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Anonymous wrote:We have some really nice lined leather ones, lined thigh cuffs, bindings and a matching leather and rose gold spreader bar. Fun times are frequently had.

Where is the spreader bar from?


OP - I hope you trust your husband. Make a safe word even for this initial trial. It should be a random word like pineapple or dolphin. Go in to it knowing it might not be for you but it also might! Talk and talk about it

Cacao!

Anonymous wrote:We have some really nice lined leather ones, lined thigh cuffs, bindings and a matching leather and rose gold spreader bar. Fun times are frequently had.

Where is the spreader bar from?


OP - I hope you trust your husband. Make a safe word even for this initial trial. It should be a random word like pineapple or dolphin. Go in to it knowing it might not be for you but it also might! Talk and talk about it

Anonymous wrote:I often hint to my husband that I’d be open to a little more fun in bed but he’s really just a basics kind of guy though thankfully he is good at it. OP is lucky to have a husband who picked up on her hint.

I am super jealous of your DH and OPs, who married women who enjoy adventure in the bedroom. I had to step out to remind myself how much fun sex can be again. Go for it, OP!

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Anonymous wrote:We are very happy using silk scarves. After I’m tied down he will drive me wild pulling extra scarves across my body and my nerve endings go crazy. Since I’m tied down it’s an amazing experience.

I read this a few hours ago and after dinner my husband was rubbing my back - which I love - and I said not to forget that after our kids are in bed. I’ve just picked out a few scarves and I’m hoping he will be up for it.

Go all the way and use Hermes scarves. You will never look at them the same way!

Anonymous wrote:We are very happy using silk scarves. After I’m tied down he will drive me wild pulling extra scarves across my body and my nerve endings go crazy. Since I’m tied down it’s an amazing experience.

I read this a few hours ago and after dinner my husband was rubbing my back - which I love - and I said not to forget that after our kids are in bed. I’ve just picked out a few scarves and I’m hoping he will be up for it.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with having a safe word. DH & I like to play with ropes, handcuffs, whips, etc. I’ve only used our word twice, when I started feeling trapped and claustrophobic.

In real life I like to be in control. In bed, I like to give it up.

Only used it twice? He needs to start hitting you harder.

Cacao!!!

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Anonymous wrote:We are very happy using silk scarves. After I’m tied down he will drive me wild pulling extra scarves across my body and my nerve endings go crazy. Since I’m tied down it’s an amazing experience.

I’m sold! Now I just have to convince my DH.

No Husband needs to be convinced. If he does he will lose his man creds.

Anonymous wrote:We are very happy using silk scarves. After I’m tied down he will drive me wild pulling extra scarves across my body and my nerve endings go crazy. Since I’m tied down it’s an amazing experience.

I’m sold! Now I just have to convince my DH.

We are very happy using silk scarves. After I’m tied down he will drive me wild pulling extra scarves across my body and my nerve endings go crazy. Since I’m tied down it’s an amazing experience.

It wasn’t until we were empty nesters that we felt comfortable getting really adventuresome in bed with handcuffs being one of the first things we bought. I was initially not really into being totally submissive but my husband was gentle with me just lying back and enjoying it. When it was his turn wearing the cuffs I took a pretty aggressive approach which greatly pleased my husband. I don’t think we’ve ever said no to each other but after 20 years we have a very good idea of our limits.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with having a safe word. DH & I like to play with ropes, handcuffs, whips, etc. I’ve only used our word twice, when I started feeling trapped and claustrophobic.

In real life I like to be in control. In bed, I like to give it up.

Only used it twice? He needs to start hitting you harder.

I often hint to my husband that I’d be open to a little more fun in bed but he’s really just a basics kind of guy though thankfully he is good at it. OP is lucky to have a husband who picked up on her hint.

This is pretty tame, OP. Enjoy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with having a safe word. DH & I like to play with ropes, handcuffs, whips, etc. I’ve only used our word twice, when I started feeling trapped and claustrophobic.

In real life I like to be in control. In bed, I like to give it up.

Win-win. If you have control in real life, people are doing things for you. If you give up control in bed, people are doing things for you.

In bed I love giving up control but also taking control. It all depends on my mood. My husband is happy to go either way as he says it’s like sleeping with two different women!

Anonymous wrote:I agree with having a safe word. DH & I like to play with ropes, handcuffs, whips, etc. I’ve only used our word twice, when I started feeling trapped and claustrophobic.

In real life I like to be in control. In bed, I like to give it up.

Win-win. If you have control in real life, people are doing things for you. If you give up control in bed, people are doing things for you.