Anonymous wrote:If my wife does fantasize about someone or something she doesn’t tell me. She is very “enthusiastic” in bed so maybe she is living out her fantasy and I’m the beneficiary.

Same here. I know it's not me she is thinking about... I am okay with that.

If my wife does fantasize about someone or something she doesn’t tell me. She is very “enthusiastic” in bed so maybe she is living out her fantasy and I’m the beneficiary.

One particular young man gets my wife going full speed. Every.single.time.

Anonymous wrote:When our kids were younger my wife once said, "You know how sex makes you feel a whole lot better? Well that's what a clean house does for me." We've recovered but that was a rough period.

I think this is a great analogy! I do get kind of grumpy and just don’t feel good about anything if the house is dirty. And I can do it myself or I can pay for it, but it’s a lot better if my husband does it with me!

When I have a fantasy it’s not really about another man but about what the sex is like in terms of location, position etc. My husband is always a very willing participant. I love taking hikes where we can get far enough off the trail to get frisky in the woods. We were recently out west hiking and we got interrupted by a very large moose. Needless to say it killed the moment but it was very memorable.

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Anonymous wrote:When our kids were younger my wife once said, "You know how sex makes you feel a whole lot better? Well that's what a clean house does for me." We've recovered but that was a rough period.

Total BS.

What is BS?

Why is that BS? And what made it a rough period? You both understood what the other person wanted and how to make them happy. And no one wanted anything ridiculous or unreasonable.

I’m married to a man but I like to fantasize about women.

I have no idea what my wife fantasizes about! She does plenty of crazy things with me so hopefully I’m part of it.

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Anonymous wrote:When our kids were younger my wife once said, "You know how sex makes you feel a whole lot better? Well that's what a clean house does for me." We've recovered but that was a rough period.

Total BS.

What is BS?

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Anonymous wrote:These responses are great! I often ask my wife what her fantasies are and she says a small clean apartment. We rarely have sex so now I actually believe her.

What a shame I didn't marry one of the rough sex posters.

Perhaps I can make my wife's fantasy come true if she lets me find mine

Why did you marry a cold fish? You could have held out for a high drive woman.

She was a high drive woman when we married, we had tons of great adventurous sex. It all vanished a decade ago when the kids came along and never returned. It happens to a lot of men, count your blessings it didn't happen to you.

The good news is there are a lot of women whose husbands aren't interested in them, and we find each other from time to time

I dont have blessings...we both put effort in to our relationship. We work on communication. We take time for each other. He is kind and considerate. The closer I feel to him, the more I want to have sex. When I have resentment and anger towards him- I don't.

You let your relationship die.

All of this and stay fit. Don’t make your wife screw a fat guy. Give them something to be attracted to.

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Anonymous wrote:These responses are great! I often ask my wife what her fantasies are and she says a small clean apartment. We rarely have sex so now I actually believe her.

What a shame I didn't marry one of the rough sex posters.

Perhaps I can make my wife's fantasy come true if she lets me find mine

Why did you marry a cold fish? You could have held out for a high drive woman.

She was a high drive woman when we married, we had tons of great adventurous sex. It all vanished a decade ago when the kids came along and never returned. It happens to a lot of men, count your blessings it didn't happen to you.

The good news is there are a lot of women whose husbands aren't interested in them, and we find each other from time to time

I dont have blessings...we both put effort in to our relationship. We work on communication. We take time for each other. He is kind and considerate. The closer I feel to him, the more I want to have sex. When I have resentment and anger towards him- I don't.

You let your relationship die.

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Anonymous wrote:These responses are great! I often ask my wife what her fantasies are and she says a small clean apartment. We rarely have sex so now I actually believe her.

What a shame I didn't marry one of the rough sex posters.

Perhaps I can make my wife's fantasy come true if she lets me find mine

Why did you marry a cold fish? You could have held out for a high drive woman.

She was a high drive woman when we married, we had tons of great adventurous sex. It all vanished a decade ago when the kids came along and never returned. It happens to a lot of men, count your blessings it didn't happen to you.

The good news is there are a lot of women whose husbands aren't interested in them, and we find each other from time to time

Anonymous wrote:a small, clean apartment of my own with no clutter and no one touching me.

This. OMG, I even know the exact apartment and it just sold to somebody else. I'll be working hard for this apartment for the next 10 years, kids will be out of the house, the apartments come on the market and go, so I have very good chance.
I had enough fun when I was young and cute. Now I want peace and quiet. Can service myself if I need to, but I also know where to find the busboys.

Anonymous wrote:These responses are great! I often ask my wife what her fantasies are and she says a small clean apartment. We rarely have sex so now I actually believe her.

What a shame I didn't marry one of the rough sex posters.

Perhaps I can make my wife's fantasy come true if she lets me find mine

Why did you marry a cold fish? You could have held out for a high drive woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d love a threesome with my husband and another woman. I’m not bi but I am curious and I think both of us having sex at the same time with another woman would be an amazing experience. I’d do it but I do worry that it could start something that could go bad very quickly and we have a great marriage so it will remain a fantasy.

Why don’t you tell him exactly this. He’d probably enjoy the fantasy with you. You could get toys to help you pretend, and together watch videos of solo women mastuebafing

Tell him! Most guys will love it. Drives my DH absolutely wild.