Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody has ever claimed that husbands with a good home sexlife don't cheat: some do.

The assertion is that essentially ALL of the husbands with a BAD home sex life cheat.

And of course the assumption is that women don't value sex, so we couldn't possibly cheat in response to a bad sex life.

Of course that is not true at all. Women value sex just as much and these days, they will step out the same as a man if they aren't getting it. I've been with several cheating wives so I know of where I speak.

My ex-wife of ten years cheated. It's been six years since the divorce. I'm not over it. You invest a lot of time and emotional energy in a person. You make sacrifices both big and small for their benefit as well as the benefit of the marriage. When you get cheated on, it's akin to an accountant stealing your life savings.

You probably never "get over" something like that. But you have to find a way to see that it's an issue you had with that person. Don't blame "love" or fall into the trap of thinking everyone will hurt you. Would you not build another life savings just because the first person stole your money?

You deserve to be happy. In the beginning, it will take a lot of effort to make yourself get back out there and carrying that baggage will be difficult. It'll get easier with time until you're strong enough emotionally to not even notice it.