Next time long before your DH will have an event, talk to him and say it in a matter of factly manner .. It happened many times, it is a pattern, it can not happen again, it will not happen today, and if it will, then YOU not HIM will get a coat and walk out of the house and HIM not you will have to deal with a child in the state he leaves. If he indeed pulls it,
do as you say, walk out and leave im to deal with the son making him leave the date and having to deal with the upset child.

This should fix it.

Anonymous wrote:I’m OP. H is very impulsive. As he heard me reprimand DC for disrespecting me, H came to yell 3 insults (not the F, but other ones) to DC minutes encore heading to school. On the way to school DC cried and told me he is deeply hurt and that these insults will remain forever in his mind.

Wow! Just WOW! I think the kid, and maybe you, Op both have some deeper issues going on here. I get being angry and not wanting to give Father's Day gifts. Are you two never going to forgive him for words? Is there no room for discussion? Apologies? Are you and your child going to let his words eat away at your soul? Are you not going to buck up and tell DH where he put his insults? You and your kid are a bit much.