Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

Don't you change their diaper in the middle of the night? Every time baby woke, I'd change and feed them. Baby slept in our room, and I would get out of bed, take them next door to the nursery, change/feed/swaddle and then it was back to their bassinet (I would then have to pump after, but that was a different story...) I tried to avoid baby nursing in bed, because, for me, I was concerned it would lead to baby sleeping in bed, and I didn't want to start that habit. Baby was sleeping 5-6 hours stretches by 8 weeks, so I was only getting up once or twice a night.

Six months to the day. That was also around the time that the baby started going to sleep at 7:30 pm and was much more sensitive to noise and light when sleeping. We followed his lead on setting up a sleep schedule (picking and choosing our battles and what not). Had he been falling asleep by 7:30 pm at an earlier age, we would have made the switch then.

Anonymous wrote:6 years with first child. She transitioned willingly when baby brother came along.

2 years with second. We had a full bed and a long bed on the master bedroom.

King bed in the master.

6 years with first child. She transitioned willingly when baby brother came along.

2 years with second. We had a full bed and a long bed on the master bedroom.

You know what's healthy for infants? Two parents who stay married, get enough sleep and are rested to take care of the baby!

5 months with first, which felt like too long, so 3 months with second.

Anonymous wrote:AAP recommendation is based on a study where parents in certain categories were less responsive to children unless the child was crying in the same room, in their face. These were parents in lower SES, with stress factors like poverty, substance abuse, etc. But AAP cant say “if you are poor, we recommend X”, thus the blanket recommendation for everyone.

Ah! This makes perfect sense! Thank you for shedding some light on this stupid recommendation. I’m guessing the aap is hoping that parents are less likely to do drugs if the kid is in the same room as you are...

8 months

5 months. My number one advice to my friends who have their first kid is to kick baby out as quickly as possible - baby and parents sleep better.

We did the full year. A snoo next to my side of bed for five or six months and a crib in our room for the remainder of the year.

DH didn’t sleep well but it was so much easier for me nursing at night to have him in our room. We’ll do the same with this new baby.

AAP recommendation is based on a study where parents in certain categories were less responsive to children unless the child was crying in the same room, in their face. These were parents in lower SES, with stress factors like poverty, substance abuse, etc. But AAP cant say “if you are poor, we recommend X”, thus the blanket recommendation for everyone.

8 months for first kid, 7 months for second kid. I loved sharing a room w our first as he was a great sleeper and we all slept well. Didn’t feel compelled to move him until he started standing up in the crib staring at us and wanting to “talk” to us and play right when he woke up and then it felt like the right time for him to have his own room. Second kid was a terrible sleeper and we all slept horribly w her in the room but I had this (in retrospect) ridiculous idea that things should be “fair” and so I wanted to make it to 8 months w her in our room too like w our first. But I couldn’t do it. We all slept so much better once she moved out that I wished we had done that a lot sooner. They were both in full size cribs in our room though. If they had been in pack n plays I wouldn’t have kept them there that long as pack n plays don’t seem like good long term sleeping places.

Six months. For us, we wanted to follow the AAP's minimum + six months is when we transitioned from the snoo in our room to the crib in her nursery.

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Anonymous wrote:AAP says to roomshare until 12 months because roomsharing is a protective factor against SIDS. But if there are no risk factors (e.g. loose blankets in the crib, parent smoking, medical conditions) for SIDS, the chances of SIDS are very, very low. Especially after 4 months.

I stopped sleeping in the nursery at 4 months. I think that might be part of the reason DH and I are still married.

Hilarious. They changed this to six months. Sucks you were following this advice and didn’t get any sleep.

They say roomshare for 6 months and ideally for the first year. I said I stopped sleeping in the same room with my baby at 4 months so I'm not sure why you think I was following the 12 month advice lol.

Anonymous wrote:AAP says to roomshare until 12 months because roomsharing is a protective factor against SIDS. But if there are no risk factors (e.g. loose blankets in the crib, parent smoking, medical conditions) for SIDS, the chances of SIDS are very, very low. Especially after 4 months.

I stopped sleeping in the nursery at 4 months. I think that might be part of the reason DH and I are still married.

Hilarious. They changed this to six months. Sucks you were following this advice and didn’t get any sleep.