They might have an open marriage, unbeknownst to you.

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Anonymous wrote:But: why would a man even with low libido tolerate having a wife who cheats around and is just using you for your money?

Maybe she makes a good meat loaf, and is worth keeping around.
If sex isn't important to you, then you do not care who your spouse is having sex with.
Props to him for not being a massive hypocrite (like the DCUM sexless wives brigade).

Tell me more about the DCUM sexless wives brigade.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If they have kids, because he will more likely than not lose the kids and often get every other weekend and maybe one week day in less she moves away and then at best one holiday and 1/2 the summers.

This isn't at all true in NOVA. If you want 50/50 you'll get it.

Is this really true? How do you know?

1. Consulted several divorce lawyers, who all said this
2. Wanted and got 50/50 myself

This is probably the wrong message thread but I'd love to have more information on how to get my kid more. It's closer to a 40-60 split now and I'd like that reversed.

courts are very reluctant to change an existing custody agreement without very good evidence that the new arrangement is vastly better in terms of the children’s best interests (not your interests or your convenience). In addition, asking for such a small custodial change is a waste of the court’s time unless it results in a significant improvement in the child’s best interests.

The time to ask for 50/50 is at the first custody agreement. And if you want to be sure you get 50/50, then you have to be sure you are doing 50% of the parenting prior to the divorce.

Were you 50/50 parent before divorce and did you ask for 50/50 at first custody agreement? If yes to both, what were the reasons you did not get 50/50?

If he no longer values his marriage it is probably not worth dealing with for him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they have kids, because he will more likely than not lose the kids and often get every other weekend and maybe one week day in less she moves away and then at best one holiday and 1/2 the summers.

This isn't at all true in NOVA. If you want 50/50 you'll get it.

Is this really true? How do you know?

1. Consulted several divorce lawyers, who all said this
2. Wanted and got 50/50 myself

This is probably the wrong message thread but I'd love to have more information on how to get my kid more. It's closer to a 40-60 split now and I'd like that reversed.