Anonymous
09/23/2019 16:10
Subject: Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
I couldn't stand NOT knowing for sure, so I'd definitely do the test. And yes, I'd want to get out in front of any potential medical issues or the possibility he would discover this later in life with a DNA test (however remote the possibility).
Anonymous
09/23/2019 15:32
Subject: Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
I asked a similar question years ago, and 50% of people said DO and another 50% said DON’T. It wasn’t quite helpful 
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:48
Subject: Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nothing good can come from pursuing this.
Except the truth.
And peace of mind. And avoiding a rift with the child should he ever discover that his dad isn’t his bio dad and that his parents hid that possibility from him.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:37
Subject: Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
Anonymous wrote:Nothing good can come from pursuing this.
Except the truth.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:36
Subject: Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
Nothing good can come from pursuing this.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:23
Subject: Re:Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
Well OP, I presume in the olden days you could have gone forever without knowing for sure.
I think it's important you be honest with yourself and you son (and you husband), and you can't be without the information. Not doing the test is easiest, but I totally disagree that that's the right thing to do. I think you are trying to find the convenient solution because you don't want to face the truth. Fine, but know that living a lie also has consequences.
If there is a 0.1% chance your son has a different father, where is the danger? You know with 99.9% certainty your husband is the father. Except that I think you know deep down the possibility is much much higher than that.
Finally, what would you do if you were given the information right now without a test? IF someone simply told you the truth, without you asking for it. What would you do if you found out your son was another man's baby? I think you need to think through that before you take the test. I think you need to take it, but think through what you would do with that information.
I think it's important you be honest with yourself and you son (and you husband), and you can't be without the information. Not doing the test is easiest, but I totally disagree that that's the right thing to do. I think you are trying to find the convenient solution because you don't want to face the truth. Fine, but know that living a lie also has consequences.
If there is a 0.1% chance your son has a different father, where is the danger? You know with 99.9% certainty your husband is the father. Except that I think you know deep down the possibility is much much higher than that.
Finally, what would you do if you were given the information right now without a test? IF someone simply told you the truth, without you asking for it. What would you do if you found out your son was another man's baby? I think you need to think through that before you take the test. I think you need to take it, but think through what you would do with that information.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:20
Subject: Would to do a DNA test, chance husband is not the father.
That's a tough one. The other man doesn't need to be involved because he doesn't want to be involve.
Your DH sounds like a good person. It doesn't matter if the child isn't his. But, at some point, your son may ask for whatever reason. That is when you do it. Not sure if he understands it now. But, he needs to know the current man in his life is staying-that is the true father.
But, since you seem to keep bringing it up, it will be brought up again in a few years. You won't be satisfied until it is proven. So, ask yourself, what is it you are trying to prove other then the obvious? Is it a medical concern? The two not getting along? Do you spend time thinking about that man? Do you think the other man will claim his son and declare his love? What? Everytime you bring it up, your DH may grow more distant. it's like you are trying to upset him? What is your true purpose?
Your DH sounds like a good person. It doesn't matter if the child isn't his. But, at some point, your son may ask for whatever reason. That is when you do it. Not sure if he understands it now. But, he needs to know the current man in his life is staying-that is the true father.
But, since you seem to keep bringing it up, it will be brought up again in a few years. You won't be satisfied until it is proven. So, ask yourself, what is it you are trying to prove other then the obvious? Is it a medical concern? The two not getting along? Do you spend time thinking about that man? Do you think the other man will claim his son and declare his love? What? Everytime you bring it up, your DH may grow more distant. it's like you are trying to upset him? What is your true purpose?