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Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

TWELVE?!?!?!

That's absurd, and should be reported immediately.

I mean, at out pool there are tons of kids 10 and up by themselves, without a parent at all.

What 12 yo needs help changing?

A kid who has SN that you cannot see. I am not ok with my son being in a locker room alone, especially at a public pool. I think its a bit different with less people in a private pool but remember not everyone is going to a private pool. We go to a public pool and after swim team/lessons there is no one at the gates and anyone can just walk in.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

TWELVE?!?!?!

That's absurd, and should be reported immediately.

I mean, at out pool there are tons of kids 10 and up by themselves, without a parent at all.

What 12 yo needs help changing?

A kid who has SN that you cannot see. I am not ok with my son being in a locker room alone, especially at a public pool. I think its a bit different with less people in a private pool but remember not everyone is going to a private pool. We go to a public pool and after swim team/lessons there is no one at the gates and anyone can just walk in.

Please see the poster immediately below this post for how a responsible parent, and person, handles this. FFS.

I am a very responsible parent which is why I supervise my kids, unlike many here. You can easily just take them home during the summer but not when its freezing out. Since I am a responsible parent we swim all year to keep up skills for water safety.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

TWELVE?!?!?!

That's absurd, and should be reported immediately.

I mean, at out pool there are tons of kids 10 and up by themselves, without a parent at all.

What 12 yo needs help changing?

A kid who has SN that you cannot see. I am not ok with my son being in a locker room alone, especially at a public pool. I think its a bit different with less people in a private pool but remember not everyone is going to a private pool. We go to a public pool and after swim team/lessons there is no one at the gates and anyone can just walk in.

Please see the poster immediately below this post for how a responsible parent, and person, handles this. FFS.

I am a very responsible parent which is why I supervise my kids, unlike many here. You can easily just take them home during the summer but not when its freezing out. Since I am a responsible parent we swim all year to keep up skills for water safety.

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Anonymous wrote:I am an older woman and have never given a second thought to a young boy in a changing room or public bathroom with me.

You do what is safest for the child.

And have none of you young women ever learned how to take off a bathing suit modestly? There is no reason to be stark naked in the process.

I’m an old woman and nope, I can’t take off my swimsuit modestly.

You move quickly with everything at hand. A towel around your neck when you lower or remove your top - then snap on the bra and shirt. Move the towel to your waist, wrap it around yourself, and step into your underwear. Drop the towel and continue to get dressed.

How does that work in the shower?

Your pool has one communal shower?! Where is this pool - in prison?!

No.

Central Park aquatic center in Manassas VA has a completely open locker room (or at least it did a few years ago when I swam there.) I am a PP that said I cancelled my membership due to school age children in the locker room when I was there. There is a womens locker room, and a mens locker room, but many mom's brought their sons into them womens locker room which made me uncomfortable because there were no stalls or curtains around the showers.

For what it's worth, another parent on one of my kid's sports team was a board member there, and I asked why they didn't have private shower areas. She told me that the center was designed around the time the whole Penn State/Larry Sandusky situation came to light, and they thought it would protect children better if there were no private stalls.

The center seemed to focus more on children's swim teams, not adult lap swim, so I figured it was better for me to just quietly discontinue my membership rather than make a stink about it.

Years ago there was an incident where a child was raped or molested, forget which in Virginia. It happens more than people want to think. I'm amazed that people drop off their 6-10/11 year olds off at the public pool/no supervision and pick them up later. I have no issue with a parent bring a child into the locker room till age 8 or so. Many have stalls you can use, ours does, or change in a corner using a towel.

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Anonymous wrote:I am an older woman and have never given a second thought to a young boy in a changing room or public bathroom with me.

You do what is safest for the child.

And have none of you young women ever learned how to take off a bathing suit modestly? There is no reason to be stark naked in the process.

I’m an old woman and nope, I can’t take off my swimsuit modestly.

You move quickly with everything at hand. A towel around your neck when you lower or remove your top - then snap on the bra and shirt. Move the towel to your waist, wrap it around yourself, and step into your underwear. Drop the towel and continue to get dressed.

How does that work in the shower?

Your pool has one communal shower?! Where is this pool - in prison?!

No.

Central Park aquatic center in Manassas VA has a completely open locker room (or at least it did a few years ago when I swam there.) I am a PP that said I cancelled my membership due to school age children in the locker room when I was there. There is a womens locker room, and a mens locker room, but many mom's brought their sons into them womens locker room which made me uncomfortable because there were no stalls or curtains around the showers.

For what it's worth, another parent on one of my kid's sports team was a board member there, and I asked why they didn't have private shower areas. She told me that the center was designed around the time the whole Penn State/Larry Sandusky situation came to light, and they thought it would protect children better if there were no private stalls.

The center seemed to focus more on children's swim teams, not adult lap swim, so I figured it was better for me to just quietly discontinue my membership rather than make a stink about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

TWELVE?!?!?!

That's absurd, and should be reported immediately.

I mean, at out pool there are tons of kids 10 and up by themselves, without a parent at all.

What 12 yo needs help changing?

A kid who has SN that you cannot see. I am not ok with my son being in a locker room alone, especially at a public pool. I think its a bit different with less people in a private pool but remember not everyone is going to a private pool. We go to a public pool and after swim team/lessons there is no one at the gates and anyone can just walk in.

Please see the poster immediately below this post for how a responsible parent, and person, handles this. FFS.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an older woman and have never given a second thought to a young boy in a changing room or public bathroom with me.

You do what is safest for the child.

And have none of you young women ever learned how to take off a bathing suit modestly? There is no reason to be stark naked in the process.

I’m an old woman and nope, I can’t take off my swimsuit modestly.

You move quickly with everything at hand. A towel around your neck when you lower or remove your top - then snap on the bra and shirt. Move the towel to your waist, wrap it around yourself, and step into your underwear. Drop the towel and continue to get dressed.

How does that work in the shower?

Your pool has one communal shower?! Where is this pool - in prison?!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an older woman and have never given a second thought to a young boy in a changing room or public bathroom with me.

You do what is safest for the child.

And have none of you young women ever learned how to take off a bathing suit modestly? There is no reason to be stark naked in the process.

I’m an old woman and nope, I can’t take off my swimsuit modestly.

You move quickly with everything at hand. A towel around your neck when you lower or remove your top - then snap on the bra and shirt. Move the towel to your waist, wrap it around yourself, and step into your underwear. Drop the towel and continue to get dressed.

How does that work in the shower?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

TWELVE?!?!?!

That's absurd, and should be reported immediately.

I mean, at out pool there are tons of kids 10 and up by themselves, without a parent at all.

What 12 yo needs help changing?

A kid who has SN that you cannot see. I am not ok with my son being in a locker room alone, especially at a public pool. I think its a bit different with less people in a private pool but remember not everyone is going to a private pool. We go to a public pool and after swim team/lessons there is no one at the gates and anyone can just walk in.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

TWELVE?!?!?!

That's absurd, and should be reported immediately.

I mean, at out pool there are tons of kids 10 and up by themselves, without a parent at all.

What 12 yo needs help changing?

Anonymous wrote:Yes, at 3.5 it is acceptable to bring him into the women's room. When my kids were little, our local pool (YMCA on the west coast) had a policy that beginning at age 4, opposite sex children could not go into the locker rooms. I thought that was extreme, especially considering this was in an area near a large military base and it was during the Iraq war, so lots of moms with little boys and no Dads around.

I do think, that if your husband (or other male relative) is around, he should take your son to the men's locker room. It does annoy me when I see a mom bringing her 12 year old son in the women's room and Dad is waiting outside.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an older woman and have never given a second thought to a young boy in a changing room or public bathroom with me.

You do what is safest for the child.

And have none of you young women ever learned how to take off a bathing suit modestly? There is no reason to be stark naked in the process.

I’m an old woman and nope, I can’t take off my swimsuit modestly.

You move quickly with everything at hand. A towel around your neck when you lower or remove your top - then snap on the bra and shirt. Move the towel to your waist, wrap it around yourself, and step into your underwear. Drop the towel and continue to get dressed.