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Anonymous wrote:The impression I got from the "those who have chosen not to be mothers" bit of the flower meme is that it is either referring to birth mothers who have given up children for adoption (albeit with odd wording) or women who have undergone an abortion. I don't think it is referring to the childfree.

Thank you for this explanation! The birth mother thing makes at least some sense. The abortion thing does not.

OP, I am bothered by it as well. There is all this pressure in society for mothers to sacrifice their time, energy, careers, own interests, bodies, etc. for their children and now we’re made to feel guilty for being celebrated one day a year. Not me. I enjoyed Mother’s Day and didn’t let them make me feel one bit guilty.

You know what other holidays are hard for people suffering from infertility and who’ve lost their mom? Christmas, Easter, Halloween, etc. Should we stop celebrating any holiday because it makes someone sad?

+1 I guess I didn’t read the “choosing not to be a mother” to be a mother who gave her baby up for adoption.

I say a lot of posts for “happy mother’s day to those with pets! You are a mother also!”

I went to lunch with a friend and both of us were given a rose. She's not a mother. i wasn'ts ure what to do with that/

Childless/free woman here, and I think the co-opting of Mother's Day and the dog cards are stupid.

Anonymous wrote:Meh. It's a Hallmark holiday. People can celebrate whatever version of motherhood they wan t

Yeah. This 'holiday' was 'invented' fairly recently. Its not official, its not affiliated with religious sect. People can do what they want with it.

I'll roll my eyes at "dog moms" but they can be whatever they want I guess

Anonymous wrote:The impression I got from the "those who have chosen not to be mothers" bit of the flower meme is that it is either referring to birth mothers who have given up children for adoption (albeit with odd wording) or women who have undergone an abortion. I don't think it is referring to the childfree.

Thank you for this explanation! The birth mother thing makes at least some sense. The abortion thing does not.

OP, I am bothered by it as well. There is all this pressure in society for mothers to sacrifice their time, energy, careers, own interests, bodies, etc. for their children and now we’re made to feel guilty for being celebrated one day a year. Not me. I enjoyed Mother’s Day and didn’t let them make me feel one bit guilty.

You know what other holidays are hard for people suffering from infertility and who’ve lost their mom? Christmas, Easter, Halloween, etc. Should we stop celebrating any holiday because it makes someone sad?

Anonymous wrote:Mom here. Who cares? It doesn’t take away from me. I woke up this morning to hugs and kisses from my kids and everyone else can do whatever makes them happy.

This. I don’t care what others do.

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit I find it bizarre to get happy Mother’s Day sentiments from anyone except my child.

The worst is getting Happy Mothers Day from random strangers when my kids aren’t even with me. That happened to me a couple times last year when I was walking back from court in a suit and it was hilarious/I wanted to punch the person. It made me take a good look on the mirror to think about what was projecting MOM to others without my kids a present.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The impression I got from the "those who have chosen not to be mothers" bit of the flower meme is that it is either referring to birth mothers who have given up children for adoption (albeit with odd wording) or women who have undergone an abortion. I don't think it is referring to the childfree.

WTF? I fully support a woman's right to choose, but maybe MOTHER'S DAY is really not the time to "celebrate" women who have had an abortion.

PP here. Just pointing out possibilities. Pretty sure that the intention is to acknowledge birth mothers, though.

I too thought it was about abortion. Now that you mention adoption, I can see that too.

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Anonymous wrote:The impression I got from the "those who have chosen not to be mothers" bit of the flower meme is that it is either referring to birth mothers who have given up children for adoption (albeit with odd wording) or women who have undergone an abortion. I don't think it is referring to the childfree.

WTF? I fully support a woman's right to choose, but maybe MOTHER'S DAY is really not the time to "celebrate" women who have had an abortion.

PP here. Just pointing out possibilities. Pretty sure that the intention is to acknowledge birth mothers, though.

It’s a holiday for women. Women tend to be considerate of other women’s feelings. Holidays can make people sad even when they are supposed to be happy holidays. Unclench and just enjoy your attention and flowers.

I haven't noticed any social media posts about celebrating people other than mothers on mother's day. And I have very liberal friends. Not sure who you are friends with OP, unless they are really sad and angry about infertility (which I was for many years, but never posted on social media about mothers day!)

I have not noticed anything like this, no.

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Anonymous wrote:
Please learn to distinguish the plural from the possessive.

And then step away from social media.

That will fix all of your problems that can be fixed.

I made a typo in the subject, and you pointed it out! So edgy of you. It seems like a lot of people agree with my original rant, maybe it hit a little too close to home for you?

Actually you made the same mistake several times in your posts, which is why I had to comment. One mistake could simply have been inattention.
As a mother of two, I really don't care who celebrates what at any time of the year, because I'm a little busy. I am also international: my family celebrates Mother's Day on a different day in my home country, and there are wildly different traditions in my other country of origin. These celebratory days are arbitrary and vary by country, culture and religion.
What's clear is that you are very aggressive tonight.
Calm down and try to enjoy the life you have. It goes by fast and you only have one!

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Anonymous wrote:It's a fake holiday.

I don't care who celebrates or how they celebrate.

[/b]All I've seen on FB today is messages from moms who've been disappointed.[b] Again, just like last year and the year before, etc. And next year they'll have the same high hopes and get let down once again. Rinse, repeat.

I'd rather see the corny "dog mom" posts and posts from the child free women than these b!tchy posts each year.

Most moms (like me) had a great day and don't feel the need to either brag or bitch on social media. Why do people feel the need to make everything so public and attention-seeking. Ugh.

Maybe you have crappy friends then? I haven't seen a single complaining post on my facebook today from a mom.

Anonymous wrote:
Please learn to distinguish the plural from the possessive.

And then step away from social media.

That will fix all of your problems that can be fixed.

I made a typo in the subject, and you pointed it out! So edgy of you. It seems like a lot of people agree with my original rant, maybe it hit a little too close to home for you?