OP here. For the poster saying I took an advantage of him, I didn’t. If he told me no, or pushed me away, I would have listened. As a sexual abuse survivor, I would never pressure anyone, or do something they’re uncomfortable doing. I did make the first move, but he wanted to move to the bedroom. We had sex 3 times, 2 of which he initiated after we had sex the first time.

We had dinner last night and he actually himself. I just flat out asked him if he was okay with the situation, and he said he was. He then explained he wanted to have sex with me but was nervous because he has issues with his testosterone and ejaculation. Sex is usually fine, but sometimes he ejaculates early, or not at all. He was embarrassed about ejaculating too early, and me thinking he was bad in bed. The morning after he was tired, and wasn’t sure he could have sex after the night of 3 times. Everything is good and he assured me he had fun. He also said the comment I made turned him on.

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Anonymous wrote:He has the herp and doesn’t know how to tell you.

Or you are overweight and he is trying to reconcile that.

OP here. I doubt he has herpes, and I’m 5’1” 120lbs.

Please tell me he used a condom. In this day and age, anyone who doesn't with someone they barely know is insane.

OP here. Yes we used condoms. I don’t sleep around, but condoms are a must. I’m not sleeping with anyone without condoms.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could have a girlfriend, but he’s not married. We hung out twice at his place, and I stayed the night at his place. I agree it was a little wrong to say that, but oh well. I was a little tipsy ( rarely drink), and I don’t sleep around, but I understand it’s hard for him to know that. He’s not religious or anything. He also has been very touchy since our first date. I did make a move after he laughed, but it’s not like I forced him. He’s the one that wanted to move from the couch to his bed, and we had sex multiple times last night. He kissed me this morning, but it was quick, and said he was “ too tired” for sex. I let because I had plans, and started to feel weird. He texted me “ How was breakfast” like an hour ago, but now I just feel weird.

It sounds like you’re acting just as weird as you perceive him to be. If you cancel your date tonight, you’re confirming an reservations he had. Maybe he wasn’t really ready for sex and he just went along because he was close to being ready and got caught up in the moment. Then he felt awkward I. The morning. Imagine how you’d like to be treated.

Sounds like she’s going to MeToo him in about six months.

You can argue that it’s overblown but that fear is animating many men these days even otherwise liberal ones. I’ve been a Democrat for 15 years and I still follow the Pence rule.

OP here. No MeTOO move for me. I’m a conservative. I’m not a feminist.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but that comment was disgusting and low class. And he knew it.

You’re way uptight. She said it after several dates, not the first night. Women can express themselves too. If a man said that, no one would think it was low ass.

I would be horried if a man said that after a few dates. Eww

NP. Idk. If a good looking guy I went on dates with for a month said it, I'd find it a turn on. If I'm at a bar and guy said that after a conversation, no.

Why is he acting weird? Sounds like you left to go to breakfast with friends and he texted you about it....so maybe you're feeling weird now?

This might sound crazy about to the ultra sophisticated and blase DCUM crowd, but could this guy actually wants to get to know someone for a month or two before hitting the bedroom? Maybe he values, gasp who he gets intimate with?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but that comment was disgusting and low class. And he knew it.

You’re way uptight. She said it after several dates, not the first night. Women can express themselves too. If a man said that, no one would think it was low ass.

I would be horried if a man said that after a few dates. Eww

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Anonymous wrote:That was a skanky comment.

Indeed.

This
And you probably weren't that good in bed.

Anonymous wrote:I get the impression the comment may have turned him off. Coming from the right person, it could have been sexy. However, coming from the wrong person it's anything but.

Op may have been trying to sound sexy and natural but may have been out of her element with saying it and it showed and seemed desperate. By virtue of the fact that you are asking strangers for their opinions, you likely lack the confidence to pull off saying something so raunchy.

+1. OP, let him pursue you. If he doesn't, you have your answer, and you don't want to be with someone you had to convince.

Anonymous wrote:oh whatever, I’ve had plenty of random sex without condoms and I’m just fine.

stop with your scare tactics.

Scare tactics? Are you the OP? Have you seen STD statistics? Plus men usually don't want to pay 18 years of child support. The pill and IUDs are not 100% effective and a guy never knows if the woman is lying.

I get the impression the comment may have turned him off. Coming from the right person, it could have been sexy. However, coming from the wrong person it's anything but.

Op may have been trying to sound sexy and natural but may have been out of her element with saying it and it showed and seemed desperate. By virtue of the fact that you are asking strangers for their opinions, you likely lack the confidence to pull off saying something so raunchy.

Yeah, he's just not that into you. Don't chase, don't beg for sex - especially not him. He ain't that special.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating a guy for around a month. We have been on 5 dates. He hadn’t made a move, and I decided I wanted to. I said something like “ Do you want to f*ck already”, and he laughed, but still didn’t make a move. I ended up making the first move and we had sex, which was very good in my opinion. Now he is acting weird. Barely kissed me in the morning, and turned down sex this morning. I’m very confused. He pursued me, and asked me out for every date we had. He seemed to enjoy sex last night. I feel like it was going well, and I just don’t understand why he’s acting weird. We are supposed to hang out tonight, but I’m almost feel like canceling.

How is he acting weird? He hasn't made a move because he didn't want to. You didn't listen, and decided what YOU want is more important and pressured him into sex. In your opinion, sex was very good; well, if your opinion is good, who cares what he thinks?

Here's the right answer that everyone is coddling you not to hear: He didn't want to have sex with you. You pressured him to sleep with you. The morning after, he still doesn't want to have sex with you. He is acting weird because you pressured him to do something he didn't want, and now you are surprised he isn't kissing your feet and sending you flowers.

Open your eyes. See the word beyond "in my opinion." For a change, look at a person in front of you and read the signals they are so clearly sending you.

oh whatever, I’ve had plenty of random sex without condoms and I’m just fine.

stop with your scare tactics.

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Anonymous wrote:He has the herp and doesn’t know how to tell you.

Or you are overweight and he is trying to reconcile that.

OP here. I doubt he has herpes, and I’m 5’1” 120lbs.

Please tell me he used a condom. In this day and age, anyone who doesn't with someone they barely know is insane.