Especially since you said nothing about him retiring out of the federal system / military under the age 30.

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Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

Pension is not alimony.

Correct but she also alimony for 10 years.

Wait... what??

You just told us she gets "life long alimony" and now you're saying she got alimony for 10 years??

Again, I call BS.
You either lied when you said she gets life long alimony, or you're lying now... which is it?

Pro tip: "life long alimony" was a thing about 30 years ago, however as I said earlier; to receive it today would be virtually impossible for someone that was only married 10 short years -- no matter what state this occurred.

She may be getting half of his pension for life (which is highly unlikely to occur in such a short marriage) but either way, you need to stop making false statements about things you clearly know nothing about.

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Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

+1

What was the case law to support this decision?
What state was this in?

Where in God's name can you be married for 10 years, then cheat (which is irrelevant, as courts don't care about infidelity) and then get alimony for 20, 30 or even 40 years longer than the couple was married?

Actually the courts do care sometimes - in VA, a cheating party (with proof of adultery) is precluded from receiving spousal support.

Courts don't care if women cheat. They still get custody and child support/alimony.

Cheating has no bearing on custody or child support decisions but with proof of adultery and at-fault divorce, a cheating party is precluded from spousal support in VA.

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Anonymous wrote:I am reminded of this from Washingtonian ...

https://www.washingtonian.com/2019/10/16/female-lawyer-dealing-male-scoundrels-dc-divorce-cases-heather-hostetter/

I absolutely loved this piece (as well as her dress and shoes): "That’s why I always recommend that people leave while there’s still an ounce of kindness for the other person. Do you really want to pay me $550 an hour to tell you not to write, ‘Dear Skank,’ to the mother of your children?”

$550 an hour? I think I will stay married

Anonymous wrote:Who in the world would actually agree to do an interview like this?

Apparently no one, which is why the reporter is trolling a board full of bitter, man-hating women.

Anonymous wrote:Is was fair for men for 100 years. Why would it NOT be fair for women now?

+1000000000

gross

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Anonymous wrote:Is was fair for men for 100 years. Why would it NOT be fair for women now?

it was never fair, ...also 100 years ago women did not have work opportunities and had just earned the right to vote.

It’s always fair for a spouse who hobbled their own earning potential to raise a family. If you don’t like it, support your spouse’s career.

Own your decision

Exactly, own your decision to exploit your spouse’s labor in their prime career-building years.

He forced you to have kids?

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Anonymous wrote::hand goes up: I know tons of middle aged divorced women with kids, most definitely on the prowl, who work full time and get sizable alimony, you interested, OP?

+1, my husband's ex gets life long alimony. She cheated and they were only married 10 years and divorced before age 30. How is that ok?

Oh wow, I most definitely call BS.

Alimony in perpetuity nowadays has to have VERY extenuating circumstances.

They were only married 10 years and she gets alimony in perpetuity???

What exactly was the basis for this?
I'm dying to hear this.

No idea.. he got screwed over. Its part of his military pension so he cannot fight it even though she was only with him the 10 years not 20 he was in.

Pension is not alimony.

Correct but she also alimony for 10 years.

But you said " she gets alimony in perpetuity" and she didn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Is was fair for men for 100 years. Why would it NOT be fair for women now?

it was never fair, ...also 100 years ago women did not have work opportunities and had just earned the right to vote.

It’s always fair for a spouse who hobbled their own earning potential to raise a family. If you don’t like it, support your spouse’s career.

You can choose to work AND have a family.

I’m PP and I do! And it means my husband has to actually engage with the household! He hates it. He’d be way happier and able to focus on his job (biglaw) if I stayed home.

He would rather never see his kids. Okay! That is in your head. This always comes up in a divorce. The wife acts like she made the sacrifice and the H wanted nothing to do with the kids and the H says he sacrificed time with the kids so his wife could do nothing all day.

Anonymous wrote:Jessica, writing in all caps is akin to SHOUTING. Learn some etiquette please.

It's also bad form to say "we are working on" and ask to contact our writer as if if you aren't the original poster here, Jessica. How Trumpian!

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Anonymous wrote:Is was fair for men for 100 years. Why would it NOT be fair for women now?

it was never fair, ...also 100 years ago women did not have work opportunities and had just earned the right to vote.

It’s always fair for a spouse who hobbled their own earning potential to raise a family. If you don’t like it, support your spouse’s career.

Own your decision

Exactly, own your decision to exploit your spouse’s labor in their prime career-building years.

Poor helpless spouse, who had no choice or agency in the matter, and can't be held responsible.

Anonymous wrote:Do a story on all the men who are married to high powered women who earn as much or more as them, but have affairs with subordinates because that's literally the only way they know how to feel like men.

Hey MRA Troll, it’s time for you to take your meds.

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Anonymous wrote:Is was fair for men for 100 years. Why would it NOT be fair for women now?

it was never fair, ...also 100 years ago women did not have work opportunities and had just earned the right to vote.

It’s always fair for a spouse who hobbled their own earning potential to raise a family. If you don’t like it, support your spouse’s career.

You can choose to work AND have a family.

I’m PP and I do! And it means my husband has to actually engage with the household! He hates it. He’d be way happier and able to focus on his job (biglaw) if I stayed home.