a tenure track job, he should have accepted he's not competitive, deferred to his well.paid wife and started a family while they still could.
Op sacrificed fertility and has multiple m/c do DH could pursue his dream.
Sorry op, I feel for you and understand why you're done.
Sorry but you sound selfish and it’s all about you. Good things come to those that wait.
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t even meet my husband until I was 36, and 15 years later we’re married with two kids. If you really want children, op, it’s way too early to throw in the towel at 35 and one year of trying. If you want kids with him, work on solutions for that, if you went to divorce him, then move forward on that, but to say you’re not ever having kids because you didn’t start trying until you were 34, well that is just not reality.
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like it's for the best, OP. He's not the right person for you.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How exactly does one spouse "kick out" a co-owner of their house?
+1. Unless there is more to the story than you’re saying, brace yourself. You have the ability to refinance but you don’t have the right to make him leave or to force the sale in the way you seem to think.
And I’d expect him to come back once he realizes this.
Well I hope he just takes the cash I will give him and gets himself an apartment. Not sure why 2 adults without kids divorcing needs to be a big deal. I actually don't think this will be a problem for us. We both keep it very clean financially and we don't have financial disagreements or issues. Cut in the middle and done.
Does he have student loan debt?