Book it now, get details out of the way. Create your evite and schedule it to email on the date you decide or paper invite and print now. Highly unlikely, but if for some reason you need to be with newborn on party day, DH and nanny host at party.

But the party is a repeat of one they did and loved last year. At a kiddie gym where the venue takes care of lots of the details and provide the entertainment and helpers.

My #3 was born 2.5 weeks before #2’s bday. We did a bday party with friends a month before his bday and then on his actual bday we had extended family come over to celebrate his bday.

If you do have a party I would maybe try to book it now at a place that takes care of everything for you. You could even create an evite now and save it and prep non perishable favors. Then just show up and wear the baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to check the dates on this post: Your baby is due in 4 months, and you’re here wringing your hands over a party that is in 6 months? And you have a nanny and spouse that can help with all of this. Really???

When you finish this, can you address my holiday cards and reorganize my closet with all this free time you seem to have?

This is what happens when grown adults outsource too much of their life. She’s a SAHM with a nanny and a husband but she can’t even handle literally scheduling a bounce house party that’s 6 months away and has to spend November concocting a pretend struggle about it to feel like she’s doing something.

You don’t even have to call. You can do it online.

Anonymous wrote:I had to check the dates on this post: Your baby is due in 4 months, and you’re here wringing your hands over a party that is in 6 months? And you have a nanny and spouse that can help with all of this. Really???

When you finish this, can you address my holiday cards and reorganize my closet with all this free time you seem to have?

This is what happens when grown adults outsource too much of their life. She’s a SAHM with a nanny and a husband but she can’t even handle literally scheduling a bounce house party that’s 6 months away and has to spend November concocting a pretend struggle about it to feel like she’s doing something.

I had to check the dates on this post: Your baby is due in 4 months, and you’re here wringing your hands over a party that is in 6 months? And you have a nanny and spouse that can help with all of this. Really???

When you finish this, can you address my holiday cards and reorganize my closet with all this free time you seem to have?

How do you expect to handle life with 2 kids if a birthday party with a 6 week old is beyond you? I realize people will accuse me of being snarky but seriously, life doesn’t stop when you add a baby. You just do things with a baby now. Throw your kid a damn party.

Of course you do.

A venue party? I mean... pick up the phone and have your credit card ready to make a deposit. That’s literally all you need to do.

You are just looking for excuses. If you don’t want to have a party, don’t. Not everyone does. Some people are lazy, don’t have the money. Whatever.

I’m pp who hosted 2 parties the next month for my 2 kids. We are asian and we have 1 month “rest” period after giving birth.

Even if I and newborn were in a hospital, I would have planned a party for the kids, whether it was just 1 friend at the house or DH taking a friend to a movie while I’m home or wherever.

It isn’t that hard to have a party. Pay venue, order pizza, cake and favors.

OP- face it. You're looking for an excuse not to do this and using a newborn as an excuse. Then the "culture" recluse- excuse...which you know you can totally override, right? You said yourself grandparents are out of the area so who cares if you don't follow cultural tradition of being cloistered?

You have a dh who is a functional human, no? And would be present on the weekend of the party? And a nanny on stand by? And the party venue covers all the details?

And you still cant muster the strength to celebrate your kid's birthday for a mere 2 hrs? Or take 15 min to send out evite and order a cake online?

Yes, but I'd move it up 2-4 weeks.

Of course you have a party.

My due date was the same date as my second’s due date. We had a party 3 weeks early.

My third was due a month before two older Kids’ birthdays. I booked the parties early. I had one party at a party place and a second one at the house. Baby was 3 weeks early and I had 7-8 weeks before the birthday parties. I just ordered pizza, cake and goodie bags. I took baby with me to party city and wegmens to order a cake about 2 weeks prior. No big deal.

You don’t need to have a “big party” with friends every year. But if you do a smaller, family-only celebration, don’t tell your child that the new baby is the reason unless you want major jealousy issues.