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Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Uh, mom of a middle schooler here and I can assure you that you have not scratched the surface of hard yet. Sorry.

*A* middle schooler, or 2+ middle schoolers? Do you have multiple kids?

The OP will have two middle schoolers and a high schooler at the same time if she has a third kid now. THat's...scary.

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Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Uh, mom of a middle schooler here and I can assure you that you have not scratched the surface of hard yet. Sorry.

I mean, my stretches of sleep have extended from 1.5 hours at a time to 3 hours at a time and that has been life changing.... hopefully you at least sleep better than I do? I feel like I could conquer the world if I could get one decent night of sleep....

Sleep training is your friend.

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Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Uh, mom of a middle schooler here and I can assure you that you have not scratched the surface of hard yet. Sorry.

*A* middle schooler, or 2+ middle schoolers? Do you have multiple kids?

I have multiple children, the first of whom is in middle school. I would take the infant/toddler days over this in a heartbeat!

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Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Uh, mom of a middle schooler here and I can assure you that you have not scratched the surface of hard yet. Sorry.

*A* middle schooler, or 2+ middle schoolers? Do you have multiple kids?

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Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Uh, mom of a middle schooler here and I can assure you that you have not scratched the surface of hard yet. Sorry.

I mean, my stretches of sleep have extended from 1.5 hours at a time to 3 hours at a time and that has been life changing.... hopefully you at least sleep better than I do? I feel like I could conquer the world if I could get one decent night of sleep....

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Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Uh, mom of a middle schooler here and I can assure you that you have not scratched the surface of hard yet. Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Your "super intense" #2 may continue to have intense needs. You should stop having children at the point when you can meet their needs and your needs without stretching. Having the most children you can feasibly handle is a bad idea.

I think this is the best advice I have read here by far on this topic. Gold star PP.

Anonymous wrote:I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

*sobs* I have an 8 month old and a 3 year old and I thought we were past the hardest part *sobs*

Absolutely not. Your "super intense" #2 may continue to have intense needs. You should stop having children at the point when you can meet their needs and your needs without stretching. Having the most children you can feasibly handle is a bad idea.

Read the “need a break from my kids” thread. That OP has 3 and is miserable.

Anonymous wrote:I have a very good friend with 3 children about 2 years apart from each other. When the 3rd was a baby, and the others were 3 years and 6 years, I remember someone asking her how it was going to 3 kids?

Her answer: remember how hard it was going from no kids to 1 child? Yeah, it's THAT SAME HARD going from 2 to 3 children. Adding the 2nd in was not that hard, but juggling the 2 older kids while having a 3rd baby? Really hard. And frankly, her kids got EASIER as they went through the birth order: their 1st was REALLY HARD and their 3rd was SO EASY.

This doesn’t make sense. Kids are 2 years apart yet aged 3 years and 6 years? And a baby? Get your facts straight.

I dunno. I have an almost 3.5 year old and a 1 year old. I’m finding this excruciating. I actually think life was easier when the baby was only 8 months old. It’s getting harder as time goes on and baby is more and more mobile and demanding for interaction.

I honestly straight up hate my life. There is so much screaming. I adore my youngest but yearn for when we only had 1.

I guess I think anyone who chooses a 3rd is insane, to an extent.

I have a very good friend with 3 children about 2 years apart from each other. When the 3rd was a baby, and the others were 3 years and 6 years, I remember someone asking her how it was going to 3 kids?

Her answer: remember how hard it was going from no kids to 1 child? Yeah, it's THAT SAME HARD going from 2 to 3 children. Adding the 2nd in was not that hard, but juggling the 2 older kids while having a 3rd baby? Really hard. And frankly, her kids got EASIER as they went through the birth order: their 1st was REALLY HARD and their 3rd was SO EASY.

Anonymous wrote:Spread it out!! I had my first 2 close together then waited longer before having the 3rd. 1 and 2 are 5.5 and 4 years older than the third, and it has been awesome. I’ve really enjoyed my 3rd, and the baby/toddler phase has been much easier because I know what to expect, the best way to handle the tougher stuff, and I’m just more relaxed. Also my older two are more independent, and love helping out with the 3rd.

Not OP but thanks for this. My kids are 4 and almost 3. We want a 3rd. I was worried that 1 and 2 would be close, at only 18 months apart, and the 3rd at 3-4 years different would be lonely.