Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:31
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
When we go to a really touristy spot, like the monuments, people from foreign tour groups often stop and take pictures of my kids. It's odd and my first reaction is to whisk my kids away, but honestly, what do I care if someone from way across the pond takes a picture of my kid? It's not as though they're stealing a piece of their soul.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:24
Subject: Re:Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
You all might try just worrying about yourself instead of policing the world. Might make you a lot less miserable.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:13
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Not at all. I'll sometimes take short videos of DS to send to my parents. My dad is pretty sick and the videos cheer him up. As well as my mom who is his full time caretaker. DS also likes watching videos of himself. A 1 min video is certainly not distracting from the other minutes I'm engaging with him.
I generally try to either do closer up shots or when he's not surrounded by a bunch of kids. I know some people are more sensitive to it
I generally try to either do closer up shots or when he's not surrounded by a bunch of kids. I know some people are more sensitive to it
Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:12
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
OP, you did nothing wrong. That dad was out of line.
As for phone use at parks— yes, watch your toddlers closely, but my 5 yo does not want me to play with her at the playground. She expresses this directly. She wants to play with other kids and climb around. So yes, I sit on a bench and read a book or play on my phone (obviously while keeping an eye on her). So what? I do take some photos & an occasion video for our family to have later, not to post on social media.
As for phone use at parks— yes, watch your toddlers closely, but my 5 yo does not want me to play with her at the playground. She expresses this directly. She wants to play with other kids and climb around. So yes, I sit on a bench and read a book or play on my phone (obviously while keeping an eye on her). So what? I do take some photos & an occasion video for our family to have later, not to post on social media.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:02
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.
I was filming my DD (3) climbing up the ladder and then going down the stairs. First time she’s done so independently (bilateral clubfoot at birth means she has some physical delays.). But honestly I do film and take pictures of her all the time and don’t really think it’s a bad thing. I don’t post photos of her online. I don’t have social media but do send everything to a folder that family members can see.
Another little boy walked into the shot and the dad came up and asked that I delete any videos/photos with husband son in it. He was rude and I was caught off guard.
I’ve never had this happen. Parents film their kids all the time.
I’d understand if I was just taking photos of his kid but that wasn’t the case.
Sorry you had that experience, OP! The dad was misplacing his anger and you did nothing wrong.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:02
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.
I was filming my DD (3) climbing up the ladder and then going down the stairs. First time she’s done so independently (bilateral clubfoot at birth means she has some physical delays.). But honestly I do film and take pictures of her all the time and don’t really think it’s a bad thing. I don’t post photos of her online. I don’t have social media but do send everything to a folder that family members can see.
Another little boy walked into the shot and the dad came up and asked that I delete any videos/photos with husband son in it. He was rude and I was caught off guard.
I’ve never had this happen. Parents film their kids all the time.
I’d understand if I was just taking photos of his kid but that wasn’t the case.
Wow. I would have been taken aback too. And how is this Dad actually going to know whether you actually deleted it or not.
I take pictures and videos of my kids all the time so they have these memories when they look back. In public places. And no, I don't care about your kid in the background, just my little snowflake.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 09:02
Subject: Re:Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People can't be this crazy about phones IRL. I literally don't see people without phones so either you are total hypocrites or you lock yourselves away from humanity and we never see you.
They aren't, it's just something dcmom likes to wring their hands and obsess over.
Honestly you are probably too busy looking at your phone to know.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 08:51
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
I’m the OP.
I was filming my DD (3) climbing up the ladder and then going down the stairs. First time she’s done so independently (bilateral clubfoot at birth means she has some physical delays.). But honestly I do film and take pictures of her all the time and don’t really think it’s a bad thing. I don’t post photos of her online. I don’t have social media but do send everything to a folder that family members can see.
Another little boy walked into the shot and the dad came up and asked that I delete any videos/photos with husband son in it. He was rude and I was caught off guard.
I’ve never had this happen. Parents film their kids all the time.
I’d understand if I was just taking photos of his kid but that wasn’t the case.
I was filming my DD (3) climbing up the ladder and then going down the stairs. First time she’s done so independently (bilateral clubfoot at birth means she has some physical delays.). But honestly I do film and take pictures of her all the time and don’t really think it’s a bad thing. I don’t post photos of her online. I don’t have social media but do send everything to a folder that family members can see.
Another little boy walked into the shot and the dad came up and asked that I delete any videos/photos with husband son in it. He was rude and I was caught off guard.
I’ve never had this happen. Parents film their kids all the time.
I’d understand if I was just taking photos of his kid but that wasn’t the case.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 05:55
Subject: Re:Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:People can't be this crazy about phones IRL. I literally don't see people without phones so either you are total hypocrites or you lock yourselves away from humanity and we never see you.
They aren't, it's just something dcmom likes to wring their hands and obsess over.
Anonymous
10/22/2019 05:05
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
No and when you are in public you have no expectation of privacy. Anyway, who cares. What, they’re going to post it to Facebook where 4 people will ever look at it and you think somehow the focus will be on your kid picking his nose in the background?
Anonymous
10/21/2019 22:21
Subject: Re:Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:I don’t even notice. They can post the pictures all over the Internet for all I care. What the hell is the difference between a stranger seeing my kid on the swing set on a playground vs seeing a picture of my kid on a swing set on the playground?
You people are odd.
I don’t like it, PP. I don’t post pictures of my kids on social media and I don’t care for other people doing it. Social media is like thousands of strangers seeing your child on the swing - not just the one taking the photo.
I do take a couple pictures of my kids when we’re at the park and make a point of not getting other kids in the shot. It’s not hard.
Anonymous
10/21/2019 21:58
Subject: Re:Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
I don’t even notice. They can post the pictures all over the Internet for all I care. What the hell is the difference between a stranger seeing my kid on the swing set on a playground vs seeing a picture of my kid on a swing set on the playground?
You people are odd.
You people are odd.
Anonymous
10/21/2019 21:35
Subject: Re:Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People can't be this crazy about phones IRL. I literally don't see people without phones so either you are total hypocrites or you lock yourselves away from humanity and we never see you.
This thread is just about taking pictures where other children are in.
All our librarians ask parents not to include other children in their pictures. One music class doesn’t allow photos at all until the last song and then only of your own child.
I take my kid to the park every day and have never taken my phone out of my pocket.
And I am in real life...
There’s a happy medium people! It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. I usually don’t look at my phone but whatever—sometimes my sister wants to FaceTime or I want to take a picture to text to my MIL. Our families live far away.
Show respect for other people’s privacy and empathy for people who aren’t just like you.
Anonymous
10/21/2019 21:29
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I just hate people who can’t put their GD phones away around their kids. Just enjoy the playground, douchebag.
You never take any pictures or videos of your kids playing? Ever?
Of course I have some. But the phone epidemic at playgrounds is just tragic. Mostly photos. What is the point of filming your child at the playground? I’m assuming not everyone’s spouse is deployed. If you’re filming to post on social media, just put that thing away and engage with your child. Seriously, it’s a sickness.
Yeah. One or two pictures, sure, but when you get these people who are doing it constantly it's like, pay attention to your damn kid already. I don't buy the posterity argument, is it really worth missing what's happening in front of your own face because you're busy filming it?
My kids are teens now and I love getting those Facebook memories from when they were little. So that’s one value. You just won’t appreciate it for another decade.
Anonymous
10/21/2019 21:27
Subject: Do you get angry if someone is filming their kid
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I just hate people who can’t put their GD phones away around their kids. Just enjoy the playground, douchebag.
You never take any pictures or videos of your kids playing? Ever?
Of course I have some. But the phone epidemic at playgrounds is just tragic. Mostly photos. What is the point of filming your child at the playground? I’m assuming not everyone’s spouse is deployed. If you’re filming to post on social media, just put that thing away and engage with your child. Seriously, it’s a sickness.
The way you do it is good and correct and everyone else who crosses some threshold of “takes more pictures than you” is mentally ill. Got it.
NP here. I tend to agree with the first poster. You can’t be in the moment with your child and filming at the same time. Anyone can snap a couple pictures and then spend the rest of the time playing.
Our generation’s phone use is epidemic.
Are you in the moment now PP? It seems you’re infected with this epidemic.
My kids are in bed, PP, and I am home. This is my moment.
Please stop embarrassing yourself and learn to accept that people do disagree with you.
I was a new poster. I think you need to follow your own advice.
And you embarrassed yourself too. That was a totally stupid comment. It’s past 9PM and few children are awake much less playing in the park.
I don’t feel embarrassed. I think you’re a hypocrite for bemoaning a societal phone epidemic...all while you sit here and hit refresh just to judge other parents. You must be a troll.