I wonder what the correlation is between people who have unsatisfactory or non existent marital sex lives and cheating? I’m sure there are some people with great sex lives who cheat but I’m sure they are in the minority.

Anonymous wrote:Not sure of the percentage but the recent popularity of DNA kits are showing women cheat at a much higher rate than previously believed

Have you come across any more or less reliable statistics on this? It was a talking point on Red Pill forums back when I used to read them. But a huge chunk of the people on those sites were full of shit.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you all smokin? Tinder, bumble, cheating has never been higher, and I bet more women cheat than men. They have more options. I bet 75 percent of married couples will cheat at some point.

Can I have $10 for every percentage that you are off?

No way it's that high.

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Think about your social circle / kids friends' parents etc - think of how many unattractive / likely sexless people there are.

You made my point. They are sexless at home, so they’ll jump at the chance to cheat and they do.

So what does this mean for the attractive people? I wonder what the percentage of attractive and in shape people is that end up cheating. They are the ones with the most opportunity.

Anonymous wrote:The first google result says 45-50% of women and 50-60% of men cheat. Seems about right from what I have seen (and I assume the percentage of men would be higher if men had game).

Given the divorce rate that’s probably correct. We’ve been married 34 years and I’ve never cheated and I’d be very surprised if my husband has given the relationship we have but I guess you never really know. I get all of the sexual fulfillment I need at home and I get no complaints from my husband as over time I’ve gotten more and more adventurous even at the age of 60. But if didn’t enjoy sex and shut it off like many seem to do the odds of my husband cheating would definitely increase. We have a lot of friends who have been married 25+ years and none of them seem the type but again, who knows?

The first google result says 45-50% of women and 50-60% of men cheat. Seems about right from what I have seen (and I assume the percentage of men would be higher if men had game).

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Anonymous wrote:What are you all smokin? Tinder, bumble, cheating has never been higher, and I bet more women cheat than men. They have more options. I bet 75 percent of married couples will cheat at some point.

Can I have $10 for every percentage that you are off?

No way it's that high.

+1

Think about your social circle / kids friends' parents etc - think of how many unattractive / likely sexless people there are.

You made my point. They are sexless at home, so they’ll jump at the chance to cheat and they do.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you all smokin? Tinder, bumble, cheating has never been higher, and I bet more women cheat than men. They have more options. I bet 75 percent of married couples will cheat at some point.

Can I have $10 for every percentage that you are off?

No way it's that high.

NP here, and I would bet its that high if the question is has one of the people in the relationship cheated and you poll people married 25 years or more.

But I agree some of this is perspective. I definitely associate with an attractive, extroverted crowd and infidelity rates are probably close to 100% at some point (not saying everyone is cheating all the time).

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Anonymous wrote:What are you all smokin? Tinder, bumble, cheating has never been higher, and I bet more women cheat than men. They have more options. I bet 75 percent of married couples will cheat at some point.

Can I have $10 for every percentage that you are off?

No way it's that high.

+1

Think about your social circle / kids friends' parents etc - think of how many unattractive / likely sexless people there are.

Anonymous wrote:What are you all smokin? Tinder, bumble, cheating has never been higher, and I bet more women cheat than men. They have more options. I bet 75 percent of married couples will cheat at some point.

Can I have $10 for every percentage that you are off?

No way it's that high.

What are you all smokin? Tinder, bumble, cheating has never been higher, and I bet more women cheat than men. They have more options. I bet 75 percent of married couples will cheat at some point.

If you spend time on DCUM, the percentage is roughly 85%-90%.

The people who dont are boring and losers.

Anonymous wrote:Married 20. Traveled extensively on work (20 trips a year) for most of the 20. Never cheated. Couple of times at a strip club with the guys when at one of those “corporate training retreats”. Once a lap dance.

Spouse travels too. Would be surprised if she cheated.

Good for you poster on not cheating.

See this is what I mean that like minded people hang around with other like minded people. Therefore when cheaters post that all men cheat, it’s just as wrong as my belief that most men don’t cheat because of who is around me.

Anonymous wrote:Not sure of the percentage but the recent popularity of DNA kits are showing women cheat at a much higher rate than previously believed

Yep. They can't hide it as easily

I think it depends on your immediate social circle. I think people who tended to wait until they were exclusively dating are less likely. I think people who did more casual encounters and ONS before marriage are more likely to cheat. I think people tend to congregate together (in social circles) with like people.

DH and I are in our 50’s and while there have been a few divorces in our circle, none have been for infidelity. In our families, I had one cousin who divorced fans a result his wife’s infidelity. He has been married to his second wife for almost 30 years. Another cousin divorced for other reasons. Basically the same in DH’s family. We are all boring and lean toward the nerd.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband travels for work a lot and I have tons of fantasies about having a fling while he is gone. Totally unrealistic because we have a five year old at home but I semi-obsess with it while he’s gone. We are fairly happily married with not terrible if boring sex life, and I am definitely not interested in divorce ( he is a really good dad). I don’t think I could actually cheat but I wonder how common, particularly for people who keep it secret and stay married, particularly women. FWIW, I am fairly certain he is faithful.

OP, I do not know the % of people that cheat. But, I would wager a $10 bet that you will cheat. It is a very slippery slope.

Can you talk to your DH about this? I am sure he feels the same about being semi obsessed with sleeping with another. Perhaps you could spice up your sex life with the idea or come to an agreement on what you could each do outside the marriage.

Short answer is cheating is very common. If you start mixing with the professionally successful and attractive crowd that travels for work, it seems universal