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Anonymous wrote:Lol I think my favorite thing is that OP acts like she's so superior, and yet it turns out it's just 30 min after school. I wonder how many times she's hurt her arm from patting herself on the back.

Quality over quantity, grasshopper.

Still, 30 minutes a day during the week and 1-3 hours on the weekends is a whole extra day of school per week.

As an afterschooler (meaning I homeschool my child outside of school hours)

Anonymous wrote:Lol I think my favorite thing is that OP acts like she's so superior, and yet it turns out it's just 30 min after school. I wonder how many times she's hurt her arm from patting herself on the back.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a teacher as are many of my friends. I just do not know how they keep from losing it with parents like this. I have so much admiration for their ability to ignore the stupidity and just teach. I simply cannot imagine dealing with the OP or her kid day after day.

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Geez, some nasty ass people on this forum. OP asked for a way to ask the teacher for their schedule, and ya'll acting like she asking for their blood type and ss#.

OP, try to ignore posts like that. Its an anonymous forum, so they use any chance to let out their bitterness on here. Just ask the teacher for the schedule. If they give it ot you great, you're good to go. If not, then teach your child the most important things and talk to the principal about the lack of transparency. It is not worth going above that for.

It all really depends on the teacher, which will change from year to year, so you don't want to depend on them anyway. But your taxes pay their salary and they are teaching your child so you have the right to ask.

How does having the teacher's schedule help in this situation? If OP knows that ELA is taught from 9:15-11:00 as opposed to 1:30-3:15, how does that help OP?

Yearly schedule. As in Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec.

DP and a public school teacher who supplemented my kids: I never worried about trying to match up with their classroom teacher’s schedule. I made my own calendar and if things overlapped, great. If not, NBD. Everything we did was interdisciplinary and hands on learning. No worksheets. No quizzes. Sometimes, it was really nice for them that what we did at home didn’t match in any way what they did at school.

This is a nice way of looking at it too. Afterschool and school need not matching up or build up on one another. They can go in their own parallel tracks and meet up when it happens.

Anonymous wrote:OP I hope you're in my neighborhood. You sound insane and I look forward to encountering your level of crazy for entertainment.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a teacher as are many of my friends. I just do not know how they keep from losing it with parents like this. I have so much admiration for their ability to ignore the stupidity and just teach. I simply cannot imagine dealing with the OP or her kid day after day.

+1

Geez, some nasty ass people on this forum. OP asked for a way to ask the teacher for their schedule, and ya'll acting like she asking for their blood type and ss#.

OP, try to ignore posts like that. Its an anonymous forum, so they use any chance to let out their bitterness on here. Just ask the teacher for the schedule. If they give it ot you great, you're good to go. If not, then teach your child the most important things and talk to the principal about the lack of transparency. It is not worth going above that for.

It all really depends on the teacher, which will change from year to year, so you don't want to depend on them anyway. But your taxes pay their salary and they are teaching your child so you have the right to ask.

How does having the teacher's schedule help in this situation? If OP knows that ELA is taught from 9:15-11:00 as opposed to 1:30-3:15, how does that help OP?

Yearly schedule. As in Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec.

DP and a public school teacher who supplemented my kids: I never worried about trying to match up with their classroom teacher’s schedule. I made my own calendar and if things overlapped, great. If not, NBD. Everything we did was interdisciplinary and hands on learning. No worksheets. No quizzes. Sometimes, it was really nice for them that what we did at home didn’t match in any way what they did at school.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a teacher as are many of my friends. I just do not know how they keep from losing it with parents like this. I have so much admiration for their ability to ignore the stupidity and just teach. I simply cannot imagine dealing with the OP or her kid day after day.

+1

Geez, some nasty ass people on this forum. OP asked for a way to ask the teacher for their schedule, and ya'll acting like she asking for their blood type and ss#.

OP, try to ignore posts like that. Its an anonymous forum, so they use any chance to let out their bitterness on here. Just ask the teacher for the schedule. If they give it ot you great, you're good to go. If not, then teach your child the most important things and talk to the principal about the lack of transparency. It is not worth going above that for.

It all really depends on the teacher, which will change from year to year, so you don't want to depend on them anyway. But your taxes pay their salary and they are teaching your child so you have the right to ask.

How does having the teacher's schedule help in this situation? If OP knows that ELA is taught from 9:15-11:00 as opposed to 1:30-3:15, how does that help OP?

Yearly schedule. As in Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec.

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I'm not sure what you mean. He didn't send a calendar, he sent each topic. There is no way of knowing how thoroughly something is being taught, but I don't need to know that. I only need to know when and how long. I will know how thoroughly as I teach my child and see where she is in a particular topic during a given week. I don't need to see all the materials or lesson plans, only the ordering and timing of the topics, and which topics are being covered and which aren't.

My child is above grade level, but unfortunately that doesn't mean anything for this particular school, where teachers are generally not able to teach to the standards (no matter how much they plan to) because there are too many students that are struggling and/or with behavioral problems for the teacher to deal with. I'm not going to let her coast at an "A' level at the school when an "A" really just translates to just a little better than everyone else, when the standards have been lowered for the average child there.

Anyway, why would I be trying to benefit the teacher? I am trying to benefit my daughter and my daughter only.

By sending her to school for a full day and then doing another full day of school with her when she gets home.

Anonymous wrote:You don't need a "relationship" with the teacher. Public teachers are paid to educate kids, not entertain parents. If your kid is struggling significantly, then the teacher should reach out to you and initiate steps to get your kid help. Teachers are unbelievably busy and being forced to respond to parents of kids who are doing fine is just a waste of time. If you need a lot of the teacher's time and energy then pay for private. Public school class sizes are too huge for teachers to be able to devote any time to parents - the kids are the top priority.

If your kid is failing or performing below grade level, you should plan to interact with the teacher. Otherwise, don't waste the teacher's time. If your precious straight A student gets a B or a C and you need more than a 30-second email regarding his/her progress, then you are "that" parent. If you need a conference because your kid's straight A's have dropped to mostly B's and a few C's, then you are "that" parent. If you call every time your kid gets less than a B on an assessment, then you are "that" parent. Please, as a teacher, I'm begging you, let me focus on your kid, not you.

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I'm not sure what you mean. He didn't send a calendar, he sent each topic. There is no way of knowing how thoroughly something is being taught, but I don't need to know that. I only need to know when and how long. I will know how thoroughly as I teach my child and see where she is in a particular topic during a given week. I don't need to see all the materials or lesson plans, only the ordering and timing of the topics, and which topics are being covered and which aren't.

My child is above grade level, but unfortunately that doesn't mean anything for this particular school, where teachers are generally not able to teach to the standards (no matter how much they plan to) because there are too many students that are struggling and/or with behavioral problems for the teacher to deal with. I'm not going to let her coast at an "A' level at the school when an "A" really just translates to just a little better than everyone else, when the standards have been lowered for the average child there.

Anyway, why would I be trying to benefit the teacher? I am trying to benefit my daughter and my daughter only.

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OP here:

Everything worked out. I emailed the teacher and he sent a document with calendars for the year showing the units they will work on in each subject (which he said all the teachers at the grade level uses). He responded very politely, sent it the that night and didn't seem to take anything personally. Which is great, because now I see that there are several units/standards they are covering pretty thoroughly that I don't have to plan to teach and can take off our plate, and a couple of things I would love to double down on at the same time (they are going to be doing some engineering design projects (yay!) which will be great for me to supplement during that same month and prior to that).

I am not sure why some people in this thread would have felt that much apprehension and anxiety from a parent asking for a look at the curriculum they plan to teach. I only had to ask because the district does not have this listed anywhere on their website and it is not publicly available. The teacher probably knows this, so its no big deal to send it. And its obvious he already had it in document form and that it was planned out by the teachers together already. Why would they have needed to hide it?

A parent asking for a curriculum calendar does not mean a slippery slope into them harassing you all year over details and explanations and forcing you to teach them to read or something. This isn't a give a mouse a cookie situation, and just as teachers are constantly asking parents to cooperate with them by supporting the classroom with school supplies, volunteering, chaperoning, reading to the child every night, and so on, teachers need to cooperate with parents on supporting their child's learning at home as well. We are ALL in this together to ensure our kids do well. Responding to a parent with secrecy or telling the parent they need to sit back and let them handle it is defensiveness, IMO, and there is probably a negative reason for that.

If a parent harasses you, THEN you express your concern and set your boundary by saying "No." Don't respond to every parent that approaches you as if they are out to abuse you. Just like I don't let a teacher giving me an attitude or being dismissive of me or my child affect how I speak to all teachers.

I know I may be feeding the trolls, but just wanted to add my response for any real parents or teachers reading that may encounter a similar situation.

PS. We are also at a Title 1 school where teachers and admin have tried hard to get parents to do activities with their children at home because so many of them are failing to pass the standardized tests. They send all types of materials home with activities to do with the child, like counting snacks, and they even send flashcards home. It would not make sense for them to balk at a parent that willingly asks to see what they are teaching so that she can do all those things most efficiently. That's one less child for them to have to worry about pouring even more resources to.

How can you tell from a calendar if a topic is covered thoroughly or not? Did you simply count the number of days? Unless you actually see all the materials, how would you know the actual depth of instruction.

If your child is on or above grade level (which you imply), it doesn’t benefit a teacher for you to supplement st home. The kids that it matters for are those who are struggling.

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OP here:

Everything worked out. I emailed the teacher and he sent a document with calendars for the year showing the units they will work on in each subject (which he said all the teachers at the grade level uses). He responded very politely, sent it the that night and didn't seem to take anything personally. Which is great, because now I see that there are several units/standards they are covering pretty thoroughly that I don't have to plan to teach and can take off our plate, and a couple of things I would love to double down on at the same time (they are going to be doing some engineering design projects (yay!) which will be great for me to supplement during that same month and prior to that).

I am not sure why some people in this thread would have felt that much apprehension and anxiety from a parent asking for a look at the curriculum they plan to teach. I only had to ask because the district does not have this listed anywhere on their website and it is not publicly available. The teacher probably knows this, so its no big deal to send it. And its obvious he already had it in document form and that it was planned out by the teachers together already. Why would they have needed to hide it?

A parent asking for a curriculum calendar does not mean a slippery slope into them harassing you all year over details and explanations and forcing you to teach them to read or something. This isn't a give a mouse a cookie situation, and just as teachers are constantly asking parents to cooperate with them by supporting the classroom with school supplies, volunteering, chaperoning, reading to the child every night, and so on, teachers need to cooperate with parents on supporting their child's learning at home as well. We are ALL in this together to ensure our kids do well. Responding to a parent with secrecy or telling the parent they need to sit back and let them handle it is defensiveness, IMO, and there is probably a negative reason for that.

If a parent harasses you, THEN you express your concern and set your boundary by saying "No." Don't respond to every parent that approaches you as if they are out to abuse you. Just like I don't let a teacher giving me an attitude or being dismissive of me or my child affect how I speak to all teachers.

I know I may be feeding the trolls, but just wanted to add my response for any real parents or teachers reading that may encounter a similar situation.

PS. We are also at a Title 1 school where teachers and admin have tried hard to get parents to do activities with their children at home because so many of them are failing to pass the standardized tests. They send all types of materials home with activities to do with the child, like counting snacks, and they even send flashcards home. It would not make sense for them to balk at a parent that willingly asks to see what they are teaching so that she can do all those things most efficiently. That's one less child for them to have to worry about pouring even more resources to.