Your wife deserves better. The new woman is using you and/or has sad personal issues that led to her only sexual option being a mid 40's married father. Shame on you.

Take it from someone that ruined a marriage, don’t do it.

Anonymous wrote:Ok, now that we are on page 4 and everyone is saying he’s scum, typical guy, etc.

Flip the sexes, same advice if written by the wife?

Women who do this are pretty much shunned by society, and they are certainly blamed by their children and family members. If you flipped the genders, the OP would sound like a troll, and the responses would be much more harsh.

I feel really sorry for your kids. Your wife will move on. Your kids won’t. Great role model, there. Hope you don’t have a daughter.

The AP is not worth the pain. Leave it be and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Find Jesus and pray on it. He’ll help you every strep.

It's the cultured response.

I think your answer will go viral.

It depends. Some social media companies are quite biased, even if others are fair inc.s .

What is the new woman’s situation? Married/involved? Younger (how much)? Where have you been hooking up?

If she is single you need to break it off pronto. If married and not wanting to leave her DH and DCs....I know several affairs that have gone on with no one the wiser as there are no expectations for the future and both parties are invested in keeping it secret. No texts, no calls...don’t be stupid.

Ok, now that we are on page 4 and everyone is saying he’s scum, typical guy, etc.

Flip the sexes, same advice if written by the wife?

20.25 here: oh just saw the update that you've slept with her.

Well your marriage is done. Get out and if you truly love your wife let her have the opportunity to get a life together for herself and the kids.

Believe me, she will move on and be happy.

You are in lust not love. Just think about her flaws.

The thing is lust makes you feel alive and you won't feel that way with your wife because of all that shared history you have. If you divorce and get together with this new woman she will become old soon enough and then you'll lust after someone else.

So think about your marriage. Do you want it to continue or is it done. Only leave if the marriage is done without this woman being a factor.

And if you are unfaithful then your marriage is definitely done.

Grow a set and get a divorce.

Anonymous wrote:Do you make less than your wife?

Are you out of shape?

We make about the same. I am very fit.

Go for it OP. And report back in 6 months.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, you know, there are consequences to everything. The consequence of feeling this “alive” with your new attraction is that you will precipitate a divorce and your children will be hurt and resentful of you for the rest of your life. If you don’t want to be one of those guys then don’t be one of those guys. Or be that guy, but take responsibility for the pain you inflict.

As much as we hate to believe it, people eventually move on an heal after divorce and kids can get over it.

Only if they parents have a very amicable divorce - but in this case, his wife is going to be very upset and I don't think that's what would happen. I don't blame her.

Do you make less than your wife?

Are you out of shape?