Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some kids do decide to stop using diapers and potty train themselves. I've noticed these kids seem to have older siblings fwiw so maybe that has something to do with it.
Other kids literally will wear diapers as long as they are given an option. I know one kid who turns 4 next month. His parents weakly attempted to train around 2.5 and gave up after 1 day due to "too many accidents". After that, his parents hoped and prayed the kid would magically decide one day to potty train himself (they also seem to be rather lax in other aspects of parenting from what I've seen). He is sent to daycare in underwear daily and still has multiple pee and poop accidents a day, resulting in being in pullups by pickup. Kid literally DNAF.
Also perhaps my kid was advanced or something but I disagree that every single child needs regular assistance until they are 3. I do assist with wiping poop, more for my own anxiety about cleanliness than his ability, but he's been independently going pee since age 2y4m, (meaning he self initiated, manuevered pants, flushed and washed). Heck he was completely out of diapers entirely by 2y9m, night trained himself. We day trained right at 2.
The parents who can’t potty train are ALWAYS lazy in other areas. They are typically enablers. Usually there is a mom who is enables the husband to do very little. The kids usually have bad sleep habits, parents have no social life outside of kids and kids are behind other kids when it comes to things like being able to be left at preschool, with a babysitter without having a meltdown.
There are a variety of reasons to delay. Sometimes you Don’t know what method to use, but you’re researching. Sometimes you know that there’s going to be a big change, And you know that you don’t want to backslide.
As I said, I trained six kids between 16 months and three years in a couple months. According to my mother I was potty trained before my sister was born when I was 13 months. According to my grandmother, my mother was potty trained before her brother was born when she was 18 months. Potty training early takes more effort, Ime. But since there’s no possibility of a poop phobia that early, I’d much rather go that way.