Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Waiting for a ride outside her school by herself for 30 minutes (after school has let out)?

She attends a public school that’s not in our area so we don’t have bus service (long story). I have to leave work to pick her up by 3pm, which will work every day but Wednesdays, when I won’t be able to get to her until 3:30pm. This would mean DD (who turns 13 in November) would wait for me in front of the school for 30 minutes after school buses have left. There’s a bench and it’s under cover in case there’s rain or inclement weather.

She would sit and read or look at her phone until I pick her up. I would probably call her from my car and keep her on speaker phone while I drive to her.
I’d have to come up with a plan B when it’s freezing outside.

Would you feel comfortable with this?

Unbelievable. I walked home from school everyday from second to eighth grade and then hitchhiked to and from high school until I got my drivers lisence and you are worrying about a seventh grader standing in front of a school?

Not sure I’d take advice from someone who hitchhiked. Sounds like you have poor judgement. I was born in the 70s and even knew not to hitchhike!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Waiting for a ride outside her school by herself for 30 minutes (after school has let out)?

She attends a public school that’s not in our area so we don’t have bus service (long story). I have to leave work to pick her up by 3pm, which will work every day but Wednesdays, when I won’t be able to get to her until 3:30pm. This would mean DD (who turns 13 in November) would wait for me in front of the school for 30 minutes after school buses have left. There’s a bench and it’s under cover in case there’s rain or inclement weather.

She would sit and read or look at her phone until I pick her up. I would probably call her from my car and keep her on speaker phone while I drive to her.
I’d have to come up with a plan B when it’s freezing outside.

Would you feel comfortable with this?

Unbelievable. I walked home from school everyday from second to eighth grade and then hitchhiked to and from high school until I got my drivers lisence and you are worrying about a seventh grader standing in front of a school?

Anonymous wrote:I would be fine with my 5th grader sitting outside a school, on a covered bench, for 30 minutes each afternoon.

Anonymous wrote:Waiting for a ride outside her school by herself for 30 minutes (after school has let out)?

She attends a public school that’s not in our area so we don’t have bus service (long story). I have to leave work to pick her up by 3pm, which will work every day but Wednesdays, when I won’t be able to get to her until 3:30pm. This would mean DD (who turns 13 in November) would wait for me in front of the school for 30 minutes after school buses have left. There’s a bench and it’s under cover in case there’s rain or inclement weather.

She would sit and read or look at her phone until I pick her up. I would probably call her from my car and keep her on speaker phone while I drive to her.
I’d have to come up with a plan B when it’s freezing outside.

Would you feel comfortable with this?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well, DD waited outside for me and was told by staff to sit in the office instead. There’s a very kind receptionist who told me they are there until 4 and my DD is welcome to wait in there.

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Anonymous wrote:

I am pretty permissive but I actually do not love this plan, with 7th grade DD sitting outside at the same time every week. One time -- no problem. From time-to-time -- no problem. Taking the bus doesn't bother me at all. But essentially to be visibly and routinely alone in public, on a predictable schedule = target for bad guys. I would make plans for her to be inside somewhere. Plenty of ideas upthread, to which I would add, if she is going to be alone and unsupervised, that's OK, but make sure she is not always visibly in the same spot at the same time. Change it up, frequently.

Would you be similarly uncomfortable with the idea of OP's daughter walking home from school on the same route at the same time every day?

Anonymous wrote:Make sure that she is allowed to sit in the bench. At my son’s school, they will yell at any kid who is on the school grounds and not in an official club. My son has missed a club because he had trouble finding the room and gotten yelled at to leave. And gotten yelled at very being outside on school property.