Anonymous
09/22/2019 11:16
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
NP here. Just because people are polite to you in person doesn't mean they want their kids exposed to your family. Many of them will be formally polite but keep their distance and try to keep their kids away.
You are exposing your kids to historically unstable familial patterns and opening the door to risk of child abuse (inc. / esp. sexual abuse). Your choice but I'd rather not have Larlo over to play.
Anonymous
09/22/2019 09:50
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Agree with the Takoma Park skepticism. It seems more “yuppie,” than anything else. If I’m going for the young counter-culture, non-traditional lifestyle vibe and also don’t want to pay $1M, I’d check out Mount Washington, Hampden and Remington in Baltimore.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 20:02
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by non-trad family?
I'm asking because I know gay families happily living in straight-laced neighborhoods (Chevy Chase) and cul-de-sacs (Howard and AA counties).
OP here. We're a polyamorous marriage.
Rockville has been great BTW. Everyone has been super cool.
So you invite all your lovers to the family thanksgiving, eh?
Yep.
So your kids know mommy and daddy are bunking a bunch of people on the side?
OP here. We're not bunking a bunch of people on the side. I'd otherwise be happy clarify what I mean by a polyamorous marriage, but I sense that you're just trying to cast aspersions.
My child has an incredible life, and I am very grateful for that.
Dp Sorry but, that's an adult viewpoint. Jury is still out until your child is grown up and has an opinion on your 'quirkiness'.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 19:50
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Ugh op just here to say I’m sorry people can be so terrible, especially on dcum. Boggles my mind why it bothers them what makes others happy. I’m in Arlington so can’t speak to TP but I hope you find a welcoming place.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 16:50
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have met people over the years who came from unconventional families and every single one had major issues in adulthood, ranging from tensions with their parents (clearly stemming from failing to provide a more conventional and stable childhood) to commitment issues to a failure to launch successfully as independent adults. I would not be surprised if OP is projecting her issues and views blindly on her kid without realizing the long term damage that might arise from them.
Time will tell, of course.
OP here. I know people who struggle as adults because when they were children their parents:
* had marital conflict
* or were too distracted with work
* or pushed them too hard academically
* or had oppressive religious views
* or had general neuroticism
* or had financial difficulties
* or withheld affection
* or had any number of other issues.
I also know people who dealt with those same challenges and grew up to be amazing people. Who knows whats going on? I try not to judge the choices I see other parents make, because I am both unaware of their situations and aware of my own limitations as a parent.
I do worry that our unconventional lifestyle might have negative impacts on my child. But then I remember all of the benefits that our unique lifestyle confers upon our child:
* My child gets more attention
* My child has more people who love them
* My child enjoys a higher standard of living made possible from more incomes
* My child has parents who feel more fulfilled with their lives
To me, these benefits, which are tangible and observed on a daily basis, outweigh potential harms that are largely intangible and speculative. That helps me feel comfortable with our decisions.
If you have any research on long-term impacts on children from growing up in three-parent households, I'd be genuinely interested to see them. I'm not familiar with any such studies.
Oh, so you're banging a bunch of people for the kids sake. Got it. I just thought you were fu%ked up, boy was I wrong.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 16:50
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by non-trad family?
I'm asking because I know gay families happily living in straight-laced neighborhoods (Chevy Chase) and cul-de-sacs (Howard and AA counties).
OP here. We're a polyamorous marriage.
Rockville has been great BTW. Everyone has been super cool.
So you invite all your lovers to the family thanksgiving, eh?
Yep.
So your kids know mommy and daddy are bunking a bunch of people on the side?
OP here. We're not bunking a bunch of people on the side. I'd otherwise be happy clarify what I mean by a polyamorous marriage, but I sense that you're just trying to cast aspersions.
My child has an incredible life, and I am very grateful for that.
Incredibly fu%ked up life. Save for therapy.
OP here. Thanks for the advice. Should be easy on three incomes
Maybe, statistics show your little party will be broken up by then you'll be on to the next pound town.
Jealous?
Anonymous
09/21/2019 16:35
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by non-trad family?
I'm asking because I know gay families happily living in straight-laced neighborhoods (Chevy Chase) and cul-de-sacs (Howard and AA counties).
OP here. We're a polyamorous marriage.
Rockville has been great BTW. Everyone has been super cool.
So you invite all your lovers to the family thanksgiving, eh?
Yep.
So your kids know mommy and daddy are bunking a bunch of people on the side?
OP here. We're not bunking a bunch of people on the side. I'd otherwise be happy clarify what I mean by a polyamorous marriage, but I sense that you're just trying to cast aspersions.
My child has an incredible life, and I am very grateful for that.
Incredibly fu%ked up life. Save for therapy.
OP here. Thanks for the advice. Should be easy on three incomes
Maybe, statistics show your little party will be broken up by then you'll be on to the next pound town.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 15:10
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:I have met people over the years who came from unconventional families and every single one had major issues in adulthood, ranging from tensions with their parents (clearly stemming from failing to provide a more conventional and stable childhood) to commitment issues to a failure to launch successfully as independent adults. I would not be surprised if OP is projecting her issues and views blindly on her kid without realizing the long term damage that might arise from them.
Time will tell, of course.
OP here. I know people who struggle as adults because when they were children their parents:
* had marital conflict
* or were too distracted with work
* or pushed them too hard academically
* or had oppressive religious views
* or had general neuroticism
* or had financial difficulties
* or withheld affection
* or had any number of other issues.
I also know people who dealt with those same challenges and grew up to be amazing people. Who knows whats going on? I try not to judge the choices I see other parents make, because I am both unaware of their situations and aware of my own limitations as a parent.
I do worry that our unconventional lifestyle might have negative impacts on my child. But then I remember all of the benefits that our unique lifestyle confers upon our child:
* My child gets more attention
* My child has more people who love them
* My child enjoys a higher standard of living made possible from more incomes
* My child has parents who feel more fulfilled with their lives
To me, these benefits, which are tangible and observed on a daily basis, outweigh potential harms that are largely intangible and speculative. That helps me feel comfortable with our decisions.
If you have any research on long-term impacts on children from growing up in three-parent households, I'd be genuinely interested to see them. I'm not familiar with any such studies.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 11:06
Subject: Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:No one mentions that Rockville has large Jewish population?
Why would it matter? It is no so large that a non-Jew would feel out of place. And Takoma Park certainly has plenty of Jews, meaning there is no reason a Jew wouldn't feel comfortable there.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 11:04
Subject: Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Even if there aren’t many families exactly like OP’s, I think TP is more live and let live than other areas of MoCo.
Anonymous
09/21/2019 10:25
Subject: Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
No one mentions that Rockville has large Jewish population?
Anonymous
09/21/2019 10:16
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
I have met people over the years who came from unconventional families and every single one had major issues in adulthood, ranging from tensions with their parents (clearly stemming from failing to provide a more conventional and stable childhood) to commitment issues to a failure to launch successfully as independent adults. I would not be surprised if OP is projecting her issues and views blindly on her kid without realizing the long term damage that might arise from them.
Time will tell, of course.
Time will tell, of course.
Anonymous
09/20/2019 19:38
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by non-trad family?
I'm asking because I know gay families happily living in straight-laced neighborhoods (Chevy Chase) and cul-de-sacs (Howard and AA counties).
OP here. We're a polyamorous marriage.
Rockville has been great BTW. Everyone has been super cool.
So you invite all your lovers to the family thanksgiving, eh?
Yep.
So your kids know mommy and daddy are bunking a bunch of people on the side?
OP here. We're not bunking a bunch of people on the side. I'd otherwise be happy clarify what I mean by a polyamorous marriage, but I sense that you're just trying to cast aspersions.
My child has an incredible life, and I am very grateful for that.
Incredibly fu%ked up life. Save for therapy.
OP here. Thanks for the advice. Should be easy on three incomes
Anonymous
09/20/2019 19:17
Subject: Re:Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by non-trad family?
I'm asking because I know gay families happily living in straight-laced neighborhoods (Chevy Chase) and cul-de-sacs (Howard and AA counties).
OP here. We're a polyamorous marriage.
Rockville has been great BTW. Everyone has been super cool.
So you invite all your lovers to the family thanksgiving, eh?
Yep.
So your kids know mommy and daddy are bunking a bunch of people on the side?
OP here. We're not bunking a bunch of people on the side. I'd otherwise be happy clarify what I mean by a polyamorous marriage, but I sense that you're just trying to cast aspersions.
My child has an incredible life, and I am very grateful for that.
Incredibly fu%ked up life. Save for therapy.
Anonymous
09/20/2019 19:15
Subject: Cultural differences between Rockville vs. Takoma Park?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you planning to homeschool or attend public schools?
Homeschooling is an option for us. We weren't planning on doing it, but I plan on doing some research on the Takoma Park homeschooling groups.
You sound like such an unconventional striver. The worse most insufferable type of striver.