Anonymous
Post 07/07/2019 21:08     Subject: Re:Etiquette Question
OP here. Sibling died a month ago. Date and funeral arrangements were set and then came shower invitations.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2019 20:36     Subject: Re:Etiquette Question
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Definitely piggybacked and spouse and children of deceased were not informed until they received invite in mail. As I said before, I am going to go. I have not discussed my opinion with anyone involved. I do not make waves. Just wondering what your opinions would be. Thank you for all replies.


Wait...

Im curious... if the invitation came in the mail, how did you know that his funeral was already planned?

Did you wait a week or longer for the funeral?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2019 20:30     Subject: Etiquette Question
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on the age of the deceased.


Exactly. If this was a sudden death of a 35 year old mother/father of small children, there's no way a shower would be appropriate.
But if it's the funeral for Aunt Bessie who lived a long life and died at 97, then go for it.


DP. It's funny because I think the age or relationship doesn't matter. One death isn't less worse than the other. I do think that OP needs to mind her own beeswax about the shower though and attend only if she feels up to it.



Totally disagree. When my grandfather passed at 92, we were sad. But he lived a long and happy life, and it reached its natural conclusion. It would be SO MUCH WORSE if a child or young sibling passed at, say 7 or 34 or whatever.


Agreed. My grandparents all died in their 90s at home surrounded by family. Morbidly enough we all thought they were good endings to long and happy lives. I could only be so lucky.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2019 20:20     Subject: Etiquette Question
Anonymous wrote:Poor taste and tone deaf. IF shower had been long planned-not the same but if created to piggy back on this-its not something I’d do.


Very bad form. Really seems like a gift grab. Is this a baby shower or a bridal shower? Ugh.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2019 18:11     Subject: Etiquette Question
This is definitely one of the tackier things I have ever heard. If this had happened in my family the shower host would have quickly been set straight. I am sorry for your loss, OP.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2019 17:50     Subject: Etiquette Question
In some cultures it would be viewed as a bad omen for the unborn child.