Anonymous wrote:I was on my husband’s phone the other day for something else and randomly checked his fb and saw that in the recent searches he had been searching this hot local girl who appears to work in his building.

I was stunned. I then checked his messages and saw that just earlier this week he was telling his coworker he saw the “hot girl” while he was working out in the gym. They’re both talking about how attractive she is.

Erm... what do I do?

Anonymous wrote:I was on my husband’s phone the other day for something else and randomly checked his fb and saw that in the recent searches he had been searching this hot local girl who appears to work in his building.

I was stunned. I then checked his messages and saw that just earlier this week he was telling his coworker he saw the “hot girl” while he was working out in the gym. They’re both talking about how attractive she is.

Erm... what do I do?

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Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

This is normal behavior for both men and women. When someone is hot, you talk about them to your friends and sometimes look them up on FB. What's so disgusting about that?

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Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

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Anonymous wrote:It was Bill grabbing pussy in the Oval Office, not your “orange” guy.

Screw any man, Democrat or republican, who acts like this.

JFK and Clinton are the ones we know about.

You sound like you probably came to DC from the Deep South. Women around here don’t think like you.
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Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

Wait - you are equating actual, honest to god sexual assault with one man saying to another that he thinks a woman who is not his wife (God would NOT approve!) is hot?

You're a lunatic.

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Anonymous wrote:Married woman here. OP, you're the one breaking his trust by spying on him, reading his private messages, and then lying to him by omission that you've done this. So you found out that he and another guy giggle together about the hot girl at the office. That's it. Dear God. I feel so sorry for your husband. You really should reflect on why you don't trust him, and from what you've posted it sounds like it has nothing to do with him. He deserves to be with someone who trusts him and respects him. You don't, and it will corrode your marriage. Go to therapy.

This response is complete BS, and I’m calling it out. The OP’s husband is going behind her back telling a male friend that he finds another woman, to whom he did not commit his life to in front of God and all his and her friends and families, that he thinks she’s hot. This is disgusting, disrespectful behavior and to call it locker room talk/boys will be boys reminds me a lot of the apologists for our pussy-grabbing commander in chief.

I’m sorry you are going through this, OP. None of us can really say whether you were actually snooping or not; only you know the answer to that. Either way, this is not a tit-for-tat situation, and snooping wouldn’t excuse your husbands disrespectful behavior. Good luck to you.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like harmless fun between guys. Im sure it would bug me a little but probably wouldn’t let him know I was snooping.

Anonymous wrote:If looking up hot women in my neighborhood on Facebook was an Olympic sport, I'd be on the podium every time. I often do it in plain sight of my wife too. Thankfully I don't have to live in fear like your husband does.