Anonymous
01/04/2020 20:15
Subject: How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:This thread is so sad.
Why is it sad? Not everyone enjoys sex. People are different
Anonymous
01/04/2020 20:12
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.
I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.
Love is not sex.
It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.
No it’s not. It’s a way to satisfy a physical pleasure. It’s not love.
It can be purely about physical pleasure, but it can also be a powerful way of expressing love. Not the only way to express love, of course, but a powerful way.
I don't know why that's controversial.
It’s one way.., not the only way, why is that controversial.
When did I say it was the only way? PPs have said "It's a way to satisfy physical pleasure. It's not love." That's simply untrue.
It’s very true. It’s not love. It’s a way to physically enjoy each other... just like a massage, or drinking champagne or enjoying a dance.... it’s not love:
Its not necessary for love.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 20:08
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.
I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.
Love is not sex.
It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.
No it’s not. It’s a way to satisfy a physical pleasure. It’s not love.
It can be purely about physical pleasure, but it can also be a powerful way of expressing love. Not the only way to express love, of course, but a powerful way.
I don't know why that's controversial.
It’s one way.., not the only way, why is that controversial.
When did I say it was the only way? PPs have said "It's a way to satisfy physical pleasure. It's not love." That's simply untrue.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 20:07
Subject: How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wow, all this duty sex is making me sad. You could never convince me to get married again. I love having a GF with nearly the same sex drive as me. If there came a time when she didn't want sex, she wouldn't do it anyway "for the sake of our marriage," or to not break my heart. She just wouldn't do it and I'd move on to the next. If there is one thing I've learned from this board, if you don't want to get stuck in sexless marriage, don't get married. You have all scared me straight and I thank you for that.
Same here brother!
My DH is in sexless marriage and we are not even married. I wished he'd move on to the next. I wish he'd offer to help me move out. I wish he'd suggest I'd move out. If I do it, I'm the bad person. I wish we'd said it at the same time.
I never want to have sex again. Well, maybe 10 years from now.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 20:06
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Not me!!!! Love to have sex with DH and wish it were more than once a week!
So if he wanted it 1x per month you would leave him?
Anonymous
01/04/2020 20:02
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Not me!!!! Love to have sex with DH and wish it were more than once a week!
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:57
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.
I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.
Love is not sex.
It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.
No it’s not. It’s a way to satisfy a physical pleasure. It’s not love.
It can be purely about physical pleasure, but it can also be a powerful way of expressing love. Not the only way to express love, of course, but a powerful way.
I don't know why that's controversial.
It’s one way.., not the only way, why is that controversial.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:56
Subject: How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:I think the “never” part of subject question is really skewing the results. Rephrase this as “twice per year” and 90% of women would happily agree. My wife definitely! Yet she still plays along twice per week for my sake.
Yes I was thinking the same thing. Never, nah, but a couple times a year heck yes.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:56
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Yes! I’d be totally fine- like many others have commented I don’t need/want sex at all. Probably because it’s very physically painful for me.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:52
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.
I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.
Love is not sex.
It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.
No it’s not. It’s a way to satisfy a physical pleasure. It’s not love.
It can be purely about physical pleasure, but it can also be a powerful way of expressing love. Not the only way to express love, of course, but a powerful way.
I don't know why that's controversial.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:49
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he was okay with me self satisfying once or twice a week, yes it’s fine.
I could not imagine tossing my H aside if he did not want sex.
Love is not sex.
It can be a way of expressing love. I think your statement is way too general. You can have love without sex or sex without love. You can't generalize about the relationship between the two.
No it’s not. It’s a way to satisfy a physical pleasure. It’s not love.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:47
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, I’m 64 and I still really like that my husband wants to pound the mattress with me at least once a week. It may be for his pleasure but I get off on it too.
Gross
Why gross?
NP, trying to get the visual out of my head of senior citizens "pounding mattress"
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:29
Subject: How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
This thread is so sad.
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:20
Subject: How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
No. We have sex almost everyday. I have a very high sex drive and love sex. I can’t understand why any one wouldn’t want sex with someone they love. Sex feels great!
Anonymous
01/04/2020 19:06
Subject: Re:How many women would be fine to never have sex with DH if it didn't bother them?
Anonymous wrote:[b]I slept with over 50 guys before marrying my DH at 30 (and he knows this), so my wild oats were largely taken care of. Once or twice a week satisfies me these days (two kids and 15 years of marriage).
Gross.