Anonymous
07/16/2019 16:10
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
My aunt will sneak wrapped up food into your bag. Once when I came home I went to get something out of my purse and my hand was covered in grease. My aunt had poorly wrapped up a left over stick of butter that had been on the table for bread in foil and stuck it in my bag. It had melted over the past several hours in the heat and oozed out of the foil.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 16:06
Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:Browsing while really sick
I have a lot to say but too weak.
All I can say is I feel this thread. I get it, been there too.
Are you weak from food poisoning from leftovers?
Feel better soon, friend.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 16:04
Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
My dad and MIL are both like this (although never in a way where I am concerned about the safety of the food). With my dad I am firm, mainly because I am always just trying to gather my kids and get out of the house and I do not want one more thing to do (the leftovers he is pushing are never already packaged, I am supposed to pack them up myself) and I do not want to have to remember to give back the Tupperware. With my MIL it’s often sweets that she baked or bought and she doesn’t want sitting around so I take them and throw them away at home. I used to push back, but I finally decided it was a kindness to just take the grocery store cupcakes and toss them so she didn’t feel guilty about wasting them.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 06:51
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:LOL we used to fly across the country for Thanksgiving. DH's in laws once tried to pressure us to take along a zip lock bag full of gravy as we were leaving to go to the airport.
Unbelievable! I hope you told her you were worried TSA might make you toss her delicious gravy so would regretfully have to decline.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 05:24
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:I personally would accept gracefully and then when packing the car, I would take the food out and walk around the building and put the leftovers in the outside garbage bin, the go back. This way you've accepted gracefully, she won't pout and you won't have to take it anywhere other than around the side of the house. If you can't even walk it around the house to the outside garbage bin, then you do have a problem, but it isn't your MIL.
No, no, no. People need to stop enabling manipulative behavior. Pouting is the height of rudeness. The OP shouldn't have to sneak around to throw out the food. Politely declining is perfectly fine. If someone is rude enough to not accept a polite decline then there is not need to feed their rudeness.
Being gracious does not mean enabling rude people.
In theory I agree that polite, but firm refusal is the best option, but sometimes it takes less energy to accept and then dump. After a week or two at the beach with a long drive home still ahead of me, sometimes accepting and dumping is the way I have to do it. (I am not the author of the original comment.)
Anonymous
07/15/2019 04:47
Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Browsing while really sick
I have a lot to say but too weak.
All I can say is I feel this thread. I get it, been there too.
I have a lot to say but too weak.
All I can say is I feel this thread. I get it, been there too.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 23:47
Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:My in-laws bring leftovers from him TO the beach and then push them on us to take home 4hrs in the car. Today I politely declined and said “our car is packed to the gills and we don’t have a cooler. We can only take what we plan to eat during the ride”. And my MIL listened! It was a miracle!
We live 8 hours from my in-laws—longer for them because they stop more and don’t drive that fast. They once brought an opened container of milk—not in a cooler, just in a bag on the floor—and MIL was flummoxed that I didn’t want it. It’s seriously a miracle that she’s never killed anyone.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 23:19
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
I personally would accept gracefully and then when packing the car, I would take the food out and walk around the building and put the leftovers in the outside garbage bin, the go back. This way you've accepted gracefully, she won't pout and you won't have to take it anywhere other than around the side of the house. If you can't even walk it around the house to the outside garbage bin, then you do have a problem, but it isn't your MIL.
No, no, no. People need to stop enabling manipulative behavior. Pouting is the height of rudeness. The OP shouldn't have to sneak around to throw out the food. Politely declining is perfectly fine. If someone is rude enough to not accept a polite decline then there is not need to feed their rudeness.
Being gracious does not mean enabling rude people.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 23:14
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
I personally would accept gracefully and then when packing the car, I would take the food out and walk around the building and put the leftovers in the outside garbage bin, the go back. This way you've accepted gracefully, she won't pout and you won't have to take it anywhere other than around the side of the house. If you can't even walk it around the house to the outside garbage bin, then you do have a problem, but it isn't your MIL.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 22:30
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:LOL we used to fly across the country for Thanksgiving. DH's in laws once tried to pressure us to take along a zip lock bag full of gravy as we were leaving to go to the airport.
One relative is such a loon that she demands that any family event have 3 times the amount of food needed so everyone gets to take left overs. She demands to coordinate every darn event but then tells people that more people are coming and doubles or triples the food amounts that everyone should bring.
We went on an extended family beach trip for one week. Everyone ran out to Costco right after the airport and loaded up. While it was a large group, they bought enough food for us to be stranded there for six months. When it was time to go several were racing about trying to get everyone to shove food into their bags.
Its a psychological defect with some people.
+1
Control issues.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 21:57
Subject: Re:Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
LOL we used to fly across the country for Thanksgiving. DH's in laws once tried to pressure us to take along a zip lock bag full of gravy as we were leaving to go to the airport.
One relative is such a loon that she demands that any family event have 3 times the amount of food needed so everyone gets to take left overs. She demands to coordinate every darn event but then tells people that more people are coming and doubles or triples the food amounts that everyone should bring.
We went on an extended family beach trip for one week. Everyone ran out to Costco right after the airport and loaded up. While it was a large group, they bought enough food for us to be stranded there for six months. When it was time to go several were racing about trying to get everyone to shove food into their bags.
Its a psychological defect with some people.
One relative is such a loon that she demands that any family event have 3 times the amount of food needed so everyone gets to take left overs. She demands to coordinate every darn event but then tells people that more people are coming and doubles or triples the food amounts that everyone should bring.
We went on an extended family beach trip for one week. Everyone ran out to Costco right after the airport and loaded up. While it was a large group, they bought enough food for us to be stranded there for six months. When it was time to go several were racing about trying to get everyone to shove food into their bags.
Its a psychological defect with some people.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 16:00
Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:It’s so not worth it to me to have this discussion about wasted food when we need to clean up pack out and drive home. Some food gets wasted at the beach. 100x times better than even one hour of food poisoning.
x10000
Common sense, people.
Anonymous
07/14/2019 15:42
Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.
We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.
So how badly do you want this to stop?
Your call, OP.
NP. I don’t give in to whiny, pouty brats of any age.
Including the OP? Because she’s on here pouting, you do recognize that correct[/quote
No, this is not "correct". You need help.