Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 20:08     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least you managed five dates. I have been alone for eighteen months now, and despite being a good looking (if not quite beautiful) woman in my late 40s, I have yet to be asked out on a single date by any man. It is a profoundly lonely experience.

I will offer that I have not made any effort to date since my divorce, as my family's and my well being are my priority. Also, I am not online and am referring only to those men that I either already know, meet, or come across in person in real life. And since I do not often socialize in bars, parties, or restaurants, that is admittedly a limited group. But still, you would have thought one of them might ask me out since they either know of my circumstances or can clearly see that I do not wear a wedding band. Of course, some posters will suggest that I do the asking, but if a man is not even attracted enough to ask me out on a date, what is the point?


You have no one but yourself to blame for the situation you've found yourself in.


If you are not online and not making it 100% clear that you are looking to date, no one is going to assume that you are actually available/interested. Being online is how you tell people you are interested in dating now, so if you choose not to be, you are basically signaling that you aren't dating right now.


But how do the men I know or meet in real life even know if I am online?
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 17:34     Subject: Re:5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:Many years ago I was truly in love for the first time and after about six months complete silence. I called her and wrote to her but nothing. To say I was confused was an understatement and it took me at least a year before I could move on. So it’s not just men who can be a—-holes.


Did you ever find out what happened?
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 17:33     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:Married.


x10000
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 17:29     Subject: Re:5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Many years ago I was truly in love for the first time and after about six months complete silence. I called her and wrote to her but nothing. To say I was confused was an understatement and it took me at least a year before I could move on. So it’s not just men who can be a—-holes.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 17:28     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least you managed five dates. I have been alone for eighteen months now, and despite being a good looking (if not quite beautiful) woman in my late 40s, I have yet to be asked out on a single date by any man. It is a profoundly lonely experience.

I will offer that I have not made any effort to date since my divorce, as my family's and my well being are my priority. Also, I am not online and am referring only to those men that I either already know, meet, or come across in person in real life. And since I do not often socialize in bars, parties, or restaurants, that is admittedly a limited group. But still, you would have thought one of them might ask me out since they either know of my circumstances or can clearly see that I do not wear a wedding band. Of course, some posters will suggest that I do the asking, but if a man is not even attracted enough to ask me out on a date, what is the point?


You have no one but yourself to blame for the situation you've found yourself in.


If you are not online and not making it 100% clear that you are looking to date, no one is going to assume that you are actually available/interested. Being online is how you tell people you are interested in dating now, so if you choose not to be, you are basically signaling that you aren't dating right now.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 17:22     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Dating is meant to be a casual getting to you know stage.

Women put WAY TOO MUCH emphasis on each date.


And you have never been in love.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:57     Subject: Re:5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Women throw themselves at men on line and in person. Why should a man risk rejection


Oh baloney. Women maybe throw themselves at pretty men with fat wallets. Certainly not at the rest of us, who do risk and receive lots of rejection. You must live on a different planet.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:47     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A guy I had been in a relationship with for a year stopped calling or texting. Everything was going fine. Don’t know why he blew me off.

After 10 days Sent him an email, “ hey , I’m getting the feeling this is over?” He did respond and acknowledged the end. He was 60 years old st the time. Don’t blame youth culture.


Wow. How truly cowardly and selfish of him. I’m sorry.


This guy was a loser. AFter 1 year of dating and no response I would have called the police to see if he was dead.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:46     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least you managed five dates. I have been alone for eighteen months now, and despite being a good looking (if not quite beautiful) woman in my late 40s, I have yet to be asked out on a single date by any man. It is a profoundly lonely experience.

I will offer that I have not made any effort to date since my divorce, as my family's and my well being are my priority. Also, I am not online and am referring only to those men that I either already know, meet, or come across in person in real life. And since I do not often socialize in bars, parties, or restaurants, that is admittedly a limited group. But still, you would have thought one of them might ask me out since they either know of my circumstances or can clearly see that I do not wear a wedding band. Of course, some posters will suggest that I do the asking, but if a man is not even attracted enough to ask me out on a date, what is the point?


On line makes it easy for men to date. Men are intimidated to ask real live women out for a date.
Women throw themselves at men on line and in person. Why should a man risk rejection.


Because I would say "yes(!)" in a heartbeat, to any man who asked me, and with a happy smile on my face and a sincere gratitude in my heart. The last time I dated a man was when my ex-husband and I met at 21 years old.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:44     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least you managed five dates. I have been alone for eighteen months now, and despite being a good looking (if not quite beautiful) woman in my late 40s, I have yet to be asked out on a single date by any man. It is a profoundly lonely experience.

I will offer that I have not made any effort to date since my divorce, as my family's and my well being are my priority. Also, I am not online and am referring only to those men that I either already know, meet, or come across in person in real life. And since I do not often socialize in bars, parties, or restaurants, that is admittedly a limited group. But still, you would have thought one of them might ask me out since they either know of my circumstances or can clearly see that I do not wear a wedding band. Of course, some posters will suggest that I do the asking, but if a man is not even attracted enough to ask me out on a date, what is the point?


You have no one but yourself to blame for the situation you've found yourself in.


What am I supposed to do? Openly flirt with, or insinuate myself upon, men who will be up for some 'action' (which, yes, great sex would be nice with the right man) but who otherwise are not particularly or really interested in me. It is clear and obvious that I am single (no wedding band, I openly discuss my situation), I am friendly, approachable, and social, always talking to everyone I come across and going out with friends when asked to join them, and I make a real effort to look good. But what more should I be doing? I would appreciate your advice.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:43     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Did you meet online? If so when did he break up with
prior partner.

Online dating has low barriers to entry. A lot of folks
break up and then next day have an online profile.

The reality is they are not over their breakup and not
in a good place to date.

This applies to both men and women.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:36     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
He could have got back with former relationship partner.

Women do this too.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:35     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Anonymous wrote:At least you managed five dates. I have been alone for eighteen months now, and despite being a good looking (if not quite beautiful) woman in my late 40s, I have yet to be asked out on a single date by any man. It is a profoundly lonely experience.

I will offer that I have not made any effort to date since my divorce, as my family's and my well being are my priority. Also, I am not online and am referring only to those men that I either already know, meet, or come across in person in real life. And since I do not often socialize in bars, parties, or restaurants, that is admittedly a limited group. But still, you would have thought one of them might ask me out since they either know of my circumstances or can clearly see that I do not wear a wedding band. Of course, some posters will suggest that I do the asking, but if a man is not even attracted enough to ask me out on a date, what is the point?


On line makes it easy for men to date. Men are intimidated to ask real live women out for a date.
Women throw themselves at men on line and in person. Why should a man risk rejection.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:34     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
Frankly, it doesn't matter.
Move on.
Go on as many dates as you can as soon as you can.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2019 16:32     Subject: 5 great dates then he ghosts. Why?
5 dates

He's just not that into you.

It is casual dating. IT is not a relationship.

He does not owe you an explanation at 5 dates.

Woman does not owe an explanation at 5 dates.

Dating is meant to be a casual getting to you know stage.

Women put WAY TOO MUCH emphasis on each date.